LoveRunLust Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 We met on a dating app. The moment we started talking on the app, he asked if he could call me and he called everyday after that. He also kept making future plasns with me (like marriage) and we haven't even met in person! Is this a red flag? Is he one of those guys who kinda reels the girl in making her fall for him and then actually doesn't commit to her? Commitmentphobic?
PrettyEmily77 Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 (edited) We met on a dating app. The moment we started talking on the app, he asked if he could call me and he called everyday after that. He also kept making future plasns with me (like marriage) I stopped at the bolded - you talked marriage on a dating app? Whether you have met or not, and regardless of the guy's thought process (if any), that doesn't seem like a very romantic / genuine / carefully thought out gesture, on first impressions... That would be enough to give me food for thought; for a while. Edited July 7, 2016 by PrettyEmily77 2
JewelD Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 The calling, not necessarily, the marriage talk? definitely. 5
BaileyB Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 Yes. It would be enough for me to decide not to meet him. Way inappropriate. 1
CryForNoOne Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 We met on a dating app. The moment we started talking on the app, he asked if he could call me and he called everyday after that. He also kept making future plasns with me (like marriage) and we haven't even met in person! Is this a red flag? Is he one of those guys who kinda reels the girl in making her fall for him and then actually doesn't commit to her? Commitmentphobic? When I read stuff like this, it makes me question the theory evolution. Wouldn't guys this clueless never procreate and thus have no genetically similar offspring??? 1
Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 A desperate man who calls every day? run forest run. 2
katiegrl Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 We met on a dating app. The moment we started talking on the app, he asked if he could call me and he called everyday after that. He also kept making future plasns with me (like marriage) Did you call him out on this????? I would have been like "whoa dude, we haven't even met yet!!" And then quickly ended the call.... block delete next. That is nuts!! 1
Author LoveRunLust Posted July 7, 2016 Author Posted July 7, 2016 He texts and I respond 5 minutes later and then I don't hear from him for a whole day. Why would he do that?
BlueIris Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 (edited) We met on a dating app. The moment we started talking on the app, he asked if he could call me and he called everyday after that. He also kept making future plasns with me (like marriage) and we haven't even met in person! Is this a red flag? Is he one of those guys who kinda reels the girl in making her fall for him and then actually doesn't commit to her? Commitmentphobic? Yes, it's a huge red flag. He's a package of drama. Back away carefully with the polite, "I don't think we're a match." Edited July 7, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator added quote after thread merge ~6 2
Author LoveRunLust Posted July 7, 2016 Author Posted July 7, 2016 Thanks for all the advice guys!!!! Definitely backing away. Dont need more drama in my life... 1
Author LoveRunLust Posted July 7, 2016 Author Posted July 7, 2016 Have you ever met? Is this someone online? Yes and Yes
kendahke Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 He's in the middle of something His phone died and he needs to get a new phone (my old samsung used to die a miserable death in half an hour before I replaced it) He didn't feel like getting into a protracted texting adventure Have you asked him why he does it?
CryForNoOne Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 How well do you know him? Have you dated long? A little more info would be helpful... 1
Author LoveRunLust Posted July 7, 2016 Author Posted July 7, 2016 He's in the middle of something His phone died and he needs to get a new phone (my old samsung used to die a miserable death in half an hour before I replaced it) He didn't feel like getting into a protracted texting adventure Have you asked him why he does it? Thank you for your answer! I have noto asked but I have a feeling it's not because his phone died or he didn't want a texting adventure because he's been the one blowing up my phone:/ could it becauseI have nevery initiated contact with him?
kendahke Posted July 8, 2016 Posted July 8, 2016 was he talking about marrying you or was he talking about marriage in general, as in it's something he wants to do someday? 1
Author LoveRunLust Posted July 8, 2016 Author Posted July 8, 2016 was he talking about marrying you or was he talking about marriage in general, as in it's something he wants to do someday? Marrying me.. making these dream like future plans which reminded me of someone who has commitmentered issues, cause they usually say things like this:/
katiegrl Posted July 8, 2016 Posted July 8, 2016 He texts and I respond 5 minutes later and then I don't hear from him for a whole day. Why would he do that? Sweetie why do you care.... thought you said you were gonna back away from this one? Blowing up your phone every day, talking marriage before you've even met.... come on now. As my late mom used to say.... use your "noodle"! He's whacko (she didn't say that) lol 1
Hamish57a Posted July 8, 2016 Posted July 8, 2016 I can totally relate to this guy. It might not be right but I'm guilty. I was not feeling very good about my self and found a woman who seemed like she cared. She was very nice and I was very optimistic. So much that I started to believe that anything was possible. She was afraid and she backed away but she missed out on getting to know the real me. Hey I'm not perfect but I'm a good guy who has learned by that experience. Did I miss out on a terrific chance with a nice lady, yes probably but it's tough not to be optimistic when things just feel so good. I'd say don't run and hide you gave him your number because you liked him. And he called you because he liked you. It's tough enough meeting people. Give him a chance, you never know
leogirl876 Posted July 8, 2016 Posted July 8, 2016 Huge red flag!!! Run for the hills!!! That's creepy and psycho!!!
Teknoe Posted July 8, 2016 Posted July 8, 2016 OP, Do you really even have to ask? You know the answer: RUN.
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