Clarkwg Posted July 9, 2016 Posted July 9, 2016 Over 18 months now since my break up with my ex who left me for someone else, life has been tough as we have a little girl so collecting my daughter on the weekends & seeing his car there every week has been a hard pill to swallow. Like the woman she is keeps breaking up then getting back with her new BF, on off on off every other week. Unfortunately for me it feels like I never stopped having feelings for her & whenever she was off with her bf she would be always intouch with me & wanting to visit for coffee etc. Me being the d**k I am I use to welcome it & she even cheated on him with me in May then I wouldn't hear from her for a few weeks because it was all on again with her bf. This used to piss me off but didn't hurt like the initial split, then it happens again, again & again. Now forward to this week she was intouch last weekend twice for coffee then I didn't hear from her at all this week. On Friday I went to collect my daughter only to discover my child is staying with a relative & she is on vacation with her (now on again) bf. This time it has really really angered & upset me & I feel like I'm back in the very very dark days of the initial break up. I know I have only got myself to blame for alowing myself to be used like this but I guess a combination of having feelings for the ex & no self worth leads to such situations. I prey to GOD that the next 'coffee meet' phone call I get when she has had her next fall out that I am strong enough to say No! F*** YOU & put the phone down.
Downtown Posted July 9, 2016 Posted July 9, 2016 Clark, thanks for returning to give us another update on your situation. As we discussed in April and May of last year, many of the behaviors you describe are warning signs for BPD. I therefore am happy to hear that you two are still broken up, at least for the time being. If she is a BPDer as you suspected last year, you are in for a world of hurt if you ever try living with her again.
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