dreamingoftigers Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 He's at least thinking you're going to have sex so expect him to make a move. I'm bleary-eyed and read, "except him to make a movie." And my first thought was, "have I been out of the dating scene that long?"
dreamingoftigers Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 Thanks for the input everyone and the dinner date went really well. We didn't have sex, he just wanted to ask me to be his girlfriend. Here we are roughly 3 months later and after a lovely weekend away to meet his family, I feel heart broken. His ex gf messaged me and told me to back off because them two were back together. She also mentioned her pregnancy. I then talked to my boyfriend about it and he did not deny that this could be true because the timing seemed so right (it's been 9 months since they last slept together). He also said that if he was the father he would take full responsibility. I admire his decision to take care of the child and acknowledge that this happened before we met. But I can't help but feel upset. I feel like if I decide to stay in this relationship, sooner or later the two of them would rekindle their relationship. And that I'd always be his second or third priority. Am I childish for thinking this way? Whoa. Plot twist. This thread escalated quickly. No one thought to mention the pregnant girlfriend for a whole THREE trimesters? 3
introverted1 Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 Thanks for the input everyone and the dinner date went really well. We didn't have sex, he just wanted to ask me to be his girlfriend. Here we are roughly 3 months later and after a lovely weekend away to meet his family, I feel heart broken. His ex gf messaged me and told me to back off because them two were back together. She also mentioned her pregnancy. I then talked to my boyfriend about it and he did not deny that this could be true because the timing seemed so right (it's been 9 months since they last slept together). He also said that if he was the father he would take full responsibility. I admire his decision to take care of the child and acknowledge that this happened before we met. But I can't help but feel upset. I feel like if I decide to stay in this relationship, sooner or later the two of them would rekindle their relationship. And that I'd always be his second or third priority. Am I childish for thinking this way? What do you mean, the ex MAY be pregnant? If they haven't slept together in 9 months, that means the baby is about to be born. There certainly wouldn't be any question about whether she's pregnant, at least not by him, unless their last time together was a lot more recent. Whoa. Plot twist. This thread escalated quickly. No one thought to mention the pregnant girlfriend for a whole THREE trimesters? Right? o.O 1
Author Pink_Glitter Posted September 17, 2016 Author Posted September 17, 2016 My head hurts thinking about who's lying and who isn't. I'm trying really hard to trust my bf but it's difficult. I asked him about why did he think she was pregnant. Also, why did he think the baby was his. He just said because the timing was right. He said he's been trying to reach her to clarify the situation to see if she's pregnant or not. And if she is then is the child his. Should I break it off between the two of us until this issue ressolve? I feel like such an idiot.
Gaeta Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 His ex gf messaged me and told me to back off because them two were back together. She also mentioned her pregnancy. I then talked to my boyfriend about it and he did not deny that this could be true because the timing seemed so right (it's been 9 months since they last slept together). He also said that if he was the father he would take full responsibility. I admire his decision to take care of the child and acknowledge that this happened before we met. But I can't help but feel upset. I feel like if I decide to stay in this relationship, sooner or later the two of them would rekindle their relationship. And that I'd always be his second or third priority. Am I childish for thinking this way? * Since when he knew she was pregnant? Sure it happened before you met but he knew when he met you! and he kept some type of relationship with her because she is under the impression they are back together. If she is under the impression they are back together that is 100% sure they are having sex. Then if the child is his he will take full responsibility, what's that? he will get back with her? What a deceiving little prick he is!! I am so sorry you were used. I would dump him. Not because there is a risk to get back to his ex, but because he mislead you for 3 months. He knew when he met you that she may be pregnant with his child and if so he'd get back to her.
Gaeta Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 My head hurts thinking about who's lying and who isn't. I'm trying really hard to trust my bf but it's difficult. I asked him about why did he think she was pregnant. Also, why did he think the baby was his. He just said because the timing was right. He said he's been trying to reach her to clarify the situation to see if she's pregnant or not. And if she is then is the child his. Should I break it off between the two of us until this issue ressolve? I feel like such an idiot. When is she due? 1
Author Pink_Glitter Posted September 17, 2016 Author Posted September 17, 2016 He said the last time they had sex was early this year. So if he is telling the truth then the ex gf must be with their newborn right now. 1
Gaeta Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 He said the last time they had sex was early this year. So if he is telling the truth then the ex gf must be with their newborn right now. No kidding, so he dated you while an ex was pregnant of him and delivered their baby and said nothing. Can you have more deceiving than that!! When is the paternity test? 2
Gaeta Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 He said the last time they had sex was early this year. So if he is telling the truth then the ex gf must be with their newborn right now. When did she contact you? You said when she spoke to you she told you about her pregnancy, not having a baby already. 2
Author Pink_Glitter Posted September 17, 2016 Author Posted September 17, 2016 My bf doesn't even know if the ex is infact pregnant or not. He's been trying to get answers from her but she wouldn't get in contact with him. Out of the blue, she contacted me and said that she is pregnant and told me to back off. My bf said the last time they met was when he broke up with her (a couple of months ago) and that she's obsessive. I don't know who to believe.
elaine567 Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 My bf doesn't even know if the ex is infact pregnant or not. He's been trying to get answers from her but she wouldn't get in contact with him. Out of the blue, she contacted me and said that she is pregnant and told me to back off. My bf said the last time they met was when he broke up with her (a couple of months ago) and that she's obsessive. I don't know who to believe. Ok, so they last had sex 9 months ago but he split up with her only 2 months ago? 4
Gaeta Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 My bf doesn't even know if the ex is infact pregnant or not. He's been trying to get answers from her but she wouldn't get in contact with him. Out of the blue, she contacted me and said that she is pregnant and told me to back off. My bf said the last time they met was when he broke up with her (a couple of months ago) and that she's obsessive. I don't know who to believe. Ok, this is a drama queen trying to ruin your BF love life. I suggest you both block her. She knows where he lives so if she wants to claim his paternity she'll have to go through her lawyer. My question is WHY in the world your boyfriend wasting his time trying to speak with her??? And why is he making statements like he'll take full responsibility when he does not even know if she got pregnant AT ALL.
Author Pink_Glitter Posted September 17, 2016 Author Posted September 17, 2016 Ok, this is a drama queen trying to ruin your BF love life. I suggest you both block her. She knows where he lives so if she wants to claim his paternity she'll have to go through her lawyer. My question is WHY in the world your boyfriend wasting his time trying to speak with her??? And why is he making statements like he'll take full responsibility when he does not even know if she got pregnant AT ALL. I really want to know why he keeps wanting to get in contact with her too. At times, it feels like he's sure that she's pregnant with his child and at other times he keeps saying that it's not possible.
elaine567 Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 Ok, this is a drama queen trying to ruin your BF love life. I suggest you both block her. She knows where he lives so if she wants to claim his paternity she'll have to go through her lawyer. My question is WHY in the world your boyfriend wasting his time trying to speak with her??? And why is he making statements like he'll take full responsibility when he does not even know if she got pregnant AT ALL. I think he knows a lot more than he is telling the OP. He may even be leading a double life here. 4
Gaeta Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 I really want to know why he keeps wanting to get in contact with her too. At times, it feels like he's sure that she's pregnant with his child and at other times he keeps saying that it's not possible. How long did he date her? Can't he call a family member of hers or a girl friend of hers? Does she live close by? can't he wait for her outside her building and speak with her? Accusing someone of being the father of a child is serious.
Author Pink_Glitter Posted September 17, 2016 Author Posted September 17, 2016 I really hope that he's not living a double life. Maybe, I'm just avoiding the truth. He was with her for roughly 5 months, slept with her once and her family is not in the country.
Gaeta Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 I really hope that he's not living a double life. Maybe, I'm just avoiding the truth. He was with her for roughly 5 months, slept with her once and her family is not in the country. How old is he? In 5 months he slept with her once? That sounds a bit far fetched no? And that ONE time she got pregnant. Didn't they use protection? 4
Author Pink_Glitter Posted September 17, 2016 Author Posted September 17, 2016 He said only once did they have sex and he never finished inside her. When he broke up with her, she said she could be pregnant but she refused to do a pregnancy test. So he's been paranoid until last week when he remembered that it'd been 9 months. How true is this?
Gaeta Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 He said only once did they have sex and he never finished inside her. When he broke up with her, she said she could be pregnant but she refused to do a pregnancy test. So he's been paranoid until last week when he remembered that it'd been 9 months. How true is this? So they had unprotected sex? Of course she can get pregnant even if he doesn't finish inside her. They don't teach the danger of pre-cum anymore!!. 2
Gaeta Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 You did not answer the following question: * How old is your boyfriend? * When did his ex contact you? * The ex told you she was pregnant or that she had a baby?
Author Pink_Glitter Posted September 17, 2016 Author Posted September 17, 2016 Sorry, my brain is all muddled up. He's 25, his ex contacted me about two weeks ago and she's said she's pregnant.
stillafool Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 What did he say when you told him the ex gf told you to back off because they are back together? Did he deny it and offer to set her straight? See the update about his pregnant ex. I read that but I want to know if he is going to set the pregnant ex straight about asking OP to back off. Did the bf mention to OP whether he will tell her that you are in fact his gf and will be around during and after the baby is born?
Author Pink_Glitter Posted September 17, 2016 Author Posted September 17, 2016 She did not say. She just said she's pregnant, it's his and they're together
Gaeta Posted September 17, 2016 Posted September 17, 2016 She did not say. She just said she's pregnant, it's his and they're together And you did not ask any questions? This girl has a FB you can go check?
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