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5 months since the breakup and 4.5months of no NC and I still think of him all the time, though I feel like I've made so much progress, until today!

 

I caught up with mutual friends of ours and a friend confronted me and said that my ex told them that whatever I have been telling them is the opposite of what happened. :eek:

 

My friends wouldnt want to go into the full story (for my sake) but one just said "Basically he got sick of you always threatening to break up with him". I feel so upset. I don't know what else he said to them, but it made me feel so sad. I am guilty of asking to break up a few times whenever I felt so suffocated. But then, I would feel sorry for him and change my mind.

 

Now I can't stop blaming myself for driving him away :( He has moved on ages ago with a new girlfriend and I am stuck in misery and ultimately it was all my doing.

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Lesson to learn, never break up with anyone you do not want to lose. Breaks do not help relationships, they make them worse.

People who want to work on relationships, stay and work on their relationship.

 

He "smothered" you, you broke up and you then felt sorry for him and took him back multiple times - that doesn't sound like fun, why on earth would you think he was the man for you?

 

He has moved on, I suggest you stop blaming yourself and do the same.

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You know my ex smothered me but I was fine with that to some extent sometimes I loved it. We had fights about it ofcourse and now I'm single by her doing. I never wanted truly for us to be apart...

 

You give me false hopes that she thinks like you do... move on. He already found his happy place hopefully you will too someday.

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He "smothered" you, you broke up and you then felt sorry for him and took him back multiple times - that doesn't sound like fun, why on earth would you think he was the man for you?

 

He has moved on, I suggest you stop blaming yourself and do the same.

 

You are right. Lesson learnt indeed. Though I always seemed to be the only one doing all the hard work in the relationshop. honestly I dont think he is the man for me either. I think i am just so sad i love him so much and yet he sees me otherwise and the fact that I cannot fully get over him upsets me

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