Vertically Challenged Magic

[Humperdinck]

Oh I dont have a complex because I'm short. I dont mind my height..I just love my heels too. I also like my body too...I have an hourglass figure..big boobs and nice butt...small waist....I'm in good shape....I work out and maintain a good weight. I'm just fine with the way I look...but like everyone, it took me awhile to get there. I always wanted to be a stick figure...no boobs or butt...now that doesnt seem appealing to me at all.

 

My mom used to tell me good things come in small packages lol

 

He looks great too. Had a very handsome face. He's in great shape...has alot of muscle on him. He's very strong and masculine...its just his height thats going to take some getting used to....but I'm just fine with that because everything else is amazing

 

I think it just might take some time to stop focusing on his height so much...I think I also need to buy shorter heels

 

Have you ever thought about working out hun? Not just for looks but its great for your health. You seem very sweet and thoughtful...I bet you have alot to offer the right girl. I bet if you put on some muscle you'd be raking in the ladies lol

I tell myself good things come in small packages - lol

[Dis]

I am 5'3'' and don't like men to be too tall. My boyfriend is 6'2'' and it's too tall. If I am bare-feet and we hug my face end up on his sternum then I look up and his embrace breaks my neck. My ex was 6'4'' and that was simply dangerous! I stopped counting how many times he accidentally hit my face with his elbow! Not talking how we were limited in the bedroom with our 13'' difference.

 

I have dated men 5'6'' and 5'7'' and it didn't take long for me to get used to it. It was quite enjoyable exchanging with someone face to face lol

 

Get down from those high heels and problem solved.

 

Thanks comforting to hear. I think you're right...I wont mind his height as some time passes

 

It is alittle awkward dating a guy thats a foot taller than yourself....esp in the bedroom...yup lol

 

I'm hoping I'll adjust quickly like you did

 

With that said...I cannot give up my heels...but I'm going to take katiegrl's advice and buy shorter ones

 

When I was at his place for the first time, I didnt have my heels on and his height bothered me much less...so shorter heels it is...maybe I'll force myself to buy a pair of flats

[katiegrl]

https://www.google.com/search?q=six+inch+wedges&espv=2&biw=1600&bih=799&tbm=isch&imgil=GH979HYzsxinoM%253A%253BNpR_ltFRNR2sTM%253Bhttp%25253A%25252F%25252Fwww.heelsforyou.com%25252Findex.php%25253Fmain_page%2525253Dindex%25252526cPath%2525253D63&source=iu&pf=m&fir=GH979HYzsxinoM%253A%252CNpR_ltFRNR2sTM%252C_&usg=__XS9U8C85Xv2jeja4YJLrpDdPMTA%3D&ved=0ahUKEwjA_ozKle_NAhUD8CYKHdk4C3kQyjcIVg&ei=O4mFV4D1KoPgmwHZ8azIBw#imgrc=GH979HYzsxinoM%3A

 

Super Cute!

 

I think I might fall over though if I wore those! lol

 

j/k

[Dis]

https://www.google.com/search?q=six+inch+wedges&espv=2&biw=1600&bih=799&tbm=isch&imgil=GH979HYzsxinoM%253A%253BNpR_ltFRNR2sTM%253Bhttp%25253A%25252F%25252Fwww.heelsforyou.com%25252Findex.php%25253Fmain_page%2525253Dindex%25252526cPath%2525253D63&source=iu&pf=m&fir=GH979HYzsxinoM%253A%252CNpR_ltFRNR2sTM%252C_&usg=__XS9U8C85Xv2jeja4YJLrpDdPMTA%3D&ved=0ahUKEwjA_ozKle_NAhUD8CYKHdk4C3kQyjcIVg&ei=O4mFV4D1KoPgmwHZ8azIBw#imgrc=GH979HYzsxinoM%3A

 

Super Cute!

 

I think I might fall over though if I wore those! lol

 

j/k

 

Yasssss!!!!! Love love love those! Right up my alley! Honestly wedges are much easier to walk in than heels. But if the heel also has a platform then they arent bad either

 

I started wearing my mom's heels when I was three..putting them on and dancing in the family room lol

 

It takes practice but it becomes second nature. Its honestly alittle weird for me to walk in flats because I'm so used to heels.

 

As other posters have mentioned...my feet are going to be in horrible condition by the time I'm 50

Edited July 13, 2016 by Disillusionment373

[katiegrl]

This is more my style... and I actually have similar (the large photo).

 

They're pretty comfortable too believe it or not.

 

4.5 inches.... which would put you at 5'5", a whole half inch shorter... woo hoo!!

 

Sexy Peep Toe Platform Stiletto Slide Mules High Heels Shoes Adult Women | eBay

Edited July 13, 2016 by katiegrl

[Dis]

This is more my style... and I actually have similar (the large photo).

 

They're pretty comfortable too believe it or not.

 

4.5 inches.... which would put you at 5'5", a whole half inch shorter... woo hoo!!

 

Sexy Peep Toe Platform Stiletto Slide Mules High Heels Shoes Adult Women | eBay

 

Oh damn those are hot!!! They're not too high but they're still high enough. Those would still elongate the legs and give good height.

 

Ok that gives me some ideas for sure. I think I'll stick with that height for heels...like 4 inches to 4.5 inches...that way he'll be a good half an inch taller haha

[No_Go]

Oh I loooved wearing heels... when I lived in NL and everything was flat and easy to walk on Then I moved and decided to try to walk on kitten heels or flats in the summer... And never looked back. Still, in the winter I like my boots to be on 3-3.5 inch heel, that's about it.

 

Honestly, it's a habit. You get used to it one way or another in 1-2 weeks.

 

Btw 6 inch heels are HUGE - is it platform on the front? I can't imagine walking on that the whole day... 6 inch wedges seem more palatable

 

Thanks comforting to hear. I think you're right...I wont mind his height as some time passes

 

It is alittle awkward dating a guy thats a foot taller than yourself....esp in the bedroom...yup lol

 

I'm hoping I'll adjust quickly like you did

 

With that said...I cannot give up my heels...but I'm going to take katiegrl's advice and buy shorter ones

 

When I was at his place for the first time, I didnt have my heels on and his height bothered me much less...so shorter heels it is...maybe I'll force myself to buy a pair of flats

[Dark Horse]

 

Have you ever thought about working out hun? Not just for looks but its great for your health. You seem very sweet and thoughtful...I bet you have alot to offer the right girl. I bet if you put on some muscle you'd be raking in the ladies lol

 

 

To Do List:

 

Put on some muscles.

 

Eat like a king to put on some muscles.

 

Get better with talking to women

 

Don't give up despite rejection

 

 

 

 

 

Alright i'm off on my journey. Wish me luck. Oh yeah thank you

[mizunomead]

ahhh yes, women and heels lol. the gal im dating now is about 5'7" i believe. she told me she was very stoked about the heels options now dating me lol. im 6'3"

[katiegrl]

Nevermind his height...how big are his feet? lol

[LookAtThisPOst]

Heels are the reason many women will not date short men.

Many women like a 6" difference between them and their partner.

At 5'1" she is 5' 6-7" in heels, so she needs a guy at 6' to look right.

Short girls often wear big heels to look a normal height, so although she is only 5'1" she is essentially 5'6 as she wears big heels a lot.

She therefore doesn't want a guy to look like he is the same height as her, so wants a man who is at least 5'10.

 

To "look right"? Put simply, they're shallow. I can excuse a taller woman ie - 5'8" 5'10, and taller for wanting to date a tall man. But petite ladies?

[katiegrl]

Dis, how did you meet him?

 

I'm wondering how you ever managed to get together in the first place.... knowing how you feel about how tall he is.

 

I dunno hun, knowing you as I do, this may get worse instead of better.

 

I hope not!!!!

 

Especially if the connection as you described in your original post gets stronger, more intense...

[Eternal Sunshine]

To "look right"? Put simply, they're shallow. I can excuse a taller woman ie - 5'8" 5'10, and taller for wanting to date a tall man. But petite ladies?

 

The problem is that for us taller women (I'm 5'8") height is a necessity. When petite ladies take all the tall guys, we don't have much left. If I was 5'1", I would be thrilled with someone that is 5'6".

[katiegrl]

What are you suggesting

 

Do I *really* need to spell it out for ya? Lol.

[Dis]

Dis, how did you meet him?

 

I'm wondering how you ever managed to get together in the first place.... knowing how you feel about how tall he is.

 

I dunno hun, knowing you as I do, this may get worse instead of better.

 

I hope not!!!!

 

Especially if the connection as you described in your original post gets stronger, more intense...

 

Ehh that doesnt sound too positive Katie...but seeing as my last two relationships failed I guess one could assume this one will too...but one could also assume this could be the one that works

 

Everyone has to go through failed relationships before one sticks

 

My first relationship I posted about here was with a love bomber...this guy isnt one. We only see each other once or twice a week....he's not over the top the way that guy was...when we're together our connection is very strong but we both dont live it and breathe it 24/7

 

My last relationship was great at first....no red flags...we just werent compatible and that became clear with time...cant do much about that

 

I think you're pretty quick to assume this wont work. I dont feel great about you saying that..I dont think its a fair assumption. I've always appreciated your advice so much and for the most part always agreed with you...I just think your jumping to an unfair conclusion here...kinda makes me feel bad....like I'm doomed to fail or something

[katiegrl]

I was just messing around.

 

So was I.... back at ya.

[Dis]

And we met online about 10 months ago

[Dis]

Everyone has failed relationships - that's how you learn what you actually want. You should be optimistic

 

Thanks Humperdinck I am optimistic...I just dont want people to assume my current relationship wont work because my last 2 didnt...I dont think thats fair....certainly not encouraging either

 

Theres no way I can be sure things will work out with this guy...all I can do is learn from my past relationships and apply that info to this current one. I think I'm doing great at it so far...esp compared to where I was at back in february...I think I've come leaps and bounds since then

[katiegrl]

Ehh that doesnt sound too positive Katie...but seeing as my last two relationships failed I guess one could assume this one will too...but one could also assume this could be the one that works

 

Everyone has to go through failed relationships before one sticks

 

My first relationship I posted about here was with a love bomber...this guy isnt one. We only see each other once or twice a week....he's not over the top the way that guy was...when we're together our connection is very strong but we both dont live it and breathe it 24/7

 

My last relationship was great at first....no red flags...we just werent compatible and that became clear with time...cant do much about that

 

I think you're pretty quick to assume this wont work. I dont feel great about you saying that..I dont think its a fair assumption. I've always appreciated your advice so much and for the most part always agreed with you...I just think your jumping to an unfair conclusion here...kinda makes me feel bad....like I'm doomed to fail or something

 

Fair enough, I'm just concerned, not cuz your two previous didn't work out, but because you haven't even been dating two weeks, and you're already on here commenting on/concerned about his height.

 

I just hope you *can* move past it... cuz stuff like this has a way of creeping up on you... and before you know it, you are turned off, and the whole relationship goes up in smoke.

 

Please try to work through it Dis..... sounds like you have found something very special with this man (from what you described in your initial post).

 

Mind over matter!!

 

ETA:. Apologies for offending ...that is never my intention.

Edited July 13, 2016 by katiegrl

[Dis]

Fair enough, I'm just concerned, not cuz your two previous didn't work out, but because you haven't even been dating two weeks, and you're already on here commenting on/concerned about his height.

 

I just hope you *can* move past it... cuz stuff like this has a way of creeping up on you... and before you know it, you are turned off, and the whole relationship goes up in smoke.

 

Please try to work through it Dis..... sounds like you have found something very special with this man (from what you described in your initial post).

 

Mind over matter!!

 

I see what your saying.

 

But I mean...its his height...not his communication or something important

 

I started this thread not because I was overly concered about his height but to talk about it and see what other people thought of the whole height topic

 

Now I feel like I jinxed this relationship by starting this thread

[AMJ]

Two of my friends married men who are several inches shorter regardless of heels. They're both 5'9''...seriously when it's the right guy, his height doesn't matter. I get you on wanting a taller guy. But your guy IS taller. You just don't get to wear 6 inch heels anymore. I promise you, you can find tons of super cute, super sexy 3 inch heels. You can have the heels and the great guy= win/win.

[katiegrl]

Just me, but when a man is confident and has a strong, take-charge, assertive personality (which is what I like), I wouldn't care if he was a couple inches shorter than me!

 

In fact, I dated a man 5'8", and when I wore the 4.5 inch heels, I towered over him by 2.5 inches.

 

I didn't care and neither did he..... he thought I looked hot! I thought HE looked hot!!

 

Prince was only 5'2" and his personality was larger than life!!!

 

No one, including the women he dated, gave a crap about his height .

Edited July 13, 2016 by katiegrl

[King Me]

Rebound + preoccupation with his height is likely to be a serious impediment to all this magic.

[introverted1]

I'm dating a guy exclusively and it is magic...

 

We connect on the deepest level mentally/physically/spiritually/emotionally

 

We go from having the most in depth conversations about difficult topics...to discovering we have everything in common (even weird little things most people dont know about)...to ripping each others clothes off in the most passionate way possible....to debating religious views and coming to a shared common ground...to laughing our a**es off about stupid things. He treats me like a queen.

 

If all of the above is actually true, it's hard for me to understand how his height could be an issue.

 

Like I said its magic...no need to think or worry...its just magic

 

So why are you worrying?

[AGirlCalledFriday]

I'm 5'1'' and I actually prefer shorter guys. I have dated guys who were 6' all the way to 6'5'' and I felt like a little kid next to them. Kissing, dancing, hugging...everything was more awkward but with a shorter man? WOW. Everything seems to fit so much better. Open yourself up to it and you may find the same.