When she says maybe

[smarle]

I met a girl over tinder and things were going fine, i made her laugh couple of times, ask her interesting questions.... and then i thought it was time to ask her out for a coffee and i added a joke in there to keep things light and fun, she laughed at the joke but then she said maybe someday. Then i asked again like, are you for a beer on sunday, to persuade you for that coffee, and she replies almost immediately with maybeee. So what to do? Is that a no, yes?

[Satu]

Probably best to leave it.

 

She's not interested.

 

 

Take care.

[leogirl876]

I'd have to say that was a no. Now I don't do that anymore, I did that back in my early 20s (I'm now 40), but guy's that I did the maybe thing with, it was guy's I wasn't interested in, but when I was young, I lacked the courage to just be honest. That's probably what's going on here. I wouldn't ask her out again unless she initiates communication.

[ExpatInItaly]

That's a no.

 

I wouldn't bother communicating anymore.

[Hamish57a]

She sounds like she's being polite and since it's happened twice you should be gracious enough to back away. She knows your intentions, If she changes her mind or wants to get together then she'll say something.

[mortensorchid]

Well you must ask her specifically and say "I want to have drinks / coffee with you on date / time". If she says no, she's not interested. If she says yes, she is interested. Communication is key in the game here, and if neither are communicating clearly you will not have good results. She sounds like she was teasing you. So move on from it.

[TheBathWater]

I met a girl over tinder and things were going fine, i made her laugh couple of times, ask her interesting questions.... and then i thought it was time to ask her out for a coffee and i added a joke in there to keep things light and fun, she laughed at the joke but then she said maybe someday. Then i asked again like, are you for a beer on sunday, to persuade you for that coffee, and she replies almost immediately with maybeee. So what to do? Is that a no, yes?

 

In my experience, anything less than a solid and enthusiastic yes is a no in disguise.

[4x4storm]

Mate I have been on tinder for the past 7 months and when girls hit you with maybe I can tell you right now it's a big fat No. I've tried to push through the maybes before and it hasn't got me any closer to a date with them they just love the tease .

 

In my honest opinion a girl who is not willing to give someone a chance is not worth your time. Find someone better who is willing to know more about you and not just tease and play with you.

[smackie9]

Yup it's a no. When they say, "let me check my schedule", or "I'm busy this week, maybe next week", or "I'll have to get back to you.." or "Let me see....", "I dunno.." "maybe" "Not sure" etc....it's all bs. They know when they are available, especially if you are very desirable to them. Never buy any of that crap. Write them off.

[lolablue17]

I don't agree with all the posters that say "she's not interested". When you're some were, you better play by the house rules.

 

When you talk to girls on Tinder, you have to attract them by the art of words\conversation/writing skills/wit/ emotional inteligence. She's waiting for you to impress her because you have competitors going after her.

 

Until now you havn't disqualified yourself, but you probably didn't impress her extraordinary. If you want her, she wants you to make more efforts, to emuse and to entertain her.

 

That's why if I was single, I'd rother be alone than to play Tinder.