KamaKyzie Posted July 6, 2016 Posted July 6, 2016 Hi there loveshack, it's been a while. I hope you are all well. I am in a bit of a pickle at the moment and I'd appreciate your thoughts. Let me describe myself to help you better understand me. I am 19 years old, fit, handsome and intelligent. I finish uni halfway through next year and big things are expected of me. I live at home and have minimal money (Dad's lazy and hasn't worked for 3 years). To the issue. The last 3 months I have changed as a person. I have gone from toying with many girls and leading them on to genuinely caring about one girl and not even thinking about others. This has never happened to me in my life. I have always loved feeding my ego with lots of female attention, but I don't find myself caring about that any more. The problem is, she likes lives in a different state to me. I know she likes me, but I've found myself feeling exceptionally anxious and stressed. I've never fallen like this. The other thing is, I failed my driving test and feel like trash. What girl wants to date a guy that can't drive? It makes me feel extremely insecure. I feel quite pathetic to be honest. I'll be seeing her next week and I'm thinking of telling her how I feel. However, I keep thinking of all the things that could go wrong. For the first time, I'm the vulnerable one. I care deeply for her. I'm also scared I'll be forced to choose between her and my degree. I would really appreciate some advice on this. Should I put my heart on the line? Tell her how I feel? Are my worries justified? For the first time I don't care about ego feeding or flirting, I just care about her. However, I have also lost faith in myself for various reasons (driving, lack of money, distance), despite the cocky image I may present to my peers. Any advice will be hugely appreciated like you wouldn't believe.
smackie9 Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 I suspect you just hang out as friends? or you just message each other? My advice, don't profess any feelings unless you are officially BF/GF. Save it for then. Secondly a lot of people fail their first driver's test...it just means you need to spend more time on the road, get more confidence in yourself, and focus more on what is important. So that being said, put this girl on the back burner for a bit and get your crap together. Get a job, get your license, get more confidence.
VeveCakes Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 What does your relationship consist of now? Hanging out? Texting, calls?
Author KamaKyzie Posted July 7, 2016 Author Posted July 7, 2016 What does your relationship consist of now? Hanging out? Texting, calls? Seeing each other at intervals. There are strong feelings there, that I know for sure. I'm just terrified of messing up the next step.
Buddhist Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 Well it's nice that you've realised these things about yourself. My only advice is this.... If you decide not to confess to this girl then can you live with that? Regretting what might have been because you were too scared to face down your fears? That's the only basis on which you should make your decision.
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