Is there a point when a woman has too many sexual partners?

[SincereOnlineGuy]

If you are dating someone (late 20's) and their sexual past comes up (either by asking or just comes out in as you get to know them) is there a number of sexual partners they may have that is just too many?

 

ie. you hear that she had sex with 10, 20, 30, 50, 80 people, is there a point when you are too turned off to continue the relationship?

 

No more details other than I had an abusive partner who got his fix through sex, without his participation.

 

 

Realistically? - NO!

 

(because the human mind is too stupid to analyze all sorts of social data and remain unbiased long enough to arrive at an answer)

 

I mean, in our society, we are too clueless to even allow for attractive people (perhaps, say, upward of the 70th percentile) having more opportunities (before we decide to scold anyone we meet or hear about who has more than 13... 2... or 74 past sex partners)

 

 

People who answer "yes" are just not being fair in their mental processing of all of the data that is available.

 

Humans just don't know... and they can't tell, for being unable to weed-out the effects on their own standards of all of the pure randomness that has happened to their own individual lives.

[MJJean]

 

I'm assuming you are asking how sexually experienced I was when I married? Fairly experienced and definitely moreso than that husband (whom I ended up divorcing when I discovered him having sex with other men) and my current husband.

 

If you don't mind me asking, surely bisexuality wasn't something new to you as you participated in the swinger lifestyle and attended orgies. If you were open to exploration and non-monogamy, why was his bisexuality a deal breaker for you?

[CarrieT]

If you don't mind me asking, surely bisexuality wasn't something new to you as you participated in the swinger lifestyle and attended orgies. If you were open to exploration and non-monogamy, why was his bisexuality a deal breaker for you?

 

His bisexuality was not a deal breaker, but the deception was....

 

His lying about it and not using protection (in the late 80s, during the height of the AIDS epidemic) *was* a deal breaker.

 

Had he been honest about his interests and intents, we could have worked through it. But, instead, I got the flu at work one day and came home early to find a people puddle of naked men going at it BAREBACK without my prior knowledge or consent.

 

I couldn't compete with his then-homosexual desires (as his interest in me had begun to wane but I hadn't understood why) and I had to get tested for AIDS every six months for the next decade.

[blackcat777]

So what if one person had sex one time each with three different lovers?

 

What if one person had sex three hundred times with one lover?

 

I was never good at math, anyway. I tend toward monogamy and would ask a dating partner in the early stages what his outlook on life was about so I could determine if it was a good match with mine.