. Im a guy who i fell for a chick while traveling, want her back

[Hollyamy101]

So, last year i met a girl who has flipped my world upside down. Before her I broke up with an ex of 5years, i decided to go travel to another country, as i did, got a job and within 5 months i met the most gorgeous girl, inside and out. She took my breath away, even so much i was too nervous to chat to her so she ended up giving me her number. We dated for 4 months and shared great memories, never faught, i met her family and told mine about her.

 

One day i found out i was being sent away because of my VISA ending but i didnt have the heart to tell her. So i decided to break up with her saying i didnt come for a relationship, which i regret saying now. She was so dissapointed, ended up blocking me wanted to be friends but i couldnt do it.

 

Its been 8 months now and im back in her hometown trying to get a sponsorship through work there so i can stay for 3 years. I recently bumped into her mom and wanted to have coffee with her because i wanted to know if she was ok. Her mom insisted i go she her at her workplace, i promised i would, but freaked out because of nerves.

 

I want her back. Her mom hinted she misses me too.

 

My question is, now im back, do i go chat to her now?

Or

Should i wait until i get the sponsorship then go chat to her? So then i will be there for her.

 

If i dont get my sponsorship i will basically be sent back to the UK.

[ExpatInItaly]

I would simply give her a call, let her know you're in town and would love to catch up. Leave it in her hands from there. Her mom is going to tell her she bumped into you, anyway.

 

Don't show up at her work unannounced and uninvited. You don't know what kind of reaction she will have and work is not the place to do this.

 

I find it a bit odd you didn't tell her that your visa had expired before; why weren't you honest about that? It seems telling her you weren't looking for a relationship would have been harder than citing the real, bureaucratic reasons. She is going to ask you the same thing, by the way. That would have been the far less painful way to leave.

 

Also, if you do see her, let her know you're trying to obtain sponsorship but that you will return home if it doesn't work out. Lay the facts on the table and let her decide if she wants to resume dating.

Edited July 7, 2016 by ExpatInItaly

[Scarlett.O'hara]

So, he broke up with me over text after we dated for 5 months because he was being sent to a different city and said he didnt want heartbreak. Its been 8 months now and his back in my city. He has my mom on facebook. I dont have facebook and did delete him on my social medias only because it would be easier to move on. He recently contacted my mom on fb and said he is in my area and would like to go for coffee. She politely declined but he is still persistant on seeing her so she saw him at work. He told her that his trying to stay in town permately -gets told im 2 months time- he hasnt dated anyone since me- and he was talking about me the other day-also asking how i am. My mom told him you need to chat to her not me. He promised to come see me yesterday too her at my work but he never did. Is he nervous, do you think he wants to get back together? Does he just want to mess with my head?

 

I know he gets nervous because when we liked eachother he was too shy to give his number so i had to give it to his mate.

 

Help me understand, any opinnion is appreciated, i do still care for him. We never had a fight, distance kept us apart.

 

I'm confused. You wrote the quote above as a female, now you write this thread as a guy from the other point of view.

 

I'm not judging, but it is hard to know what help you want exactly?