Jabron1 Posted July 13, 2016 Posted July 13, 2016 This must be one of the simplest fixes on LS!!! Stop wearing heels!!!! Seriously. It's not really about shoes. It's about (cheap) dominance. Presence is easier when you're bigger. Just how it is.
Author Dis Posted July 13, 2016 Author Posted July 13, 2016 Thanks for everyone's input. His height really isnt an "issue" to me. Its rather an adjustment as I'm used to dating very tall guys. I actually regret starting this thread as many posters have the wrong idea about certain things...like this relationship being a "rebound" or his height being something that makes me question having a relationship with him. Its just a whole lot of negativity. I understand why some of you might get that idea from what you've heard from me and because LS is filled with failed relationship stories...its easy to assume the worst here. But IMO life to too short to assume the worst or pass judgment on things and people that we dont know in real life. All my friends and family are super happy for me...they're excited about my new relationship. I am too. I know none of us can predict the future or control the outcome of our relationships but I'm really hopeful and I'm happy with where I'm at. I've learned alot on LS and I've come a long way since I first got here in February. Thanks to everyone whos helped me along the way Whether this relationship works or doesnt work...I'm great either way. Sometimes, when it comes to the internet...some forget they are talking to real people...not a computer screen. Some people (not everyone) kind of dehumanizes the OPs here....thats why I like to be positive and encouraging while getting my point across. I try not to make unwarrented judgments whenever possible. At the end of the day we're all in the same boat I started this thread simply because I wanted to see what other people thought about this topic...just curious. Not everything is a problem (though it usually is here, I'll admit that lol)...I was just spinning my wheels with you guys Thanks for everyone's opinions and input...I appreciate it 1
todreaminblue Posted July 13, 2016 Posted July 13, 2016 (edited) ive dated really tall guys and i have dated really short.....shorter than me.....i find with tall guys i get a crick in my neck when i kiss them and the hand holding thing feels weird....smilin...i like dating guys around my own height or just a bit taller.....i dated this 6 foot six guy he had this huge truck he drove in....i needed a crane to get up in it.....he got in fine.....really though it doesnt matter about height....i have always known its the innards that count.....they have to have good guts...lol..ahem..kidding...i actually mean soul...my man's gotta have soul...and i dont need a man to stand in front of me and protect me.....im quite capable of talking my way out of trouble and if need be defending myself...what i dont like however is a man who would leave my side in times of trouble or worse run.....i am not attracted to effeminate men at any height.....its my biggest no go zone...i like masculine men....and i dotn mean agressive i just mean not feminine in any way...and that doesnt mean he cant cry either.............i dont like scared men i feel I have to protect or defend...makes them more my kids i have to nurture than a lover and most importantly i have to feel is an equal...and none of that gutsy thing has anything to do with their height..........deb Edited July 13, 2016 by todreaminblue 1
Cinnamonstix Posted July 13, 2016 Posted July 13, 2016 (edited) I think your height difference is pretty much perfect. My guy is 5" taller too, just one inch shy of the 6" difference I prefer. They are taller enough that it feels manly, and yet short enough that it doesn't cause alignment issues during sex, looking each other in the eyes or making out while standing and walking holding hands or with one arm around the other's waist. If this works out, I predict that in time, you'll start ditching the heels (that were great for dating tall men) in favor of enjoying the natural height difference between you and your guy. And your feet will thank you. Curious, why didn't it work out 10 months ago and what led you to reconnect? Edited July 14, 2016 by Cinnamonstix 2
joseb Posted July 14, 2016 Posted July 14, 2016 I actually regret starting this thread Well, if it's made you realise you don't have a problem, then it was worth it 1
Author Dis Posted July 14, 2016 Author Posted July 14, 2016 Well, if it's made you realise you don't have a problem, then it was worth it Ya actually it has Wise words joseb And just so you know...I understand what you were saying before about giving myself time....Despite us clicking and connecting on a deep level...things are progressing pretty slowly and I'm going to keep it that way. His Mom is getting out of the hospital tomorrow and I'm busy with school so we're taking our time with this. Not living and breathing a relationship is refreshing. It just feels comfortable and relaxed. I feel at ease...if we work out or if we dont...I'm fine either way...I feel good
Author Dis Posted July 14, 2016 Author Posted July 14, 2016 I think your height difference is pretty much perfect. My guy is 5" taller too, just one inch shy of the 6" difference I prefer. They are taller enough that it feels manly, and yet short enough that it doesn't cause alignment issues during sex, looking each other in the eyes or making out while standing and walking holding hands or with one arm around the other's waist. If this works out, I predict that in time, you'll start ditching the heels (that were great for dating tall men) in favor of enjoying the natural height difference between you and your guy. And your feet will thank you. Curious, why didn't it work out 10 months ago and what led you to reconnect? Hi CS! When I first started dating him I was new to the dating scene...and I was into the bad boy type....after learning my lesson the hard way....I reconected with him...I think I took him for granted before. I'm alittle older and wiser now
funnyman7878 Posted July 15, 2016 Posted July 15, 2016 In your experiences...does the height of your partner matter all that much??? Does it become something that you dont even notice after awhile??? What are your thoughts on this subject??? I'm a guy, 5'6 also... my ex girlfriends have been 5'7, 5'1, 5'2 and most recent 5'4. None of them broke up due to height issues even though the tall ones wished I was taller but it was not a significant issue in our relationships. Heck, I wish I was taller...but then I wish I was a millionaire as well with a look like Tom Cruise You have to work with what you got, it's more about an overall aspect of how this guy makes you feel when you are with him than judging based on one thing like height. It should not, after you have deep feelings for each other these things don't really matter as the person is much more to you than just a physical body. Given all the things you have with this guy it would be downright insane to call it due to a few inches... most people struggle to find half of what is on your list so be thankful about what you got!!
Jabron1 Posted July 15, 2016 Posted July 15, 2016 Whether this relationship works or doesnt work...I'm great either way. Good girl. That's the spirit. Jabron gives his blessing 1
jen1447 Posted July 15, 2016 Posted July 15, 2016 Whenever I see this thread title I want to read it as "Magic Mike" for some reason , but "Vertically Challenged Magic Mike" doesn't really scan so I auto-correct it in my mind to "Vertically Challenged Mike." Then I wonder why Dissy would be so mean as to call her BF that. 1
Author Dis Posted July 15, 2016 Author Posted July 15, 2016 The last couple days I've been thinking about where I am in life and what it is I really need...I've gained a new perspective on things...an honest perspective Around this time last year I broke up with my ex...we were together for 2 and a half years...2 weeks after I broke up with him I started dating someone new...he sought me out...I went along with it Ever since then I've been dating non-stop. Its been a year of first dates after first dates...new relationships....break ups...repeat. I am now drained. I feel like every date I've been on and every relationship I've been in...I've given so much of myself... now I dont have anything left I put alot of unnecessary pressure on myself to find someone...partly because I felt inadequate turning 30 and being single...partly because I was ready to settle down and was determined to make that happen even though the timing wasnt right Something kind of shifted in my mind the past couple of days...I dont feel that self imposed pressure anymore...I've come to realize that I've really turned myself upside down for the last year...trying to force something to happen that wasnt meant to be. I also know that I dont have have anything left to give right now...I feel like dating has drained me. I need to recharge my batteries and focus on me. Just coming to these realizations makes me feel a sense of peace I havent felt for the past year. I feel like all the pressure and weight has been lifted. I broke up with my bf today I know many of you suggested I need time to myself...like katiegrl and joseb. I guess i just needed to figure that out on my own. But thanks for being honest with me...even though I was being stubborn and didnt want to hear it. I'm starting the nursing program in the fall. I have alot to look forward to now that I dont have all that self imposed pressure to weigh me down. Ahhh I feel like I can breathe. I know I'll meet the right person when the time is right...I'm looking forward to that. Until then I am complete, whole and happy on my own. A years worth of heartbreak, pressure, and fruitless attempts to force and control the direction of my life....is over. I finally feel clean 4
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