venus83 Posted July 6, 2016 Posted July 6, 2016 (edited) Hey guys! So I have been seeing this guy for about 2 months now! We are not official and I am almost sure he is dating other girls too....! Which is ok for now because we are knowing each other....and I am happy with the pace things are going! We see each other almost every week...and spent one whole weekend together last week! Thing is, he planned this amazing trip in north see - Iceland and he is staying away for 5 weeks sailing around there! Which I think is amazing, since I am a sailor too and I am happy that he had this oppty! Also, sailing is something that kinda connect us! Thing is we are just starting to get some connection and we have one more date next week and is probably out last date before he leaves! I am a bit unsure how to desl with that... I will for sure miss him but in 5 weeks he can change his mind abt so many stuff.... I truely didn't want to make things cool down....but I guess I dont have much choice! Is therr something I should let him know or say so he can be a bit scared to loose me? I truely dont want to do this game because I want him to wnjoy his trip at most! I think beeing happy for him is more genuine...but how do I let him know I like him and I am a bit scared and at the same time I want him to just be happy? Also, ist there something special I could do for him before he travels? Guess I am just a bit insecure... and wanted our relationship to go further when he comes back... I have the feeling he is holding back because of his trip, which makes sense! Appreciate some thoughts abt this! Edited July 6, 2016 by venus83
TXGuy Posted July 6, 2016 Posted July 6, 2016 There really isn't much you can do to make things 'better'. But there are plenty of things you can do to make things worse. For example, giving him the impression he will 'lose you' while he is gone will likely doom the relationship. Professing your love before he leaves will also likely make things difficult. Assuming you would like to resume things when he returns, the best thing to do is be cheerful, wish him a good trip, and tell hike you will miss him and will look forward to him returning. 1
Author venus83 Posted July 7, 2016 Author Posted July 7, 2016 There really isn't much you can do to make things 'better'. But there are plenty of things you can do to make things worse. For example, giving him the impression he will 'lose you' while he is gone will likely doom the relationship. Professing your love before he leaves will also likely make things difficult. Assuming you would like to resume things when he returns, the best thing to do is be cheerful, wish him a good trip, and tell hike you will miss him and will look forward to him returning. tks! I think I will just make him feel happy about all this thing! Which is pretty much what I want him to feel! Hopefully we will get back together when he comes back...!
Author venus83 Posted August 27, 2016 Author Posted August 27, 2016 Well, the 5 weeks were gone. I just wished him a good trip and waited him to contact me. I was very surprised that he kept in touch every now and than texting me, saying he was looking forward to see me and was really happy he had met me. I was happy and surprised...he seems a bit more affectionate now that he is back, but still very closed....! We met already and was very nice...we didn't talk about relationship or commitment...we are just having fun for now and knowing each other I guess......I am not sure how long this phase should last...but still...was a good advice to let him take the lead on the communication....
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