Chelli24 Posted July 11, 2016 Posted July 11, 2016 My boyfriend, and I been dating just over a year. I've been struggling with getting over my jealously, and hurt. (back ground) Now I've known my boyfriend for years! We hung out one day, and started to date. His A-ex got upset when she saw it was facebook official. I just ignored it. She's a druggie from what he says. He talked about her a bit, but I thought part of it was she kept messing him, and making comments. Such as making a sad face comment on our photo togther. And got more upset when he unfriend her. I saw a text from his other ex. She text him about how boring Her sex life is. A little back ground on their relationship. They had a short lived relationship. But it was full of sex. They broke up, but became the best of friends. She ended up wanting a baby, and he agreed to try to have one with her, but she never got pregant. Right after that I found out I was pregnant, but I ended up having a miscarriage. My parents are very old school, and didn't take the pregancy news well. I was upset, and ended up saying how it's not far to him. How they are being so hard on everything. I was hardly allowed to leave for an hour, and to prove where I was. He ended saying he's not going to leave me cause of my parents. It's not like I'm on drugs. If I was He would leave me, but with his ex he would of married her. Even with the drugs, and the only reason he's with me is because after they broke up she had sex with A guy a week later. He was going to wait by her side. So I should actally thank her for us being together. He said he didn't mean it like that. But it deeply hurt me, and made me feel I wasn't good enough. That she had his heart. With my parents being so up tight we started to fight about sex a lot. We fought about it for months! He would get upset if we didn't have sex. To him it was key to a happy relationship. I didn't want sex to me so important. It was just a plus. It made me feel it would be happier with his other ex-b. She never told him no. And everyone would be accepting it seemed if they had a baby. She had the freedom, and to where I didn't. I ended up threating to break up if things didn't change. Because I couldn't mentally handle fighting about not having sex every free second. I still feel second best to his ex's. I still feel he would be happier With them. I don't feel good enough. And as if he's settling.. I really do care about him... But I don't know to to make second best go away
basil67 Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 It seems that your relationship with your parents are a large part of the problem here. How old are you? Do you live independently? 1
dpass Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 Wait... how old are you? First off, this guy sounds like an idiot for agreeing to try and get a girl pregnant. A girl that either he wasn't even dating or only dated for a short while (having trouble understanding your grammar, or lack thereof). Second, if you are still young enough to be living at home and controlled by your parents then you have no place to be having babies. I have a suspicion that you got pregnant on purpose to try and win or keep him. Dating isn't a race or something that can be won. Third, and least important, you have different ideas on sex and that right there is the end to a relationship. He wants sex a lot you think "[sex shouldn't] be so important. It was just a plus". That will never work.
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