PerryK Posted July 11, 2016 Posted July 11, 2016 For christmas last year she got me a years pass to a place. It cost a lot of money, I messed up the registration so emailed them to sort it out for me at the time. I never checked the return email though, the pass worked fine from then, until around 2 weeks ago. I checked the account and it said that there was insufficient funds, I checked the email from 7 months ago that i never opened and it said they had refunded the money for me to sign up again. Because the money came out of her account I text her to ask if she had received the refund, she hadn't. I then found out that they had refunded the 500 onto the gift card that she wrapped up for me that was used to sign up for the year pass. She tried to phone me during this which I didn't answer because I didn't want to get set back on the NC any further. She got all pissy about me not answering and told me that she just wanted to talk to me, i told her i need some time to prepare myself to talk on the phone thinking that she wanted to talk on the phone. Because even though we broke up and the relationship deteriorated so badly at the end i still love this girl more than anything. We texted back and forth a little bit and it kind of delved into her blaming me for everything and saying she was perfect and then me pointing out everything she did and it wasnt just me and she would reply that i'm just being nasty. I tried to phone her a little later on, she couldnt answer she was in a supermarket, then she called and i was having a nap. I woke up and text her back to say "sorry i was asleep i just woke up. Let me know when your free later to call so you dont ignore the call xxx". She took offence to that saying that i was making digs and she "cba for this now". Considering she had earlier that she really wanted to call me i was confused. I told her that she had got my hopes up and let me down thinking she wanted a call to chat and be nice to each other. She said "we can call if you want" so now it felt like it was just out of pity, she didnt want to talk to me but she was calling cause i wanted to. Now i just felt like a hinderance. So i went from her telling me that she wanted to call and talk, to me feeling like a charity case. Thats just hurt even more and confused me completely.
Clarkwg Posted July 11, 2016 Posted July 11, 2016 For christmas last year she got me a years pass to a place. It cost a lot of money, I messed up the registration so emailed them to sort it out for me at the time. I never checked the return email though, the pass worked fine from then, until around 2 weeks ago. I checked the account and it said that there was insufficient funds, I checked the email from 7 months ago that i never opened and it said they had refunded the money for me to sign up again. Because the money came out of her account I text her to ask if she had received the refund, she hadn't. I then found out that they had refunded the 500 onto the gift card that she wrapped up for me that was used to sign up for the year pass. She tried to phone me during this which I didn't answer because I didn't want to get set back on the NC any further. She got all pissy about me not answering and told me that she just wanted to talk to me, i told her i need some time to prepare myself to talk on the phone thinking that she wanted to talk on the phone. Because even though we broke up and the relationship deteriorated so badly at the end i still love this girl more than anything. We texted back and forth a little bit and it kind of delved into her blaming me for everything and saying she was perfect and then me pointing out everything she did and it wasnt just me and she would reply that i'm just being nasty. I tried to phone her a little later on, she couldnt answer she was in a supermarket, then she called and i was having a nap. I woke up and text her back to say "sorry i was asleep i just woke up. Let me know when your free later to call so you dont ignore the call xxx". She took offence to that saying that i was making digs and she "cba for this now". Considering she had earlier that she really wanted to call me i was confused. I told her that she had got my hopes up and let me down thinking she wanted a call to chat and be nice to each other. She said "we can call if you want" so now it felt like it was just out of pity, she didnt want to talk to me but she was calling cause i wanted to. Now i just felt like a hinderance. So i went from her telling me that she wanted to call and talk, to me feeling like a charity case. Thats just hurt even more and confused me completely. We'll that escalated quickly. As well as hurting you in the process, hopefully it gave you a reminder as to why you two are not compatable, the fact that you couldn't sort the initial issue out without arguments etc. would probably be best if you had have just bought a new pass yourself & saved yourself the drama. Good luck
LD1990 Posted July 11, 2016 Posted July 11, 2016 It sounds like you were hoping from more out of this interaction with her. If you were only contacting her about the pass you really wouldn't care if she was talking to you out of pity or not. And honestly, ending a text message with "Let me know when your free later to call so you dont ignore the call" is very passive-aggressive.
Author PerryK Posted July 11, 2016 Author Posted July 11, 2016 (edited) The sorting the pass out was at 9am. She tried to call to talk about it and got argumentative that i didnt answer, saying that she wanted to talk on the phone to me. The "pity call" offer was about 11pm Later on that night she said she called to sort out the pass but that was sorted, but i can call her if i want. She just got argumentative and tried to guilt me over ignoring a call by lying that she wanted to call me. But that lie made me feel awful thinking she did want to talk to me and got my hopes up. Edited July 11, 2016 by PerryK
elaine567 Posted July 11, 2016 Posted July 11, 2016 And honestly, ending a text message with "Let me know when your free later to call so you dont ignore the call" is very passive-aggressive. Especially when the OP was the one to ignore her call when she called to try and sort it out in the first place like an adult. OP I know you are hurting, but she has a new bf, so you have to leave her to it. She did not call you out of the blue saying "I made a dreadful mistake Perry can we talk about getting back together", no, she called in response to your contact concerning money she was owed. It was a business call essentially. YOU made it into a big deal in your head and now you are hurt, but that is not really her fault, that is yours. Resume NC and if you ever need to contact her again, stop playing games, be adult and be the bigger person, stop the "he said she said" and stop getting your hopes up.
Author PerryK Posted July 11, 2016 Author Posted July 11, 2016 Especially when the OP was the one to ignore her call when she called to try and sort it out in the first place like an adult. OP I know you are hurting, but she has a new bf, so you have to leave her to it. She did not call you out of the blue saying "I made a dreadful mistake Perry can we talk about getting back together", no, she called in response to your contact concerning money she was owed. It was a business call essentially. YOU made it into a big deal in your head and now you are hurt, but that is not really her fault, that is yours. Resume NC and if you ever need to contact her again, stop playing games, be adult and be the bigger person, stop the "he said she said" and stop getting your hopes up. Well you have taken that all wrong then completely. She did call me out of the blue as i had already sorted the monetary issue. She doesn't have this "new guy". The text i recieved "I just wanted to speak to you really because i do miss you but i don't want to lead you on etc. Sorry for having feelings."
elaine567 Posted July 11, 2016 Posted July 11, 2016 Well you have taken that all wrong then completely. She did call me out of the blue as i had already sorted the monetary issue. Ok so what you said "She tried to phone me during this" was wrong... She doesn't have this "new guy". You said in your last thread she was moving in with him,.. The text i recieved "I just wanted to speak to you really because i do miss you but i don't want to lead you on etc. Sorry for having feelings." She is done with you.
Author PerryK Posted July 11, 2016 Author Posted July 11, 2016 Ok so what you said "She tried to phone me during this" was wrong... You said in your last thread she was moving in with him,.. She is done with you. Well it isnt wrong, she did try to phone me during it, which she said was because she wanted to talk. I said that over a different ex from years ago, not this ex. Yes i know she is done with me and i am done with her, however she is messing with my head saying she wants to talk she misses me and then being cold.
Stercrazy Posted July 11, 2016 Posted July 11, 2016 Well it isnt wrong, she did try to phone me during it, which she said was because she wanted to talk. I said that over a different ex from years ago, not this ex. Yes i know she is done with me and i am done with her, however she is messing with my head saying she wants to talk she misses me and then being cold. So was the call about business or pleasure because it seems.......from the outside looking in.......she flipped out a bread crumb and you indulged in the insanity of not moving on? She's done with you otherwise she would make it clear to you that she is interested. Get it? She would be clear about it. And if you really had no interest in her you wouldn't be indulging either.
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