Jason_777 Posted July 6, 2016 Posted July 6, 2016 Hello everybody! I'm Jason and I'm new in the forum:) I would like to tell you something which happened to me and hear your opinion (especially girls), I would appreciate it a lot Ok, SOOO, last year I moved to Chicago for work, and ended up in a nice environment with friendly and easy going colleagues; among them, a cute blonde girl from Detroit, Amy. She has been engaged for a few years (her boyfriend is really a dou@@e) and we established a good feeling since almost the beginning. After a few months I noticed that she started staring at me often in the office and also started to make jokes and smiling, plus other signs, all denoting that she liked me, especially during this last month. The, the other day, when we remained alone, she asked for my number and (literally) told me "we could go out one of this days, I can show your my bedroom.." and I immediately interepreted this as she wanted to have sex with me. The day after I went abroad for a couple of days (due to work). When I came back to the office (5 days ago) I finally texted her and asked her to go out drinking smt..however, she replied me and acted very disenchanted, as she was not interested at all, and eventually didn't go out..the next day she told me (by voice) that if we wanted we could go out and that she would have also invited some other colleagues of ours with us (our working friends). I said ok, but then nothing happened and from that day (4 days ago) she never wrote my again.. I feel very confused.....I thought she was interested in me....why asking me my number, telling me that thing and then act like this? ....do you think she's just playing with me? Did you experience similar situations? Girls' comments would be highly appreciated, since I am afraid I will never understand the female brain.. what would you suggest me to do????? Cheers! Jason
Zahara Posted July 6, 2016 Posted July 6, 2016 She has a boyfriend. Her first communication with you is to invite you to check out her bedroom. Yuck. Her boyfriend is a supposed douche, just because SHE says so? There's always two sides to the story. If anything her behavior is douchey and you're getting involved with someone at work and the outcome could be disastrous. Red flags. You moved to a new city, go out and make friends, join a dating site, etc. Expand your social circle, meet available and respectable women and don't jeopardize your career. 2
Author Jason_777 Posted July 6, 2016 Author Posted July 6, 2016 Ok....but WHY did she do this? That is what I'd like to understand....
Zahara Posted July 6, 2016 Posted July 6, 2016 Ok....but WHY did she do this? That is what I'd like to understand.... Why she changed her mind? Maybe she changed her mind about cheating. Maybe she realized it was a bad idea to get involved with a co-worker. Maybe she found a better prospect to cheat with. Maybe her boyfriend found out. Who knows why exactly she changed her mind. It doesn't matter. Unless you're feeling devalued and your ego is bruised? You dodged a bullet here. 1
TXGuy Posted July 6, 2016 Posted July 6, 2016 One possible explanation of her behavior: At the time she invited you out/to her room, she was horny and wanted sex. You basically turned her down and came back a week later. At that point, she was no longer interested. Maybe she wasn't in the mood. Maybe she no longer wanted to revenge **** a guy to get back at her boyfriend due to an earlier fight. Maybe she thought better of it. Maybe she was pissed at you for rejecting her/not making a move when the iron was hot. I agree with others, you should leave this one alone. You probably don't want to bring this drama into the workplace.
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