I don't think I'll make it this time

[Vonnav8]

So I met this guy on POF about six months ago...I was already in the midst of a bad breakup and I let him know that and he still wanted to date me. He was living in London at the time and I wasA bit skeptical because he was originally from Nigeria and I had heard so many horror stories about women getting scammed by man from Africa who just want to use them for a Green Card but he was in school for his MBA and ready had a visa to come to the United States on holiday. So long story short we talked on what's up for about three months and in January he flew in to Missouri to see me and it was great. We didn't see each other for six months by this time he had moved back to Nigeria, after that and then we met each in New York in June for a 8 week holiday, it went great and when we said our good byes we made plans for our next trip together but I did not hear from him when he got home until about a day later and he broke up wit me by email. I tried emailing him back about ten times after contacting his friend about the situation he finally emailed me back and said once he gets things together we will have a decent conversation but it's been a whole day later and I have yet to hear from him...,ease has anyone else been through anything similar and do you have any advice for me.,,thank you

[JewelD]

Sounds like a very difficult relationship with the distance. So for the 8 week holiday, did you stay with him the entire 8 weeks? Were you honestly happy being in a relationship with someone you didn't see for 6months at a time?

 

I had something vaguely similar happen to me, minus the distance. If you had to email his friend to get him to respond to you (If it gets to that point, don't waste your time), that means he does not want to talk to you. He probably only emailed you back because he doesn't want you to keep bothering his friend about it.

 

The list of possible reasons he broke up with you is endless since he lives in a different country. He might have a whole family on the side or something. I wouldn't contact him anymore and I probably wouldn't wait around for an explanation when he "gets things together". What exactly does he need to 'get together' before he talks to you? He had it together when he made the decision to end things.

 

I don't think he's going to give you an explanation, unless he's about to come into town and wants to see you for a bit. I'd just take it for what it is and try to move on.

[Vonnav8]

First, thank you for your reply. Imade a mistake it was a 8 day holiday and yes we stayed together the whole time and he seemed so happy to just be with me. The only time he was sad was when he found out his mother fell ill while we were there, but other than that everything was great. I think you are right that if he wants to talk to me he will make a real effort to call but everyone says he probably just doesn't have service in the area he is in because Nigeria does not have Internet access everywhere but in the back of my mind I know he could call if he wanted to. Thanks again I will try to move on I'm just very scared that I won't be able to. I was happy in this relationship I was settled I trusted him very much.

[JewelD]

It will take time, but each day will bring you closer to being fully healed!Just keep pushing forward and know that there's something better out there for you.