Katie3 Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 I'm interested in a guy, we occasionally work in the same area, but not the same company (if that makes sense?), interact with him quite a bit, he's very quiet, but there's definitely a vibe that says he's interested. He's starting to talk to me more and more, and without giving away too much information, I was going to a free event Friday night (which will be repeating every Friday night for the remainder of the month), so I asked if he was going, and said he should come. He brought it up again later and started planning what time we'd go, etc. But he said he had a "friend" coming in from out of town, and might not be able to. He ended up asking for my number and telling me he'd text me when he knew (to me, when a guy goes "oh I have a friend and we might go out to dinner because she might be arriving by then, it screams 'hey not into you'). He texts me a few minutes later saying the "friend" from out of town is coming up for a friend in town's birthday (we both went to uni here), and they're all going out to dinner so he can't go. But then he asked if "we maybe could go this next Friday?" So...people of LS...did he reject me, or does it sound like a legitimate reason not to go to an event with a woman?
JewelD Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 No, it sounds like something just came up. If he wasn't interested, he wouldn't have suggested a new date to hang out. Now if he doesn't show up to that, he's just being a jerk.
Author Katie3 Posted July 12, 2016 Author Posted July 12, 2016 No, it sounds like something just came up. If he wasn't interested, he wouldn't have suggested a new date to hang out. Now if he doesn't show up to that, he's just being a jerk. I found out later from someone I work with, that he'd already told them earlier in the day, long before I asked, that the friend was coming up. Their response to me, "So I don't even know why he acted like he'd be able to go. He already knew she was driving up." So he tentatively said yes knowing full well the friend was in the car and on the road? And I will wait and see, and go on my own again if he says nothing. But he's had my phone number since then. If a guy was interested wouldn't find an excuse to send a text or something during the week? Even if he's quiet?
Author Katie3 Posted July 15, 2016 Author Posted July 15, 2016 Didn't really hear from him at all this week. I was like "huh well I guess he's probably not interested then, and likely won't wanna go on Friday." Last night I found out from a coworker, that apparently this guy told the coworker that months he asked for time off from his respective company, because months ago his friends were planning a lake trip for THIS weekend. And he got the time off approved finally, earlier this week. So when he said "maybe we can go next Friday??" To me last Friday night...he already knew he likely would be leaving on a trip he'd had planned for weeks this weekend. So why lie? To be nice? I definitely haven't done anything to offend him, so I don't really get it. We matched on tinder, we're friends on Facebook (his doing), Instagram (my doing) and snapchat (his doing). So I'm sure I'll get to see lots of pics of how much fun he's having this weekend :\ All and all it doesn't really matter, but I guess this is the end of the story. I definitely won't be inviting him next weekend.
smudge21 Posted July 16, 2016 Posted July 16, 2016 I'll play a little devils advocate here and suggest that maybe he is a bit interested but has made many weekend plans of late and simply isn't one to cancel them or cancel on long term friends. It sounds like someone who may have been badly burnt in the past from an ex and now is focusing more on friendships, maybe even avoiding getting too close to the opposite sex. His actions are similar to things I've done in the past to avoid similar. Even though I've liked someone and been tempted, I've worried about being involved again (I'm there right now) and getting hurt. For this reason, I've made myself super busy so that I can't date, but of course the temptation is always there if a nice girl comes along. Maybe that's him so I would make light of it and keep it cool, don't get too pushy or forward. Just be relaxed about it and maybe he'll open up or start showing interest. If nothing changes then just let it go. Just my two cents.
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