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Hi all! I'm looking for a bit advice. I'm currently in an amazing relationship with a woman (I'm 29 and she's 28). We're both absolutely crazy about each other, but we're facing some life changes that are making me a little trepidatious.

 

We've been seeing each other for four months, and practically been living together for three. We would move in together in a heartbeat, except she's moving out of town next month to pursue a PhD. We've both indicated that we want to continue our relationship, and have begun planning for me to find a job somewhere closer to where she'll be by the end of the coming academic year. Though we'll be able to see each other about once or twice a month, we're looking at a long distance relationship of a minimum of 7-8 months.

 

I know we love each other, but there's a part of me that would rest easier with some kind of symbol of our commitment. Is this strange? I realize it's too soon for an engagement, but I'm thinking of giving her a nice piece of jewelry to indicate the seriousness of my commitment to her. What are your guys' thoughts?

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My thoughts are that 4 months is WAY too soon to be making that kind of commitment.

 

You guys moved in together after 1 month of dating? You're nuts.

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I know we love each other, but there's a part of me that would rest easier with some kind of symbol of our commitment. Is this strange? I realize it's too soon for an engagement, but I'm thinking of giving her a nice piece of jewelry to indicate the seriousness of my commitment to her. What are your guys' thoughts?

 

I agree with PNP - too soon.

 

Look at it this way - what would the jewelry represent that a spoken agreement wouldn't cover? And conversely, were she not interested in sticking to the agreement, don't think the trinket would bind her.

 

How about a small thoughtful gift that relates to her field of study?

 

Mr. Lucky

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Or save your money for travel expenses.

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