Why has my ex unfollowed on social media and untagged pictured on facebook?

[jessicat94]

me and my ex boyfriend broke up nearly 7 weeks ago. He said he didn't feel the same way anymore, but said he still had feelings for me. It's really confusing I don't really understand it. i think he may have gigs (grass is greener syndrome). he has never said it is completely over, but said he doesn't want the relationship anymore. He said he doesn't want to date anyone yet though as he has had so much relationship time (we lived together) and that he just wants time to himself. he said living together is what made him feel this way- he said he felt suffocated/trapped in the relationship- and really just wasn't ready for it. He gave the "it's not you, it's me" excuse

It was pretty out of the blue - our relationship was a good one. We didn't argue much at all, we got a along so well, respected each other and were best friends

 

Anyway, we went to a festival with mutual friends 3 weeks after we broke up and i noticed he unfollowed me on all social media after this weekend. I had already deleted him on Facebook and Instagram but he stayed following me on Instagram, however unfollowed me after the festival as well as on twitter, snapchat and even Spotify?!? (however it may have been before the festival, this was just when i noticed). I also just noticed today ( nearly a month later) that he has untagged all photos that we are together in at the festival on Facebook and some prior to that. We don't have many pictures together on Facebook - they're all pretty much from nights out etc from being with friends but he's untagged all but one, which i'm guessing he forgot about.

 

Why on earth would he do this??

 

He's the one who wanted to break up with me?

 

I don't get it?

 

What's he trying to do by unfollowing me/ untagging pictures?

 

It's like he's trying to cut me out of his life completely even though he said I'm not someone who he can cut out of his life and he'd like to be friends one day.

We kind of still live together, but are trying to stay at friends houses most of the time so we can have space, sometimes when he comes to our house he chats to me and sometimes he basically ignores me. I did ask him to not act like it's normal and come and conversate with me me like everythings normal because it's not fair on me and i need space (which he got very annoyed at me for saying). I want to go NC which i can't do when he walks in and starts talking to me.- but yeah sometimes he still does try to have a conversation and sometimes ignores me. A couple of days ago we walked passed each other in the street and literally both just said hi and carried on walking.

 

please don't give it answers saying it doesn't matter right now what he's doing or feeling etc etc. i really want to know why he would do all this social media stuff? I don't understand how he feels.

Edited July 6, 2016 by jessicat94

[Zahara]

he has never said it is completely over, but said he doesn't want the relationship anymore.

 

That would mean the relationship is over.

 

Why on earth would he do this??

 

I know I have done it when I felt it was time to move on. When I knew the relationship was finally over and it was time for me to put away the triggers and the reminders of what was.

 

He's the one who wanted to break up with me?

 

It was a break-up. He ended the relationship. All that other stuff they say is just to textbook responses to alleviate guilt and hurt. Sometimes it's the cowardly thing to do because they can't come out right and end it but rather pussy foot around it. Or they do it to keep you as a fallback just incase they decide they want to come back.

 

What's he trying to do by unfollowing me/ untagging pictures?

 

Again, maybe he needs to move on and has to cut the cord. Maybe he's met someone and is changing his social media status.

 

It's like he's trying to cut me out of his life completely even though he said I'm not someone who he can cut out of his life and he'd like to be friends one day.

 

In order to be friends, the emotional attachment needs to be completely severed. Having insight into each others lives does not help achieve that. For now, that attachment has to be cut.

 

I did ask him to not act like it's normal and come and conversate with me me like everythings normal because it's not fair on me and i need space

 

It's not his responsibility to protect your heart. It's yours and if it's not fair on you, you establish a boundary -- you move out, he moves out. Anything in between is just unnecessary hurt.

Edited July 6, 2016 by Zahara

[basil67]

I'm afraid he's doing this because he's working at moving on. It doesn't matter who did the breaking up, the same winding back of online stuff needs to happen.

 

I get that he said all that nice stuff to you, but it was just him trying to be nice while extricating himself from the relationship. It's the stuff which is commonly said when we breakup from someone we don't actually dislike.

 

You said that you still kinda live together. How soon till one of you moves out for good?