bobding12345 Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 I've been on three dates with this girl and everything was going well. Every date she was cuddling, holding my hand and wouldn't stop staring so i decided to kiss her at the end of our last date. It was pretty awkward but i made a joke about it afterwards and she didnt seem bothered. Fast forward a couple of days and her replies to my texts have been getting slower (Sometimes 2 hours, sometimes 10 minutes, but she is normally always on her phone) and then when I asked her out again she said she would love to but she was working all week. I then just said it was a shame and would of been good to get to know her more and asked her to let me know if and when shes available and she said it will be good, and she would let me know when shes free. Am i reading too much into it and overthinking, or did i do something wrong? She doesn't seem her usual happy self and she isn't as talkative
MLP11 Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 I've been on three dates with this girl and everything was going well. Every date she was cuddling, holding my hand and wouldn't stop staring so i decided to kiss her at the end of our last date. It was pretty awkward but i made a joke about it afterwards and she didnt seem bothered. Fast forward a couple of days and her replies to my texts have been getting slower (Sometimes 2 hours, sometimes 10 minutes, but she is normally always on her phone) and then when I asked her out again she said she would love to but she was working all week. I then just said it was a shame and would of been good to get to know her more and asked her to let me know if and when shes available and she said it will be good, and she would let me know when shes free. Am i reading too much into it and overthinking, or did i do something wrong? She doesn't seem her usual happy self and she isn't as talkative I would say overthinking. Maybe she's busy with work / life? I'd either wait for her to respond or on the weekend bring it up again if she's free on Xx date. I've always learned that leaving the date times up to Girls didn't work.
Author bobding12345 Posted July 12, 2016 Author Posted July 12, 2016 I would say overthinking. Maybe she's busy with work / life? I'd either wait for her to respond or on the weekend bring it up again if she's free on Xx date. I've always learned that leaving the date times up to Girls didn't work. Yeah thats what i was hoping it was. Hopefully it is just that haha. She seems less enthusiastic with her texts though too, like i said. The first 3 weeks she would constantly reply within 5 minutes and now she doesnt
MLP11 Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 Yeah thats what i was hoping it was. Hopefully it is just that haha. She seems less enthusiastic with her texts though too, like i said. The first 3 weeks she would constantly reply within 5 minutes and now she doesnt Maybe she is, who knows. Try not to worry about it and give her some space and work on whatever you need to do. See if she responds back to you and then give it atleast 1 more shot asking her out on a date again. Make sure you wait until atleast this weekend to do so though
smackie9 Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 You keep posting the same thread...you will get pretty much the same answers. We don't know her, we can only make guesses which could cause you more anxiety. The best thing to do is ignore it, and just carry on. If there is no second date oh well, move onto the next prospect. Just the way it is. You can't sit there and beat yourself up over it. Tip: always keep your options open and stop investing so much of yourself in only one person.
Larryville Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 Smack was wondering the same thing, why post on same issue twice in recent days. I don't get this...
Author bobding12345 Posted July 12, 2016 Author Posted July 12, 2016 Maybe she is, who knows. Try not to worry about it and give her some space and work on whatever you need to do. See if she responds back to you and then give it atleast 1 more shot asking her out on a date again. Make sure you wait until atleast this weekend to do so though She replied saying that she'd tell me when she was free and I just said good and went to sleep. What should I do if she texts before the weekend? Ignore her?
MLP11 Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 She replied saying that she'd tell me when she was free and I just said good and went to sleep. What should I do if she texts before the weekend? Ignore her? You're thinking about this WAY too much. I can be guilty of being overly analytical (INTJ) and this simply puts too much stress on the other person. I've found instead of texting, calling to arrange a date works much better.
Author bobding12345 Posted July 12, 2016 Author Posted July 12, 2016 You're thinking about this WAY too much. I can be guilty of being overly analytical (INTJ) and this simply puts too much stress on the other person. I've found instead of texting, calling to arrange a date works much better. Yeah I definitely do overthink things like this, no denying it. I already text her and said to just tell me when and if she was free and she said should would with the Emoji. That's why I'm confused, one minute she takes forever to reply and replies to other people and not me and the next she is incredibly enthusiastic and replies instantly
MLP11 Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 Yeah I definitely do overthink things like this, no denying it. I already text her and said to just tell me when and if she was free and she said should would with the Emoji. That's why I'm confused, one minute she takes forever to reply and replies to other people and not me and the next she is incredibly enthusiastic and replies instantly Never ask when and if she's free. Say, let's go do XYZ on date at this time. Read this article, stop basing your happiness off some girls text you barely know: Be careful of basing your self-esteem on the speed and content of text replies
Author bobding12345 Posted July 12, 2016 Author Posted July 12, 2016 Never ask when and if she's free. Say, let's go do XYZ on date at this time. Read this article, stop basing your happiness off some girls text you barely know: Be careful of basing your self-esteem on the speed and content of text replies I only said it because it was sounding like she was trying to let me down gently anyway, i thought by saying it the ball was then in her court and she hasnt replied since anyway
kendahke Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 She replied saying that she'd tell me when she was free and I just said good and went to sleep. What should I do if she texts before the weekend? Ignore her? Why would you ignore her? Why play games? If she texts before the weekend, respond to the text. 1
Author bobding12345 Posted July 12, 2016 Author Posted July 12, 2016 Why would you ignore her? Why play games? If she texts before the weekend, respond to the text. She text asking how I am, and no I don't want to play games. I asked because I've been told by others all this about the no contact rule, take longer to reply than she did and don't text her for ages. If I text her now then she'd want a conversation about something else as she doesn't find out till the end of the week when she's free
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