DC77 Posted July 13, 2016 Posted July 13, 2016 (edited) Before I can ask my question, you're going to need some back story on this one... Back in January, I sought triathlon training from a woman my ex had introduced me to at one of his triathlons. I waited until he moved away so there wasn't any crossing of paths, but it became apparent they may have dated. I checked out her FB and there was a very public breakup with someone that sounded an awfully lot like my ex. It had never even crossed my mind so I felt a bit stupefied. And hurt. And confused... I went back and forth how to handle the situation. Short of the long of it, I contacted her about it, we moved passed it, and we are still training periodically. But she never actually answered the question whether they had dated or not! So I had just resolved to the conclusion I may never know, and left it at that. 6 months ago... Fast forward to now. I've been dating a guy for about 3 weeks. So far, we're just hanging out and we get a long great. Well, we got to talking the other day about training and I brought up the gym where I train. He started asking several questions. And it turns out HE is the one she was dating and so madly in love with!! (Plus he worked out with my ex). Small friggin world!! Good news is: my ex didn't lie. They weren't dating. And she's not madly in love with my ex. I can clear that from the back of my mind. Phwew! Bad news is: Now what!?? 6 months ago she was madly in love with this dude. If this were a friend situation, no question, the guy is a no fly zone. But we aren't friends. Acquaintances at best. Yet my first instinct was, I wouldn't want to do that to her. That's just me. Then I got to thinking, if tables were turned and she were in my position, I don't think she would care what I think or how it made me feel... So here's the question. Would you continue or discontinue dating this guy given the circumstances?? Free game or no fly?? Edited July 13, 2016 by DC77
Maggie888 Posted July 13, 2016 Posted July 13, 2016 Just get a different trainer. I know lots of triathletes and they just train alone even, online, or with a buddy. Anyway thats whatd Id do -- dont use her as the trainer anymore
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