bobding12345 Posted July 10, 2016 Posted July 10, 2016 I've been on three dates in the past 3 weeks with this girl and everything was going well, she would always text and put m thought into her answers. We went on a date two days ago where she has hugging me all night and eventually I went in for the kiss which was awkward but she didn't seem to fazed by it there and then. Ever since she has been replying less and today she said she was round a friends but wasn't enjoying it so I said she can text me if she wants. She took 2 hours to reply and then after I replied she went and said she fell asleep the following afternoon. Is she losing interest? It just seems weird how if she wasn't having fun why randomly stop texting and then not text to say she was home. Something feels different since the awkward kiss the other day. She was replying fast before hand to (at the longest taking 15 minutes) but now she is taking 30 minutes or longer for some texts, not all of them. She did say she was quite shy so could this be her going back into her shell? Or is it her being interested but trying to come off as not desperate?
JewelD Posted July 10, 2016 Posted July 10, 2016 Well, it would be kind of rude for her to text someone nonstop if she's hanging out with people. Even if she wasn't having fun, maybe she was trying or at least pretending to. Why would she text to say she was home? Texting etiquette is different for everybody. She might be losing interest but you're also reading a bit too deeply into it. The fact that you know she was texting from 15min to now 30min is just a bit petty. I could see if it was like 5 minutes to 48 hours, but 15 minutes is not a huge difference. I imagine if she really wasn't interested, she would stop texting you altogether. If she want to know if she's still interested, ask her out on another date.
LostOne08 Posted July 10, 2016 Posted July 10, 2016 Hard to say at this point in time. She could be losing interest, or she could just have fallen asleep like she said. I wouldn't read too much into anything three dates in. If you're worried about the kiss, you would have to ask yourself why she might back off after that. Was she into the kiss? How was it awkward? Personally, it sounds to me like you're texting too much for the initial stages. An occasional text here and there is fine, but you should be texting and calling primarily to set and confirm dates. Save the conversations for the dates and save the constant texting for when you're in a relationship. Either way, to answer your question, you should do the only thing you can do. Ask her out for the next date and if she accepts, it's a good indicator she's still interested and you can go from there. If not, then you also have your answer.
Author bobding12345 Posted July 10, 2016 Author Posted July 10, 2016 Well, it would be kind of rude for her to text someone nonstop if she's hanging out with people. Even if she wasn't having fun, maybe she was trying or at least pretending to. Why would she text to say she was home? Texting etiquette is different for everybody. She might be losing interest but you're also reading a bit too deeply into it. The fact that you know she was texting from 15min to now 30min is just a bit petty. I could see if it was like 5 minutes to 48 hours, but 15 minutes is not a huge difference. I imagine if she really wasn't interested, she would stop texting you altogether. If she want to know if she's still interested, ask her out on another date. I'm definitely overthinking a lot here and i know that but something really does seem off. I dont see how she can go from always on her phone and replying instantly to taking 30+ minutes to reply. As i said it's probably me overthinking or being boring over text as she did thank me three times after the date and said she really enjoyed it and wanted to do it again. I've honestly never felt like this about someone so im probably overthinking
Author bobding12345 Posted July 10, 2016 Author Posted July 10, 2016 Hard to say at this point in time. She could be losing interest, or she could just have fallen asleep like she said. I wouldn't read too much into anything three dates in. If you're worried about the kiss, you would have to ask yourself why she might back off after that. Was she into the kiss? How was it awkward? Personally, it sounds to me like you're texting too much for the initial stages. An occasional text here and there is fine, but you should be texting and calling primarily to set and confirm dates. Save the conversations for the dates and save the constant texting for when you're in a relationship. Either way, to answer your question, you should do the only thing you can do. Ask her out for the next date and if she accepts, it's a good indicator she's still interested and you can go from there. If not, then you also have your answer. We hugged and she looked at me for ages without pulling away after spending the whole night snuggled up to me so yes, i think she wanted me to kiss her. She didnt pull away, i just sort of froze and gave her a peck on the lips (I put it down to me really liking her) I would say we are texting too much but its almost always her initiating the conversations, and if its me its only because she has asked me to message her the next day
BikerAccnt Posted July 11, 2016 Posted July 11, 2016 She didnt pull away, i just sort of froze and gave her a peck on the lips (I put it down to me really liking her) This could be it. She may be unsure of how you feel about her, since you "froze" and just gave her a peck on the lips. Women like men who are able to read them, and take action. Next time try to be more confident in your actions, if you want to kiss her, then do it. She'll let you know if you shouldn't . I'd forget the texting, call her and ask her out again. Let her know in no uncertain terms you are interested. That's hard to do via text.
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