johndoes Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 (edited) Me and my ex broke up a little over a week ago. And I know people are going to think that by me wanting to do this I am wanting to get back together with her but I don't. I'm going to move on and focus on myself and get me back to how I was before we dated. But it was a mutual split. We just stopped hanging out all together. I kept seeing if she wanted to do anything and she never had the time or always had plans. It was about a month of that. So I just texted her asking what is going on and eventually the conversation lead to us coming to terms that we shouldn't be together. Dated for seven months and I was giving her everything I could but never got the same back from her. After we broke up I went out and ran into my old ex prior to her and we ended up hooking up. I was getting the attention from her that I always wanted from my recent ex. I'm not proud of it and it was out of my character but it happened. Well we work together and have mutual friends and it made it back to her that I had sex. She told me it was hurtful to her that I did it only two days after. Understandable but during our conversation about it I just didn't want to hear any of it so I was being short with her saying that were just not the right people for each other. Also she had screen shotted our convo and sent it to a mutual friend with her saying "don't try and act like your the **** now". I got pissed and I told her off saying that "this isnt me trying to be the ****, this is just me not giving a ****. I did a lot for you and got nothing in returned." She never responded back. Now like I said it's been a week since that and we haven't talked at work, through text or nothing. I got rid of my snap chat and Facebook and kinda just went off the grid. I want to apologize to her for doing what I did with my ex. I think it will be closure for me cause I know it was wrong. No intentions on getting back with her anytime soon. Edited July 7, 2016 by johndoes
Sunkissedpatio Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 Wow I think if more people were willing to do what you want to do there would be a lot less anger after break-ups. Personally I would have loved to hear my ex-fiance apologize for cheating on me getting together with his OW two days after he dumped me. Not to get back with him but to see that he had an ounce of emotion and morals left in his black heart and soul. I would definitely send the apology for closure but I would also do it with her feelings in mind and what you think she might need out of it. Regardless of why you broke up knowing that you feel regret and acted out of ______ whatever prompted you to do it, is better than leaving things like you ended them. That's just my 2cents...for whatever it's worth. Good luck in whatever you decide.
bubbaganoosh Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 Look you and her were broke up. You met up with your old girlfriend and were unattached so you did nothing wrong and it doesn't warrant an apology. As far as you having words with your girlfriend you just broke up with, you told her like it is that she never gave you what you needed. I think she's mad because you laid it on the line. If it's me, I don't write the letter for being honest.
Giggles666 Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 //After we broke up I went out and ran into my old ex prior to her and we ended up hooking up. I was getting the attention from her that I always wanted from my recent ex. I'm not proud of it and it was out of my character but it happened.// You broke up, maybe it hurt her and it does not feel right to you. Morally I do not see any problems. If however it makes you feel better to apologize, go for it.
basil67 Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 You didn't do anything wrong. She faded so you ended the relationship - you were a free agent and free to sleep with a new person. If she *really* cared that much about you, she wouldn't have faded on you. Don't apologise.
Author johndoes Posted July 10, 2016 Author Posted July 10, 2016 ***update*** I ended up just biting the bullet and apologizing. We had our conversation and we are going to work on it. Can't say it will work for everyone like it did for me but it's worth a shot. At least you will know. Just remember that it takes both parties wanting to work on things not one or the other. You just need to put your pride aside and do it.
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