What is wrong with me?

[Bliss09]

I posted on here a few months ago concerning a confused girlfriend. We did a month of NC and decided to try again taking things slow.

 

Over the past few months it's been hot and cold with her. She's lovey, and then back to not having the time of day for me. She's all about me, and then my feelings don't matter.

 

All of this came to a head about a week ago. I stood up for myself for the first time in a few months. We talked, and I told her all this was doing was hurting me more. She told me how much she loves me, but how she feels stuck. How she wants to be with me, but wants to focus on a career, friends, and family. She wants to be 23 and selfish. She wants to not have to consider any feelings but her own right now, and she doesn't know why she feels this way when she cares about me so deeply but she just does.

 

The questions is, what is wrong with me? I know exactly what to do. I know she is taking my love for granted, and I know if she truly cared and loved me as she says she does, she wouldn't treat me like this and she wouldn't be so confused. I know I need to move on, and I know I am being a sap who won't.

 

Why do people continue to want to be with those who don't treat them as they should?

 

The simple and logical thing to do here is to walk away from it. She wants me in her life, but I know it's not healthy for me. She won't cut me off, and I don't know how to do it myself.

 

How do you overcome losing the love of your life who just won't cut the tie?

[bummer]

I dunno the answer. I'm dealing with this in theory right now. You grieve it like everyone else.

 

Best is to not be the cowardly dog at her heals. Best to end it now as the forced dumper and get clarity for both of you. She can be free without guilt. You can eventually move on without trapping her.

 

Best to end it. Table it for a few years and return to it when both of you don't have youthful GIGS.

[Heart..PLS STAHP]

It sounds like my ex 23 years of age .. yeah lets go live together have a family eventually I don't care if you are not ready you must be or I'm dumping you. Well guess what ... I'm single now.

 

Look I loved my girl so much it hurts but that's the cold hard truth of life - you can't force someone to love like you do. It sounds to me she is keeping you on a leash. She cares yes but not as much if she is telling you all those stuff. I would advise you to sit together and have a conversation about you guys. Tell her that this is not working for you and ask her if she can change the way she is treating you. If she continues telling you all this bull**** then just tell her that this is the end in this case as it is hurtful for you to wonder if that's ever going to change. She may ask for you to wait and stuff - don't!

 

She may realize that she wanted you after awhile but you must be the one who ends it. Go home cry if you want but don't allow her to be on top as eventually she will just cut all ties to you and you will be the bad guy for not letting her "breathe".

[Satu]

You're a placeholder.

 

As soon as she meets someone else who takes her fancy, you're done.

 

End it now to preserve your dignity.

 

 

Take care.