Michellinda Posted July 10, 2016 Posted July 10, 2016 So recently my boyfriend and I have been living together some days it's wonderful but other days he makes jokes about my big breasts saying they are floppy and should be lifted. I ignored the jokes but Friday he starts complaining about his belly then proceeds to say let's compare who has a bigger belly. So I act silly and I'm like you don't like my tummy and he was like honestly it's not attractive to me. It really hurts my feelings he has made comments about my weight before. Then later we get into and I call him out about that it's verbal abuse and the argument gets heated and throws his phone at me hard. Today he's like we should take a break and i am feeling so devastated by it all when deep down I know these are huge red flags. I just don't want to lose him.
Zahara Posted July 10, 2016 Posted July 10, 2016 Going back to your history of threads, it seems like you've consistently been with men that treat you badly, unless this is the same guy that you've been writing about in all your threads. Work on your self-esteem. There is a reason why to tolerate such bad behavior from your partners. Aside, he tears you down in an effort to break you and damage your self-esteem. He's not joking. This is about control. In time you'll become submissive and in total dependence of him. Let this one go. Don't focus on the few wonderful days because it's always followed by bad days. That is the cycle of abuse. Stay single for awhile. Build yourself up. I'm sure all these years of crappy men have taken a toll on you. 4
Author Michellinda Posted July 10, 2016 Author Posted July 10, 2016 Thank you for your reply. You are right and I know I have to work on my self esteem.
Zahara Posted July 10, 2016 Posted July 10, 2016 (edited) Thank you for your reply. You are right and I know I have to work on my self esteem. Consider this a break-up in your book and move on from him. This relationship isn't going to get any better. Read up on narcissistic behavior. Your past relationships seems to fall towards men that emotionally and mentally tear you down. Block him and focus on yourself. This is not a relationship you want to pursue. Granted it hurts and you are afraid of losing him (co-dependency) but suffer the pain -- in the long run you will thank yourself. Edited July 10, 2016 by Zahara 3
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