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So, I haven't posted here in a while. Here's my first post:

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/568217-my-blindsided-break-up-thoughts

 

Since then, I've gone complete NC. I've removed her on social media (didn't block), and left her # on my phone. I've never been tempted to message her and stuck true to NC. I've been coming along fine, but I've always felt like something was holding me back. I didn't really know what it was until the feeling I just got when I blocked her and deleted her # off my phone. I think for the longest time, even though I maintained strict NC with the intention of moving on, maybe somewhere in my mind I was hoping for some sort of reconciliation, even though I knew it wouldn't happen. She was my first love, and my first real relationship. Call me crazy, but I'm sure some can relate if the relationship was a good one.

 

For the first time since the break up, I feel truly free, almost like I've severed ties for good and I don't feel bad about it at all. And while some people may disagree that it could look immature and doesn't make sense 6 months after the BU, I honestly don't care. I blocked her after 6 months not to make a statement to her or anything against her. I did it for me, and I can truly say that I don't want anything to do with her anymore. I don't hate her. I just don't see myself talking to her ever again and doing these two actions don't make me feel different or scared like it might have in the past. I'm not worried about running into her or seeing her anymore. She'll just be in my memories, and that's enough for me. I don't need her contact info anymore. I feel like I can finally move on which is something I've been trying to do for so long.

 

If you understand what I'm saying here, and care to share if this is something you went through, please reply! If I'm not making any sense at all, you can reply that too :laugh:. It'll be interesting to read what you guys and gals think of this.

 

Thanks for reading :)

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I understand how you feel after deleting her number and blocking her. It makes you feel much better and that you are 100% over her and have cut her out of your life completely. I had that feeling for a short period of time when I decided to block my ex. But then I went back and unblocked her shortly after, so I'm back to square one. :(

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Good for you!

 

I blocked my ex from social media the night of the breakup. Deleted all his texts the next day and deleted his number from my phone probably a week later. I dont understand why people would even think of it as immature or petty. It is really damn helpful!!

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Good for you!

 

I blocked my ex from social media the night of the breakup. Deleted all his texts the next day and deleted his number from my phone probably a week later. I dont understand why people would even think of it as immature or petty. It is really damn helpful!!

 

I remember my brother advising me to do just the same right after the break up, but I didn't listen. If I had only done it then, I wonder if I would've moved on faster, but that's all in the past. I'm happy to be where I am now :)

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So, I haven't posted here in a while. Here's my first post:

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/568217-my-blindsided-break-up-thoughts

 

Since then, I've gone complete NC. I've removed her on social media (didn't block), and left her # on my phone. I've never been tempted to message her and stuck true to NC. I've been coming along fine, but I've always felt like something was holding me back. I didn't really know what it was until the feeling I just got when I blocked her and deleted her # off my phone. I think for the longest time, even though I maintained strict NC with the intention of moving on, maybe somewhere in my mind I was hoping for some sort of reconciliation, even though I knew it wouldn't happen. She was my first love, and my first real relationship. Call me crazy, but I'm sure some can relate if the relationship was a good one.

 

For the first time since the break up, I feel truly free, almost like I've severed ties for good and I don't feel bad about it at all. And while some people may disagree that it could look immature and doesn't make sense 6 months after the BU, I honestly don't care. I blocked her after 6 months not to make a statement to her or anything against her. I did it for me, and I can truly say that I don't want anything to do with her anymore. I don't hate her. I just don't see myself talking to her ever again and doing these two actions don't make me feel different or scared like it might have in the past. I'm not worried about running into her or seeing her anymore. She'll just be in my memories, and that's enough for me. I don't need her contact info anymore. I feel like I can finally move on which is something I've been trying to do for so long.

 

If you understand what I'm saying here, and care to share if this is something you went through, please reply! If I'm not making any sense at all, you can reply that too :laugh:. It'll be interesting to read what you guys and gals think of this.

 

Thanks for reading :)

 

I can't wait to finally feel the same way .. Been almost a month and im hurting as hell.. Still wishing he will text me one day and say sorry and realize what he has lost .

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So, my ex was living with me for about 8 months when, he decided to give up his apartment. Then after about 4 weeks he started having a hard time with life circumstances and not coming home. Said he was staying with his aunt and claiming need for sympathy and pity, and he never paid his share that we agreed on. He would come back each week. Happened 8 week ends in a row. Two weekends ago he was caught cheating. His aunt told me. I have tried week after week to get him to move his things or to reconcile. But now he won't answer his phone. Still claiming that he is hitting rock bottom. But, for me it's like breaking up and being abandoned and rejected week after week. Each day this week he said I'll call you, but then his phone is shutoff. I have loved him, but now I just feel foolish...and exhausted. I don't know what is truth or lies or where he is. He said he was going to move things tonight, but no show. I'm sure he is off with someone else saying my horrible ex kept all my things..... Which is the same crap he used on me. Now I wonder if everything he ever told me was a lie. I spent a few weeks in a fog with big anxiety. I'm just coming out of it now. I don't know what else to do but just block his number and try and make some distance between my heart and this mess. I just hate having his things here. There's a lot of it. And I got rid of things in order to fit his things in here. Like the bed and the TV and the couch. I guess in a couple of weeks I'll decide either to get rid of the stuff or to contact him. I hate it either way. I loved him, but I don't know why he wouldn't just break up and get his stuff like a normal damned person.

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I can't wait to finally feel the same way .. Been almost a month and im hurting as hell.. Still wishing he will text me one day and say sorry and realize what he has lost .

 

What I realized is that this may never come, and you just have to believe in your mind that they're like a lost loved one. The funeral is over and there is no going back. That state of mind helped me a lot.

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I'm going through this myself. I can't get on FB now, but I'm gonna delete her from it. And I am good at not answering calls or texts but I'm gonna delete her number too instead of trying to block it. I guess deleting this makes you feel more clean somehow

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It's funny, I actually found the strength to delete and block my ex from my first ex. She was right. The minute I deleted her and blocked her, my whole body felt relieved. I wouldn't say I'm over my most recent ex, I'm still dead from the neck up. But it helps.

 

I'm still friends with her brother on Facebook, but I've unfollowed him. It's a shame, when the family likes you they tend to drop you fast.

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Good for you! I think it's a perfect ending to this chapter of your life :)

 

I blocked my ex on Facebook, deleted his number, all his texts, pictures, etc within hours of the breakup. I've been here before and know that it was the best way for me to start detaching.

 

It's been 31 days since we broke up and last spoke, and it still majorly sucks, but I haven't regretted removing all reminders of him immediately.

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I think it also depends on what they done to you. If the breakup was mutual or something. I feel I was done wrong so yeah I have to remove her away. But I think once I am able to get back on FB, I wouldn't be surprised if her and her sister deleted me already. I wouldn't delete her sister though because she ain't do anything to me. But it's still a tough thing.

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