TheQuestioner Posted July 9, 2016 Posted July 9, 2016 My first post on here was about that girl. I had been wondering "what if" for many years, and I have been told both by close friends and strangers that it's time to move on. I think part of me felt that I made a mistake by rejecting her because we had so much in common, but after all these years, and now looking back at it all, I don't regret it. In fact I'm actually a little angry towards her because of the way she had acted. This girl had spread rumors about me, and I'm unclear to this very day on what she told people, but she caused many to dislike me. I realized that the girl I wrote about isn't worth my time, and she showed many traits where if I didn't have messed up, she would have broken up with me, or caused me to be into drugs. I realized that all these years were wasted feeling bad about turning down an a**hole, when in reality I should have been happy that I dodged a potentially harmful relationship. Her family all show the same signs of pride, arrogance, and stubbornness and despite the fact that we both enjoy art, we don't have much else in common. I also feel bad that I didn't give it my all to my girlfriend. I plan on changing that and become more emotionally involved with her. I'm just very angry with the other girl for harassing me all these years despite me ignoring her. In the 7 years that all of this took place, we haven't had much interaction other than the handful of times I tried apologize back in 2010. Other than that, I've ignored her and rarely bumped into her, but had gotten so much crap from her and her stupid brother. All my what ifs became anger, and I'm upset. I want to know if this realization is normal, and if so, I want to know a healthy way of dealing with this anger?
Heart..PLS STAHP Posted July 9, 2016 Posted July 9, 2016 If you are with someone right now do right by them! Don't break that girl's heart just because you have some emotional baggage. At the start of your post you sounded ready to be involved in another relationship but then when I read on it seemed that you still think about it. Coming here posting about it proves that as well. Can you not bring that up in your current relationship? Because if you can I urge you not to. There is no need to break more hearts just because we can't handle our own stuff. I would advise you to just let go of the past. She hurt you, you hurt her its all irrelevant and already in the past. I don't know how much time passed but you seem like a little bit over it. In fact I believe you are just fixating yourself to think about it when in fact you are already so far ahead. Why did you stop and think about it when you sound better now? It feels like you are poking with a stick in your chest by yourself.
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