LarryW125 Posted July 11, 2016 Posted July 11, 2016 So I liked this girl and I asked her out. She gave me a pretty lame excuse that she was too busy. Obviously, it's a no. So we continued through out the year being friends and I wasn't that upset but a little salty about the reasoning. Occasionally, we flirted and talked but nothing too major. I continued to do my thing and make new friends and meet new women. She wound up talking to an old flame from last year and they got together for a little bit. One day, we were hanging out with friends and she began cuddling with me while she has a boyfriend. Summer comes around and I discover they had a break up and she's really okay. We texted and got to making plans and hung out together. The idea to hang out was her idea and she planned to pick me up from work and we'd do something together. Unfortunately, that got ruined by a friend who third wheeled that day. Even though my friend came with us she was very flirty and touchy. She even dropped a line saying "You know i'm your babygirl." She drove me home and we listen to music and playfully touch each other, hold hands, etc. She mentions traveling and brings up the idea of us traveling together. So I ask if she's interested in going to the city together and we make the plans to go. We text about the day to go and she wants to go at night and even mentions sleeping over. My room mate and his mom will not be home that whole week so we'll have the place alone. I texted the girl recently and was doing some more coordinating and she makes it a point to say that we're not going on a date, that we're just going as friends. She then explained how I wasn't the only guy who misinterpreted us hanging out as a date. Obviously, I had feelings for this girl and was pretty hurt when she made this point to me after all the hints I thought she was dropping. I still plan to take her out but i'm not sure anymore. I'll gladly take any advice anyone wants to give me. Thanks for reading.
jen1447 Posted July 11, 2016 Posted July 11, 2016 Sounds way too complicated and unknowable what she has in mind. Eject and let her be someone else's babygirl/sometime GF/othertime friend/herky-jerky unless you're actually ok w that. 4
smackie9 Posted July 11, 2016 Posted July 11, 2016 oh she's one of those......just lookin for a cuddle b*&$%.....in the old days well call girls like her a c0&% tease. Don't waste your time. 2
Vado Posted July 11, 2016 Posted July 11, 2016 Sounds way too complicated and unknowable what she has in mind. Eject and let her be someone else's babygirl/sometime GF/othertime friend/herky-jerky unless you're actually ok w that. Yeah, jen is right. Probably an 'I don't like you but I want you to like me girl' Attention-seeker. Wait till she sees you with a girlfriend, than she flirts you all the way into her orbit, let het go/
smackie9 Posted July 11, 2016 Posted July 11, 2016 I saw the friends zone as soon as I read "She mentioned traveling together"....that's means we are only hanging out, not dating.
smackie9 Posted July 11, 2016 Posted July 11, 2016 Larry I feel for you because this girl has obviously led you on selfishly. How this must be so frustrating for you. Wanting to be around her is very tempting because that is what the heart wants right? but it is just going to hurt more. So disappointing.
Larryville Posted July 11, 2016 Posted July 11, 2016 "She mentioned traveling together" Exactly, when I read OLD profiles and I see a bunch of stuff about all the fun things (she would like to do) doing various things together and the profiles and initial conversations focus on a bunch of nothingness instead of “relationship” substance the woman just wants a buddy, companion. Profile pics from all the cool places she has been (solo or with friends) blathering on about all her travels and trips and adventures… whatever. How are you going to talk about something like “traveling” with someone you don’t know? that's means we are only hanging out, Bingo… she began cuddling with me while she has a boyfriend. even dropped a line saying "You know i'm your babygirl." just lookin for a cuddle b*&$% Yup
misspond Posted July 11, 2016 Posted July 11, 2016 So I liked this girl and I asked her out. She gave me a pretty lame excuse that she was too busy. Obviously, it's a no. So we continued through out the year being friends and I wasn't that upset but a little salty about the reasoning. You might want to have a think about how why you might be a little salty about a friendship that came from a lame excuse that you actually rightly figured was a no. Other than that, move on, she's just stringing you on.
CarrieT Posted July 11, 2016 Posted July 11, 2016 I still plan to take her out but i'm not sure anymore. I'll gladly take any advice anyone wants to give me. Thanks for reading. Cancel the "date" and move on. Go No Contact and don't waste your time with her anymore.
phineas Posted July 12, 2016 Posted July 12, 2016 oh she's one of those......just lookin for a cuddle b*&$%.....in the old days well call girls like her a c0&% tease. Don't waste your time. Yep. I used to be Larry yrs ago. Now, women know just from looking at me that if they allow themselves to be alone with me i'm going for it and getting it or i'm out the door. Larry, don't take this chick out to anywhere but icecream. Then back to your place for netflix and chill.
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