crazy_grl Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by Merin For real? So you think it's not typical for my BF to call/text this often? I don't think it's unusual for him to talk to you for hours when he was in Japan and Korea though. He may not have had a lot of things to do or a lot of people to talk to. Plus, he didn't get to see you every day, and he probably missed you. I do think 3 calls or texts per day is more than normal. But if you don't have a problem with it, then it's perfectly fine.
Merin Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by crazy_grl I don't think it's unusual for him to talk to you for hours when he was in Japan and Korea though. He may not have had a lot of things to do or a lot of people to talk to. Plus, he didn't get to see you every day, and he probably missed you. I do think 3 calls or texts per day is more than normal. But if you don't have a problem with it, then it's perfectly fine. The Guy who's in the USMC isn't My BF any longer.. LOL I didn't think it was odd for him to call me so often when he was deployed, I did miss him like mad and it did help to stay connected to him while he was deployed. My Currant BF does call me or text me usually 3 or 4 times a day.. I guess I didn't think that was excessive or not normal/typical LOL maybe it's because He's the BF after the one in the USMC? I'm all good to go with it, and I like to hear from him... so *whew* LOL I guess i'm okkkaaaaayyy
alphamale Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by Merin My Currant BF does call me or text me usually 3 or 4 times a day.. Why in God's name would anyone want to talk with their SO 3 or 4 times per day? WTF! 3 times per wk (every other day) is more than enuf for me.
Merin Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale Why in god's name would anyone want to talk with their SO 3 or 4 times per day? WTF! 3 times per wk (every other day) is more than enuf for me. LOL I don't know? I guess it's because we don't see one another a lot during the work week.. I like that he calls or text me to say Good Morning.. I like knowing how his day is going.. that he says Good Night.. it's not like we're on the phone for more than 5 to 10 minutes for these calls/text's Seriously.. I didn't think this wasn't typical?
She_Devil Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 I hate the phone! I prefer IM...and at work we have an IM system so I don't understand why people feel the need to walk up to my desk or call me on the phone. That is why I sit at my desk, stick my headphones in my ears and ignore everyone! Some people walk up and talk to my while my headphones are on and or if I am on the phone. That is sooo freakin rude. I just act like they don't exist. YAY!
J dub Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 I am pretty much the same merin -- my bf will call me/text me and we'll talk usually 2-3 times a day. Sometimes only once, but we always stay connected to eachother and briefly exchange stories daily. It's nice to know you talk to them that much because they care so much for you, they dont NEED time "away" like alphamale. I think alpha is a lilttle bit different than most -- once every other day at the MOST? You hold your women at arms length. Are you scared of something?
mental_traveller Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 I don't like emails, phones, IM or text messages (I especially hate texts). Hello, what is wrong with talking when you are face to face? It's free and you communicate 10 times better than any other method. Unless something important crops up, why waste time and money using all these other artificial methods of communication.
Curt Posted June 29, 2005 Moderators Posted June 29, 2005 Person-to-person communication is so much better than that freakin' "talking for an hour on the phone" thing. I can't stand it. I want to see you as we talk, see your expressions, and yeah, if the situation necessitates it reach out and give ya a hug (or a good whack if you need it!!! ) Curt
Merin Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by J dub I am pretty much the same merin -- my bf will call me/text me and we'll talk usually 2-3 times a day. Sometimes only once, but we always stay connected to eachother and briefly exchange stories daily. It's nice to know you talk to them that much because they care so much for you, they dont NEED time "away" like alphamale. I think alpha is a lilttle bit different than most -- once every other day at the MOST? You hold your women at arms length. Are you scared of something? LOL Well in our case (My BF and myself) we don't see each other a lot during the week and sometimes not at all during the week.. which sucks.. BUT My BF most def needs/wants his "Alone time" with his Boys this, that, the other... so while I give that to him, I also think it's a big part of the reason he text/calls me... Eh.. I dunno..
orta Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 If there is something to talk about, I have no problems speaking to someone over the telephone, often for long periods of time. If there is nothing interesting to discuss, or I just don't feel like talking, I will say "I have to go, bye", and hang up in about thirty seconds of receiving a phone call. For the most part, I like to talk on the phone.
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by J dub I think alpha is a lilttle bit different than most -- once every other day at the MOST? You hold your women at arms length. Are you scared of something? This is probably why he's single. Every serious boyfriend I've ever had has called me at least once a day to chat for a few minutes and say I love you.
Merin Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by jen_jen_heartbroken This is probably why he's single. Every serious boyfriend I've ever had has called me at least once a day to chat for a few minutes and say I love you. LOL See I cannot imagine not talking to My BF at least once a day.. that wouldn't make me happy. It's funny because until this thread I hadn't really given it a lot of thought.. so lunch time was coming around and I was looking at my phone.. LOL good to go, he called to see how my day is going, tell me what's up with his.. discuss plans for tonite and said he'll call me when he's done with work.. LOL Swear I thought this was normal for people.. then I talk to my Dad and he says "Hell no it isn't normal for people... just for you Merin" Thinking about it now.. My BF had told me when we first started dating that he hadn't ever called anyone so much as he does me... but now I think it's almost become habit that you don't think about but miss if it's not there... Hmmm....
Mz. Pixie Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 Nah, Merin, it's normal for me in my relationship- you're not alone on that one. Maybe our BF's are just super atttentive. Funny thing is, my fiance is super busy. Basically three jobs but he still finds time to give me a quick call a couple of times a day or a text. I really wish Beth would come back to this thread. I want to know if this is the same guy she was NC with!
Merin Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by Mz. Pixie Nah, Merin, it's normal for me in my relationship- you're not alone on that one. Maybe our BF's are just super atttentive. Funny thing is, my fiance is super busy. Basically three jobs but he still finds time to give me a quick call a couple of times a day or a text. I really wish Beth would come back to this thread. I want to know if this is the same guy she was NC with! LOL For real Pix I wouldn't be happy with a call every couple of days! I don't get to see him that often during the week.. and if we were only talking a few times a week... omg LOL I would be stressing! I wish Beth would come back too... Beth?!
FolderWife Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 My sister hates the phone. My husband hates the phone. Some people don't like the phone.
Merin Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by FolderWife My sister hates the phone. My husband hates the phone. Some people don't like the phone. Hate the Phone.. Love the Caller..
Author smile95 Posted June 29, 2005 Author Posted June 29, 2005 I was not saying it was only men...I asked because that is who I have an issue with. All my girl friends love to talk. And NO I am not talking about telling him what I buy at the mall. We are Long Dist and it is usually once a day to say Good morning or good night. In fact, we never talk about me or my day-it is all about HIM. So, you jumped to many conclusions. As you said "Jesus"!!!
Mz. Pixie Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 Beth- You never answered my question- is this the same guy that you were NC with??? You had come so far in your progress...........
Author smile95 Posted June 29, 2005 Author Posted June 29, 2005 oops sorry- yes (sigh) it is.....we are not together, I am not sure what we are. Friends, he says, but nothing much is different from when we were together. The only thing positive that has happened from us talking is I realize he is not all that I thought he was and I am ok alone.
Mz. Pixie Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 Keep your boundaries and do not let yourself get sucked in again!
Author smile95 Posted June 29, 2005 Author Posted June 29, 2005 I am really trying...I tend to get my hopes up. I have to stop that. I think he likes being friends now because he does not haev an obligation to try to make it work...afterall we are just friends. So I had a post about how I wanted to with have all or nothing, but it was erased?
scarlyjones Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by beth5201 Why is it that some guys are not "phone guys" that bothers me. I can have a great conv in person with him and then on the phone it is so different? He IS on the phone all day at work and says by the end of the day, he wants to throw it out the window, but still. I guess i cannot relate since Ilove the phone! Is this a common thing for guys? To us girls,....the phone is a past-time. To guys,....its a tool. They use it to set the details, get directions, basically get needed info. Us girls use it to gossip, to tell someone "what I just heard" or "Oh my God,..you ARE NOT going to believe who I JUST saw at the mall"
Author smile95 Posted June 29, 2005 Author Posted June 29, 2005 ok so then time on the phone does not =how much someone loves/likes you.
Horse Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 I don't mind talking on the phone, but I am usually doing something else at the same time. That and the lack of body language (gestures, eye contact etc.) makes it harder for me to remain focussed on the conversation.
scarlyjones Posted June 29, 2005 Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by beth5201 ok so then time on the phone does not =how much someone loves/likes you. You're kidding, right? You didnt actually THINK that did you?
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