Did your gut instinct tell you stay away?

[Addicted18]

Thinking back on all of your failed relationships, did you ever have a gut instinct telling you don't start a relationship with that person or at some point later in the relationship, your instinct was telling you to leave but you didn't listen and ended up getting really hurt?

 

My gut instinct kept telling me it's a bad idea to get involved with that woman, but I didn't listen and turns out my gut instinct was correct. Now, I know to always listen to my gut.

Edited July 8, 2016 by Addicted18

[bummer]

Oh yeah! After initially hooking up and connecting, I pursued her and got a second chance two months later. I remember kissing my now ex and she pulled away crying saying she wasn't sure and didn't want to get hurt. I thought it was the strangest action just before we got started and thought, "this girl might be nuts..."

 

Year and change later, I half wish I walked away after that night...

[ExpatInItaly]

Yes, with my most recent ex-boyfriend.

 

I really wish I had listened to my gut screaming at me to stay away from him.

[Giggles666]

My last LTR, hell yeah....time and again. I was a total dope and ignored them every instance. Eventually, we got a house together, and at this point a sort of codependency worked it's way in. Not only was it a toxic relationship, it destroyed my life in so many ways. To top it off I then broke up with her, and 3 years later she helped wreck my newer relationship with a great woman.

 

Just a mess, and my gut was pinging almost all the time. Live and learn. Absolute disaster.

[Heart..PLS STAHP]

I don't have such views for love to be honest.

 

I never had a gut feeling when it comes to feeling love for another person. I had bad relationships and I always died a little when they hurt me so bad but this is entirely my fault for letting them. Maybe I don't love myself enough to allow it. Furthermore I may have hurt them really bad as well even though not as direct, indirectly and they may hate me for that, think I am a bad person, not worth it and such.

 

At the end of the day I always think that no matter who you love you jump straight in. Because you apparently must be connected with that person for one reason or another. This may be the way the universe is trying to tell you something. Why would I run from that? To save myself sadness down the road?

 

That is not living.. that is being scared and uncertain of the future.

[keiji]

Absolutely. With my latest ex-girlfriend I knew it wouldn't work after only a few months. I knew I could trust her, but also that I couldn't put up with her selfishness, her tantrums and her childish whims. I started pushing her away and she obviously got tired. And then I was surprised that she left

 

What I wonder now is why I stayed in such a relationship when deep down I knew it was going nowhere? Loneliness? Dependence? Convenience? Selfishness? A mixture of all of these?

[guest569]

I had a couple of things that i mentally noted but ignored.. Feelings or things he said or just a vibe that made me think "hmm, that is .. Different" without knowing why. I dont think there was much in it really. Sure he was a bit odd but that wasn't the problem.

 

I battled with logic versus emotion though in the tough parts of the relationship where I knew i should have walked but couldn't. That is different to my instincts

Edited July 8, 2016 by smiley1

[smudge21]

Pretty much everytime I've been hurt, there's been something that I can look back on and wish I'd paid attention to. The thing is though, the past is the past, we can't change it. At the time, we make decisions based on what we want rather than what we know, and the power of love can be the strongest force in the universe.. often impossible to ignore. Basically yes we all do this so focusing on it and living in regret is never a good idea. People say we learn from our mistakes too, but the amount of times I've fallen for a certain type or ignored those obvious red flags. Like I said, when we fall for someone, that fall often leaves us with a few bruises.

[juniorrocha]

2 weeks before my ex and I officially started dating, she showed me a few actions of shady behavior. Yet I continued. She even got very upset about a girl I was seeing BEFORE I met her, and who I hadn't even talked to in ages. But I was enjoying her so much that I let it go; and I received as a prize a full year of it! Awesome, right?

 

Then I was seeing this girl a while back who had some attitudes which reminded me of my ex. Never went on another date. Live and learn, right?

[JewelD]

Yeah, I had those gut instincts many times during the relationship. But I ignored them because I really liked the person and it turned into some bs of course.

 

But I don't necessarily regret it because that bad experience taught me a lot about relationships, liars and human nature.

 

I still make mistakes, but I'm wiser than I was back then. Now, I see sketchy things and realize they're sketchy. If I don't like the way someone is treating me, I say something about it.

 

But the best lesson I learned from my gut instinct is that everyone is capable of lying.

[Trinity7]

Yes, lots of red flags and signs with all 3 of my biggie exes over the years. It's like I get caught up in the excitement and romance of it all and it clouds my intuition. I'm definitely trying to work on trusting my gut in the future