Bipolarlove Posted July 13, 2016 Posted July 13, 2016 Here is the scene: your friend that is in a serious relationship texts you back after you ask her what she is doing that day. her response: "just hanging out with the boytoy" what do you think she meant by boytoy?
AMJ Posted July 13, 2016 Posted July 13, 2016 she's talking about her boyfriend and trying to sound cool. 2
Author Bipolarlove Posted July 13, 2016 Author Posted July 13, 2016 i know the "actual" definition of it. do you think that she is using the real meaning? what would you think if you received that message? once i have a few opinions i will explain my full situation
DC77 Posted July 13, 2016 Posted July 13, 2016 don't think too hard on this one... it's just who she's dating 3
AMJ Posted July 13, 2016 Posted July 13, 2016 It's not the most respectful way to reference your boyfriend, that's for sure. For some reason she wants to look like she has the upper hand or that he doesn't matter that much to her. 3
Lady2163 Posted July 13, 2016 Posted July 13, 2016 Here is the scene: your friend that is in a serious relationship texts you back after you ask her what she is doing that day. her response: "just hanging out with the boytoy" what do you think she meant by boytoy? My initial read is she was just being sassy. I regularly teased by last male friend by calling him buttercup or sunshine. Never assign tone to text. Verify. She's probably just teasing about considering him a toy. If he is younger than she, they may use humor to deflect. 1
Author Bipolarlove Posted July 13, 2016 Author Posted July 13, 2016 i understand why you would say that.
bubbaganoosh Posted July 13, 2016 Posted July 13, 2016 Maybe she's just joking around unless your not telling us that there's more to the story.
Pennypa Posted July 13, 2016 Posted July 13, 2016 Girls love changing up their language! Boy toy, other half, snuggle bunny, cutie pie, butterball, man friend, lover boy... They're all just different ways of saying the same thing her boyfriend.
Author Bipolarlove Posted July 13, 2016 Author Posted July 13, 2016 Okay, my fiancé looked at some messages (i have nothing to hide, so its whatever) and found one where the above situation played out. He was very offended and i told him that i didn't mean it like that and he was looking too into it. i only meant it as a sort of slang word for boyfriend. i told him i didn't think anything of it when i said it but said i will never say it again because i do not think of him as just a toy. the reason i did this was so i could show him that other people wouldn't have thought that i meant that he was just a boytoy and would get that i only meant it as he is my boyfriend. i am not sure when i sent the message because when he went to show me it again we couldn't find it and i don't remember who i said it too because i have said it for years toward all my boyfriends and i have also referred to my friends boyfriends as their "boytoy"
TunaCat Posted July 13, 2016 Posted July 13, 2016 I would have just chalked it up as a joke. Don't overthink it. 1
leogirl876 Posted July 13, 2016 Posted July 13, 2016 Maybe she has a super hot boyfriend and is referring to him as the boytoy. When I've had super hot one's, that's what I've called them.
joseb Posted July 13, 2016 Posted July 13, 2016 Is he a lot younger than you? I dunno, I think the names we chose to use can sometimes say something. OP, would you be ok with him describing you as his bee- attach or his little tart or similar? If so maybe it's just your sense of humour.
stillafool Posted July 13, 2016 Posted July 13, 2016 To me it would mean I'm about to have sex with a much younger man and I'll have to talk to you later. 1
kismetkismet Posted July 13, 2016 Posted July 13, 2016 it depends on the persons humour, but if it were me or any of my friends it would literally just be a jokey/flippant way of saying we're hanging out with our boyfriend. There would be no other meaning beyond that. I jokingly refer to my boyfriend as boytoy, manfriend, bee eff, my mang, my roommate etc. My friends know I'm nuts about him, and they also know i'm nuts in general so they wouldn't think anything of it. 1
kismetkismet Posted July 13, 2016 Posted July 13, 2016 Also, your boyfriend sounds possessive and overbearing. Why on earth is he going through your messages - it doesn't matter if you don't have anything to hide, that's invasive and controlling. Also the fact that he's nitpicking every part of your conversation makes me think there's a lot more to your problem than the word 'boytoy' 2
Author Bipolarlove Posted July 18, 2016 Author Posted July 18, 2016 Well i found out two days ago hr cheated on me. Thats why he freaked out. Guilt
preraph Posted July 18, 2016 Posted July 18, 2016 I say never stay with someone without a sense of humor. All my friends said those sorts of things about and in front of their men. They liked it. If he's that sensitive, he may have some insecurity issues that could make him not much fun in the long term.
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