Humperdinck Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 Thats what I would imagine too...yes his height might not be ideal...but def not a dealbreaker and over time I'd probably stop caring about it or think his height was endearing or something....that makes perfect sense. Considering everything else that is 100% amazing...his height is a very small factor in all this I remember my ex that I was with for 2 and a half years...he was very very tall...lots of muscle...but his face wasnt very handsome. Overtime as I fell for him I couldve cared less about his face. Makes sense now. Thanks MsBee No one is perfect and you sound smitten 1
Author Dis Posted July 12, 2016 Author Posted July 12, 2016 No one is perfect and you sound smitten Thats very true and ya I'm pretty psyched about him! 1
Humperdinck Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 Thats very true and ya I'm pretty psyched about him! Then proceed onward (I say that as a man of 5'8") 1
Author Dis Posted July 12, 2016 Author Posted July 12, 2016 Then proceed onward (I say that as a man of 5'8") I'm glad to do so! I'm looking forward to where this is going Thanks hun! :bunny: 1
Humperdinck Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 I'm glad to do so! I'm looking forward to where this is going Thanks hun! :bunny: You bet (not that you needed the help) 1
joseb Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 I tried to wear shorter heels...they were only 2 inches!!! So I returned them...but yes I think I'll try 4 inch heels There you go - told you it was an easy fix I must admit as I guy I have no idea how or why anyone would want to walk around in heels, but hey! 2
Author Dis Posted July 12, 2016 Author Posted July 12, 2016 There you go - told you it was an easy fix I must admit as I guy I have no idea how or why anyone would want to walk around in heels, but hey! "Flats are for quitters"- 30 Rock Haha 1
ashy555 Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 I am just on 6 ft tall, so usually only date men my height or taller as i feel huge otherwise . At the moment I am dating a guy who is about 6 foot 5 and its quite nice. Honestly at 5 foot 1, and 5 foot 7.. That is NOTHING. He is a good half a foot taller than you. It does kind of bug me when shorter people complain about men under 6 foot as they have it easy haha It is just an adjustment. You will get used to it. 2
Author Dis Posted July 12, 2016 Author Posted July 12, 2016 I am just on 6 ft tall, so usually only date men my height or taller as i feel huge otherwise . At the moment I am dating a guy who is about 6 foot 5 and its quite nice. Honestly at 5 foot 1, and 5 foot 7.. That is NOTHING. He is a good half a foot taller than you. It does kind of bug me when shorter people complain about men under 6 foot as they have it easy haha It is just an adjustment. You will get used to it. Lol good point. Most guys are about 5'9 so I bet you have a tough time finding one taller than you. Since I've started this thread I've realized how small the height issue is for me. I think I was just focusing on it too much. I dont think it'll be a hard adjustment to make Hope everything works out with you and your man hun! 1
Els Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 (edited) Dont get me wrong I'm very short..only 5'1 but I always wear 6 inch heels or wedges What are your thoughts on this subject??? My first thought is that you're going to be giving yourself some killer bunions, hammertoes, and knee/back problems down the road if you're literally wearing 6 inch heels ALL the time... My second thought is that I'm 5'1" and with a guy who's 5'7". It's perfect IMO - not too big a height difference but he's still substantially taller than me. I was with someone who was 5'11" before and that posed a number of difficulties. Awkward taking photos together, couldn't get high up enough to peck him on the cheek, even holding hands while walking was a challenge! Then again, I don't wear 6" heels all the time... Edited July 12, 2016 by Elswyth 5
joseb Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 My first thought is that you're going to be giving yourself some killer bunions, hammertoes, and knee/back problems down the road if you're literally wearing 6 inch heels ALL the time... Haha - yeah that was my thought too! My only point of reference is that I got knee and back issues using running shoes with a 12mm (1/2 inch!!) heel-toe differential - since ive changed to a 4mm I'm cured! 1
LookAtThisPOst Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 (edited) I'm dating a guy exclusively and it is magic... We connect on the deepest level mentally/physically/spiritually/emotionally We go from having the most in depth conversations about difficult topics...to discovering we have everything in common (even weird little things most people dont know about)...to ripping each others clothes off in the most passionate way possible....to debating religious views and coming to a shared common ground...to laughing our a**es off about stupid things. He treats me like a queen. Like I said its magic...no need to think or worry...its just magic I am used to dating guys that are at least 6ft tall (1.8 meters)...and this guy is only 5'6 (1.7 meters) Dont get me wrong I'm very short..only 5'1 but I always wear 6 inch heels or wedges This is not an issue that would ever stop be from dating him of course...its just a big adjustment as I'm used to guys towering over me....whereas he's so dam* short in my eyes...again height isnt a deal breaker to me...esp when I have such a strong connection with someone...this is just a really tough adjustment that I tend to hyper focus on In your experiences...does the height of your partner matter all that much??? Does it become something that you dont even notice after awhile??? What are your thoughts on this subject??? I get a kick out of women that short and STILL will only date men over 6 feet tall, "because I wear heels." Since when did heels factor into it? You're 5'1", pretty much ALL men are tall to a woman of that height. In a sense, you're actually compatible with short men. Short men are probably more at liberty to ask you out because you're a tiny woman. Just makes sense. Edited July 12, 2016 by LookAtThisPOst
Els Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 Haha - yeah that was my thought too! My only point of reference is that I got knee and back issues using running shoes with a 12mm (1/2 inch!!) heel-toe differential - since ive changed to a 4mm I'm cured! This infographic sums it up quite well: Medical Daily
elaine567 Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 I get a kick out of women that short and STILL will only date men over 6 feet tall, "because I wear heels." Since when did heels factor into it? Heels are the reason many women will not date short men. Many women like a 6" difference between them and their partner. At 5'1" she is 5' 6-7" in heels, so she needs a guy at 6' to look right. Short girls often wear big heels to look a normal height, so although she is only 5'1" she is essentially 5'6 as she wears big heels a lot. She therefore doesn't want a guy to look like he is the same height as her, so wants a man who is at least 5'10. 1
serial muse Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 Heels are the reason many women will not date short men. Many women like a 6" difference between them and their partner. At 5'1" she is 5' 6-7" in heels, so she needs a guy at 6' to look right. Short girls often wear big heels to look a normal height, so although she is only 5'1" she is essentially 5'6 as she wears big heels a lot. She therefore doesn't want a guy to look like he is the same height as her, so wants a man who is at least 5'10. Interesting. As a 5'6" woman, I have dated guys who were 6" taller than me, but more often than not I dated guys closer to my own height (including an exH who was an inch or two shorter than me). My H now is around 5'9"-5'10". Honestly I don't really get the need to have someone so much bigger towering over me. Maybe it's because I didn't grow up feeling tiny so don't have that compensation issue. But yeah, like LATP said, I thought that's what the giant heels were for anyway. (Also, frankly, I hate heels! Never wear 'em, except perhaps to a rare dressy event. I like to walk too much.) 3
katiegrl Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 "Flats are for quitters"- 30 Rock Haha Hey!!!! Lol I resent that statement! I love my super cute ballet flats! Especially with my low-rise faded blues and favorite tee! And I ain't no quitter!
Author Dis Posted July 12, 2016 Author Posted July 12, 2016 Heels are the reason many women will not date short men. Many women like a 6" difference between them and their partner. At 5'1" she is 5' 6-7" in heels, so she needs a guy at 6' to look right. Short girls often wear big heels to look a normal height, so although she is only 5'1" she is essentially 5'6 as she wears big heels a lot. She therefore doesn't want a guy to look like he is the same height as her, so wants a man who is at least 5'10. Ya this is kind of where my head is at...well said. But like I said its not a deal breaker...I just prefer a guy who is taller than me even when I have my heels on. It just feels wierd bcuz I'm so used to dating guys who are at least 6ft tall...so when I stand next to him with my heels on we're the same height and that feels alittle off I think its just an adjustment though...No one is perfect and if his height is really the only issue I see with him...I'm happy to proceed...he really is an amazing guy and it seems like we're extremly compatible so far I just need to find a way to stop fixating on his height
Author Dis Posted July 12, 2016 Author Posted July 12, 2016 My first thought is that you're going to be giving yourself some killer bunions, hammertoes, and knee/back problems down the road if you're literally wearing 6 inch heels ALL the time... My second thought is that I'm 5'1" and with a guy who's 5'7". It's perfect IMO - not too big a height difference but he's still substantially taller than me. I was with someone who was 5'11" before and that posed a number of difficulties. Awkward taking photos together, couldn't get high up enough to peck him on the cheek, even holding hands while walking was a challenge! Then again, I don't wear 6" heels all the time... I def hear you. If I didnt wear heels al the time...I'd feel better about his height....its still not a deal breaker though...just an adjustment And you're def spot on when it comes to short women dating really tall guys...it can be awkward...esp during sex (the guy is on top) and your face in burried in their chest bcuz of the massive height difference lol...ya thats awkward lol
Dark Horse Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 OP I know what it's like to be short guy, i'm not really offended or anything. I just think it's something that you may have to get used to since you're used to dating taller guys. It'd be the same thing if I were dating a fat girl because that's just not what i'm used to or not really attracted to either.
Author Dis Posted July 12, 2016 Author Posted July 12, 2016 Hey!!!! Lol I resent that statement! I love my super cute ballet flats! Especially with my low-rise faded blues and favorite tee! And I ain't no quitter! Girly you're 5'6... you're good to go with flats Try being 5'1...I just dont feel right without my heels because I'm so short
Dark Horse Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 (edited) Girly you're 5'6... you're good to go with flats Try being 5'1...I just dont feel right without my heels because I'm so short Being a short girl isn't that bad to be honest. Attraction-wise, the height of a woman wont affect her attractiveness. If anything, your short stature (and slim build if you have one) would actually be a turn on to a good portion of guys. This is in contrast to men where being short and small (like me) is considered a turn off for a sizeable chunk of women. If your height is an issue because you believe people are treating you less with respect, then that's understandable. People often associate size with power. But you know what else people associate with status and power? Confidence, knowledge, charistma etc... So you can make up for your lack of height by compensating in other areas to give you more power and authority. Also at 5 ft 1, you're the equivalent of a 5 ft 6 male. (to calculate, if you're female take your height and add 5 inches or in the case of you being a male, subtract by 5 inches) This is an estimate of what your height would be if you were born the opposite sex. You and your boyfriend are about the same height if you use these calculations. So even though you're short, you're not THAT short. You're about in the 10th percentile, not too shabby. You may meet a dozen or so girls around your height. Try being in the 1th percentile, (in your case, that means you would be 4 ft 10 inches tall) but hey far worse things in life right? Edited July 12, 2016 by Dark Horse 1
Shining One Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 It just feels wierd bcuz I'm so used to dating guys who are at least 6ft tall...so when I stand next to him with my heels on we're the same height and that feels alittle offIt's just an adjustment that will take some time. You'll stop thinking about it. At one point, I was used to dating women who were thinner than me. Then I dated one who wasn't. It took a little time, but I got used to it and now it's no longer an issue for me. 1
katiegrl Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 Girly you're 5'6... you're good to go with flats Try being 5'1...I just dont feel right without my heels because I'm so short Sweetie I was joking with ya.... just playin.. 1
Gaeta Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 I am 5'3'' and don't like men to be too tall. My boyfriend is 6'2'' and it's too tall. If I am bare-feet and we hug my face end up on his sternum then I look up and his embrace breaks my neck. My ex was 6'4'' and that was simply dangerous! I stopped counting how many times he accidentally hit my face with his elbow! Not talking how we were limited in the bedroom with our 13'' difference. I have dated men 5'6'' and 5'7'' and it didn't take long for me to get used to it. It was quite enjoyable exchanging with someone face to face lol Get down from those high heels and problem solved. 3
Author Dis Posted July 13, 2016 Author Posted July 13, 2016 Being a short girl isn't that bad to be honest. Attraction-wise, the height of a woman wont affect her attractiveness. If anything, your short stature (and slim build if you have one) would actually be a turn on to a good portion of guys. This is in contrast to men where being short and small (like me) is considered a turn off for a sizeable chunk of women. Oh I dont have a complex because I'm short. I dont mind my height..I just love my heels too. I also like my body too...I have an hourglass figure..big boobs and nice butt...small waist....I'm in good shape....I work out and maintain a good weight. I'm just fine with the way I look...but like everyone, it took me awhile to get there. I always wanted to be a stick figure...no boobs or butt...now that doesnt seem appealing to me at all. My mom used to tell me good things come in small packages lol He looks great too. Had a very handsome face. He's in great shape...has alot of muscle on him. He's very strong and masculine...its just his height thats going to take some getting used to....but I'm just fine with that because everything else is amazing I think it just might take some time to stop focusing on his height so much...I think I also need to buy shorter heels Have you ever thought about working out hun? Not just for looks but its great for your health. You seem very sweet and thoughtful...I bet you have alot to offer the right girl. I bet if you put on some muscle you'd be raking in the ladies lol 1
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