Renae Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 I took my 3 kids fishing yesterday and was approached by a guy. He started asking me about my kids, the area, what i like to do for fun that kind of stuff. He said he was very new to the area. Through his body language was very clearly hitting on me. A cop came and threatened to give us a ticket if we didn't move our cars, because we were illegally parked. I ended up taking the kids to eat and headed home, but on the way home saw a piece of paper under my wipers. Thinking it was a ticket I pulled over and he had left his number for me. I did text him and he wants to meet for coffee. I agreed to meeting him later tonight, as I dont have my kids tonight. But now I am kinda freaking out. He was really forward and clearly showing interest which kinda made me feel a bit uneasy, but not creeped out. I really am new at dating so meeting a compete stranger is pretty scary. His text messages back to me he calle me sexy, said that he didn't want to miss the opportunity to see me again, and that he keeps thinking about my smile. I am not really into that kind of stuff. On the other hand I have a habit of backing off when guys show interest in me. So it could just be me. Anything hints or thoughts are well appreciated. I have dated in almost 15 years.
JewelD Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 Sounds a little creepy. I think you should go with your gut. If he's making you feel uncomfortable already with his forwardness, it's probably going to get worse with time. If he feels comfortable calling you 'sexy' on the first day, what will he be saying to you after a first date? I watch a lot of ID so I also find it strange that he hit on you when you were with your children. Did he have kids with him? If not, I'd be on high alert. If you do meet him, do it somewhere with a lot of people around, and tell someone where you're going and who you're with.
Author Renae Posted July 7, 2016 Author Posted July 7, 2016 He didn't have any kids with him. It was a public beach area. He was checking oit the rental homes that ran alongside where we were fishing.
Author Renae Posted July 7, 2016 Author Posted July 7, 2016 I don't like the feeling of being pursued. So it could just be me.
JewelD Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 I don't like the feeling of being pursued. So it could just be me. Possibly. If you don't like being pursued, maybe you should reconsider if you actually want to date. The 'pursuing' aspect doesn't really stop until one person loses interest or you become a couple.
Author Renae Posted July 7, 2016 Author Posted July 7, 2016 I guess I should change that to I don't like to be actively pursued. Like saying I am sexy, almost like a preasuring. I don't know how to describe it. I liked the guy I was seen casually and he showed interest without preasure.
Gaeta Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 His text messages back to me he called me sexy, . I was all happy for you till I read this. This is totally inappropriate, in my book anyway. He should be worried about making a good impression on you, not laying this thick player's tactic on you. You can go for a coffee but my bet is 95% he's not serious. 1
Gaeta Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 I don't like the feeling of being pursued. So it could just be me. There is being pursued and then there is being chased down. This guy is chasing you down. A well leveled man, a serious one, would approach you casually and speak to you with a lot of respect and wouldn't use <sexy>. I may would have forgiven a <sweetie> but never a sexy on a first contact. I have too much experience now to fall for that one.
Author Renae Posted July 7, 2016 Author Posted July 7, 2016 I was all happy for you till I read this. This is totally inappropriate, in my book anyway. He should be worried about making a good impression on you, not laying this thick player's tactic on you. You can go for a coffee but my bet is 95% he's not serious. It's funny bUT from reading here.. the sexy part threw alarm bells for me.
preraph Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 I think anyone who starts talking about how sexy you are first meeting or first call is creepy. Probably just trying to get laid. Telling a woman she's sexy before you know anything about her, it really can't mean anything else. He uses the word and then if you go along with that, he thinks that's you saying you're going to be sexy with him. 1
Author Renae Posted July 8, 2016 Author Posted July 8, 2016 Well he was supposed to call me around 4 and never did. So nothing gained nor lost.
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