Vertically Challenged Magic

[Dis]

I'm dating a guy exclusively and it is magic...

 

We connect on the deepest level mentally/physically/spiritually/emotionally

 

We go from having the most in depth conversations about difficult topics...to discovering we have everything in common (even weird little things most people dont know about)...to ripping each others clothes off in the most passionate way possible....to debating religious views and coming to a shared common ground...to laughing our a**es off about stupid things. He treats me like a queen.

 

Like I said its magic...no need to think or worry...its just magic

 

I am used to dating guys that are at least 6ft tall (1.8 meters)...and this guy is only 5'6 (1.7 meters)

 

Dont get me wrong I'm very short..only 5'1 but I always wear 6 inch heels or wedges

 

This is not an issue that would ever stop be from dating him of course...its just a big adjustment as I'm used to guys towering over me....whereas he's so dam* short in my eyes...again height isnt a deal breaker to me...esp when I have such a strong connection with someone...this is just a really tough adjustment that I tend to hyper focus on

 

In your experiences...does the height of your partner matter all that much???

 

Does it become something that you dont even notice after awhile???

 

What are your thoughts on this subject???

Edited July 11, 2016 by Disillusionment373

[jen1447]

Dont get me wrong I'm very short..only 5'1 but I always wear 6 inch heels or wedges

 

Really?? Wow, vavavoom.

 

5-6 vs 5-1 is fine. I command you to stop worrying about it.

[basil67]

I'm dating a guy exclusively and it is magic...

 

We connect on the deepest level mentally/physically/spiritually/emotionally

 

We go from having the most in depth conversations about difficult topics...to discovering we have everything in common (even weird little things most people dont know about)...to ripping each others clothes off in the most passionate way possible....to debating religious views and coming to a shared common ground...to laughing our a**es off about stupid things. He treats me like a queen.

 

Like I said its magic...no need to think or worry...its just magic

 

I am used to dating guys that are at least 6ft tall (1.8 meters)...and this guy is only 5'6 (1.7 meters)

 

Dont get me wrong I'm very short..only 5'1 but I always wear 6 inch heels or wedges

 

This is not an issue that would ever stop be from dating him of course...its just a big adjustment as I'm used to guys towering over me....whereas he's so dam* short in my eyes...again height isnt a deal breaker to me...esp when I have such a strong connection with someone...this is just a really tough adjustment that I tend to hyper focus on

 

In your experiences...does the height of your partner matter all that much???

 

Does it become something that you dont even notice after awhile???

 

What are your thoughts on this subject???

 

I've generally dated guys who were around my height. Height doesn't rate a second thought in my book

[lana-banana]

I'm like you. I'm 5'1" and when I was starting out I only felt attracted to guys who were at least six feet tall. I don't know why; my joking explanation was that nature wanted my children to have a chance in life.

 

At one point I was pursued by a guy who was all of 5'5". He was so funny, charming, witty and confident I didn't even have time to think about his height. It didn't work out between us but since then I've never known or cared how tall a man is. My current boyfriend is about 5'7" and I wouldn't trade him for the world. A male friend of mine who's 5'4" is married to a woman who's 5'11" and she utterly adores him. It doesn't look weird, nobody says anything, no one cares. Height only matters if you want it to.

[Dis]

I'm like you. I'm 5'1" and when I was starting out I only felt attracted to guys who were at least six feet tall. I don't know why; my joking explanation was that nature wanted my children to have a chance in life.

 

At one point I was pursued by a guy who was all of 5'5". He was so funny, charming, witty and confident I didn't even have time to think about his height. It didn't work out between us but since then I've never known or cared how tall a man is. My current boyfriend is about 5'7" and I wouldn't trade him for the world. A male friend of mine who's 5'4" is married to a woman who's 5'11" and she utterly adores him. It doesn't look weird, nobody says anything, no one cares. Height only matters if you want it to.

 

You're spot on. I've always been attracted to tall guys...but its not like I'm not attracted to shorter guys...his height is just alittle bit of an adjustment. I dont want it to matter....I just cant help but see it because I'm so used to taller guys....I dont know how to put it out of my mind

 

Maybe its like you said...once we date for awhile height wont be an issue...I can see how that works

[TheBathWater]

It sounds like an issue to me; otherwise you wouldn't be on here.

 

1. Your post suggests what you really care about is what other people think, and not of him, but of YOU for being with him.

 

2. The language you use ("Vertically Challenged) suggests you see him and his height as "challenged" and at a disadvantage

 

3. You might want to think about which one of your height you are really hung up on.

[Dis]

It sounds like an issue to me; otherwise you wouldn't be on here.

 

1. Your post suggests what you really care about is what other people think, and not of him, but of YOU for being with him.

 

2. The language you use ("Vertically Challenged) suggests you see him and his height as "challenged" and at a disadvantage

 

3. You might want to think about which one of your height you are really hung up on.

 

None of the three suggestions were correct, neither was the opening sentence lol. I'm just looking for other opinions on this type of thing. I used vertically challenged in a funny way. But thanks for your reply none the less

Edited July 12, 2016 by Disillusionment373

[phineas]

i'm 5'8" if a woman is insecure about being taller than me in or out of heels that's her problem.

I'm hung like a 6 footer anyway so I got no issues.

[Dis]

i'm 5'8" if a woman is insecure about being taller than me in or out of heels that's her problem.

I'm hung like a 6 footer anyway so I got no issues.

 

Its not that I'm insecure about anything its just that its a big adjustment going from dating 6ft tall guys to a guy on the shorter side. Its alittle foreign to me...but its not necessarily a bad thing at all

 

And he seems like he's going to be great in bed too...hes very masculine and agressive and I like that. He def takes charge. Lots of passion between us.

 

Just have to get used to his height

[phineas]

Its not that I'm insecure about anything its just that its a big adjustment going from dating 6ft tall guys to a guy on the shorter side. Its alittle foreign to me...but its not necessarily a bad thing at all

 

And he seems like he's going to be great in bed too...hes very masculine and agressive and I like that. He def takes charge. Lots of passion between us.

 

Just have to get used to his height

 

OK.

I primarily date white women but women of other races have lately been showing interest in me.

I find them attractive and don't care what their race is but it does feel weird being out on a date with them as if everyone is looking at me?

 

Which is weird because I don't bat an eye when I see mixed couples out so I guess I do understand what you mean now.

[Dis]

OK.

I primarily date white women but women of other races have lately been showing interest in me.

I find them attractive and don't care what their race is but it does feel weird being out on a date with them as if everyone is looking at me?

 

Which is weird because I don't bat an eye when I see mixed couples out so I guess I do understand what you mean now.

 

Good comparison. Theres nothing wrong with dating a shorter guy or a woman who doesnt share your race. Its just different. I think we as humans are kind of creatures of habit...once we get used to something we tend to gravitate towards it...so stepping outside that box takes some getting used to

 

You're attracted to these women...and I'm attracted to this guy regardless of what we're used to

 

Dont pay attention to what other people think of your dates...I dont care what other people think of my man's height. My opinion is the only one that matters....same with yours

[SevenCity]

Good comparison. Theres nothing wrong with dating a shorter guy or a woman who doesnt share your race. Its just different. I think we as humans are kind of creatures of habit...once we get used to something we tend to gravitate towards it...so stepping outside that box takes some getting used to

 

You're attracted to these women...and I'm attracted to this guy regardless of what we're used to

 

Dont pay attention to what other people think of your dates...I dont care what other people think of my man's height. My opinion is the only one that matters....same with yours

 

Well things with the tall guys didn't work out so well, did they?

 

I've always preferred very thin women and find myself not happy with heavy women. I won't date them (seriously) as a result. It seems that you don't have my hang up so just go with this. If it does bother you that much then break it off.

 

I've heard of many women marrying guys who were not their typical type.

[Dis]

Well things with the tall guys didn't work out so well, did they?

 

I've always preferred very thin women and find myself not happy with heavy women. I won't date them (seriously) as a result. It seems that you don't have my hang up so just go with this. If it does bother you that much then break it off.

 

I've heard of many women marrying guys who were not their typical type.

 

Actually besides his height he is very much my type. He's very Italian looking...dark features...scruffy short beard...lots of good muscle.

 

He's just very short compared to what I'm used to

 

I'd like to find a way to not focus on his height so much

[katiegrl]

I'm dating a guy exclusively and it is magic...

 

We connect on the deepest level mentally/ physically/ spiritually/ emotionally.

 

This has nothing to do with height.... but sweetness.... you just ended your previous RL a couple of weeks ago.

 

Don't mean to be a negative nellie here but slow down a bit.. k?

 

How long have you been dating him, a week or two?

 

Give it a little time hun... you were very excited about your previous too in the very beginning.

 

He could very well be your soulmate (if there is such a thing)... and I hope he is!!... but give it some time before you start declaring how magical it is....

 

On the height thing.... oh who cares. If you're attracted to him, and there is magical chemistry.... does it really matter?

 

I am 5'6" and I see lots of very attractive guys around my height and if I had the opportunity, I would date them in a second!

[Dis]

This has nothing to do with height.... but sweetness.... you just ended your previous RL a couple of weeks ago.

 

Don't mean to be a negative nellie here but slow down a bit.. k?

 

How long have you been dating him, a week or two?

 

Give it a little time hun... you were very excited about your previous too in the very beginning.

 

He could very well be your soulmate (if there is such a thing)... and I hope he is!!... but give it some time before you start declaring how magical it is....

 

On the height thing.... oh who cares. If you're attracted to him, and there is magical chemistry.... does it really matter?

 

I am 5'6" and I see lots of very attractive guys around my height and if I had the opportunity, I would date them in a second!

 

Hey girly!

 

Isnt the beginning of a relationship supposed to give you a rush and make you feel all excited?

 

And I know we've only been dating for alittle bit but that makes our connection much more special because its so deep already

 

And I'm not here declaring that he's the one...I've come to learn things can change in a heart beat so I'm living in the present...which was always very tough for me to do...but seems easy now

 

But I am really excited and dont want to hide that

 

We could break up tomorrow...I could change my mind...he could change his but after everything with my most recent ex...I've learned to enjoy the present...no overthinking or worrying...I feel great. No matter what the future holds for me...whether he's in it or not...I'm just fine

 

All I'm saying with this thread is its different dating a guy who's almost a foot shorter than the guys I'm used to dating....its alittle wierd...not bad...just wierd...and I'm just looking for peoples opinions

 

Also I just want to say, I hope your feeling ok. You seem alittle down lately hun

Edited July 12, 2016 by Disillusionment373

[joseb]

 

Dont get me wrong I'm very short..only 5'1 but I always wear 6 inch heels or wedges

 

 

This must be one of the simplest fixes on LS!!!

 

Stop wearing heels!!!!

 

Seriously.

 

However, I concur with Katie - didn't you just break up with someone?

 

Personally I need about 6 months after any relationship that meant anything, longer for really serious ones.

[Dis]

This must be one of the simplest fixes on LS!!!

 

Stop wearing heels!!!!

 

Seriously.

 

However, I concur with Katie - didn't you just break up with someone?

 

Personally I need about 6 months after any relationship that meant anything, longer for really serious ones.

 

 

As for my previous relationship...everyone has different needs when it comes to healing from a past relationship.

 

Honestly, I grieved the loss of my last relationship during the the last month I was in it....meaning, I knew it was ending long before it actually did...so by the time I ended it...I was fine. Didnt cry once.

 

One size does not fit all when it comes to relationships or break ups

 

As for the heels.. I love my heels/wedges so I'm not giving those up lol I actually tried out shorter heels and hated them so they were promptly returned

 

I wish I felt more comfortable wearing flats but I dont...the only flats I have are my sneakers I wear to the gym lol

[frus69]

I'm not concerned with height, I'm rather concerned with you jumping from one relationship to another. Normally, people need some time off between relationships to sort themselves out. I hardly see any rebound relationships work

[Dis]

I'm not concerned with height, I'm rather concerned with you jumping from one relationship to another. Normally, people need some time off between relationships to sort themselves out. I hardly see any rebound relationships work

 

It's not a rebound...[]

Edited July 12, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[joseb]

It's not a rebound...[]

 

Dis, people are all different, but I think you are kidding yourself if you think you can just bounce back that quickly.

 

I know I did kid myself in the past. I'm not saying you need to be wallowing in self pity or crying, but I really do not think its possible to just go straight into another relationship after anything moderately serious.

I know in my case I grieved my old one for the last 3 months of it at least, but that didn't mean I was ready to meet other people with a clear head. I felt I was, sure, but I knew from past experience I wasn't.

 

Just consider taking some time being single.

Edited July 12, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[Dis]

Dis, people are all different, but I think you are kidding yourself if you think you can just bounce back that quickly.

 

I know I did kid myself in the past. I'm not saying you need to be wallowing in self pity or crying, but I really do not think its possible to just go straight into another relationship after anything moderately serious.

I know in my case I grieved my old one for the last 3 months of it at least, but that didn't mean I was ready to meet other people with a clear head. I felt I was, sure, but I knew from past experience I wasn't.

 

Just consider taking some time being single.

 

joseb, I love all your posts but here I have to say...I'm just fine and I'm not going into this with my heart still healing. I have a clear head...feeling great. I was ready to move on.

 

I know theres plently of people on LS who jump into relationships too quickly for the wrong reasons...so I can see that it must be easy to lump me in with these people...but moving on was easy for me....when it ended I felt like I hadnt lost anything....actually felt like I regained my sanity...like I said...everyone is different

[katiegrl]

Well.... if you are looking down at him instead of up, I can understand how that might take some adjusting.

 

But what about if you were looking equal to him?

 

Instead of six inch wedges, how about four or five inches?

 

Then you would be equal, would that work?

 

Personally, I think it's a mental thing... this need for shorter women to be with much taller guys?

 

Shorter guys are every bit as strong, protective and masculine as tall guys, sometimes more so even...... in fact I know taller guys who are absolute wimps!

[Dis]

Well.... if you are looking down at him instead of up, I can understand how that might take some adjusting.

 

But what about if you were looking equal to him?

 

Instead of six inch wedges, how about four or five inches?

 

Then you would be equal, would that work?

 

Personally, I think it's a mental thing... this need for shorter women to be with much taller guys?

 

Shorter guys are every bit as strong, protective and masculine as tall guys, sometimes more so even...... in fact I know taller guys who are absolute wimps!

 

Haha this is true

 

He's actually a really sexy guy...has alot of muscle...in great shape. He's masculine too...very...very strong as well

 

I've dated taller guys that had alot less muscle on them compared to him

 

I tried to wear shorter heels...they were only 2 inches!!! So I returned them...but yes I think I'll try 4 inch heels

 

And you're 100% correct that it is a mental thing....I feel like because I'm shorter I have to be with a really tall guy...such a stupid conclusion to come to....need to talk myself out of 5 years of feeling that way

[MissBee]

I'm dating a guy exclusively and it is magic...

 

We connect on the deepest level mentally/physically/spiritually/emotionally

 

We go from having the most in depth conversations about difficult topics...to discovering we have everything in common (even weird little things most people dont know about)...to ripping each others clothes off in the most passionate way possible....to debating religious views and coming to a shared common ground...to laughing our a**es off about stupid things. He treats me like a queen.

 

Like I said its magic...no need to think or worry...its just magic

 

I am used to dating guys that are at least 6ft tall (1.8 meters)...and this guy is only 5'6 (1.7 meters)

 

Dont get me wrong I'm very short..only 5'1 but I always wear 6 inch heels or wedges

 

This is not an issue that would ever stop be from dating him of course...its just a big adjustment as I'm used to guys towering over me....whereas he's so dam* short in my eyes...again height isnt a deal breaker to me...esp when I have such a strong connection with someone...this is just a really tough adjustment that I tend to hyper focus on

 

In your experiences...does the height of your partner matter all that much???

 

Does it become something that you dont even notice after awhile???

 

What are your thoughts on this subject???

 

Most people have some physical imperfection....when I am in love or really like a guy, I may notice these little things but they become cute in my eyes, add character or I don't care about them.

 

I prefer a taller man, but I would gladly accept a shorter one if it is "magic" and I'm getting the important things I want. Height is not one of my important things. It's a nice thing...but not a make it or break it scenario.

[Dis]

Most people have some physical imperfection....when I am in love or really like a guy, I may notice these little things but they become cute in my eyes, add character or I don't care about them.

 

I prefer a taller man, but I would gladly accept a shorter one if it is "magic" and I'm getting the important things I want. Height is not one of my important things. It's a nice thing...but not a make it or break it scenario.

 

Thats what I would imagine too...yes his height might not be ideal...but def not a dealbreaker and over time I'd probably stop caring about it or think his height was endearing or something....that makes perfect sense. Considering everything else that is 100% amazing...his height is a very small factor in all this

 

I remember my ex that I was with for 2 and a half years...he was very very tall...lots of muscle...but his face wasnt very handsome. Overtime as I fell for him I couldve cared less about his face. Makes sense now. Thanks MsBee