Shouldn't a guy be accommodating when it comes to what time to meet up?

[TheMets]

So, I'm talking to this guy on a dating site, he wants to meet up at 7:30pm tomorrow night, but 7:30p is a bit late for me because I have to get up early for work, plus having to drive 20 minutes. I told him if he could meet me up earlier at like 6:30pm or 7pm, at least, he simply said 7:30 is the "earliest" for him. I'm like wth??? What about me? 7:30 is the latest for me, shouldn't he at least reserve a time to meet earlier for this meeting? I'm getting pissed. What? I have to go out of MY way to meet this random guy go out of my schedule? Sounds dumb, who is right and who is wrong? Am I being a bitch about this?

[Gaeta]

Geez relax!!!

 

Why do you assume he is being difficult! If he cannot before it's because he has a prior engagement. You know nothing of this guy maybe he needs to drive his sick mother to her chemo therapy treatment or something.

 

If you cannot tomorrow than pick another day.

[Shining One]

So, I'm talking to this guy on a dating site, he wants to meet up at 7:30pm tomorrow night, but 7:30p is a bit late for me because I have to get up early for work, plus having to drive 20 minutes. I told him if he could meet me up earlier at like 6:30pm or 7pm, at least, he simply said 7:30 is the "earliest" for him. I'm like wth??? What about me? 7:30 is the latest for me, shouldn't he at least reserve a time to meet earlier for this meeting? I'm getting pissed. What? I have to go out of MY way to meet this random guy go out of my schedule? Sounds dumb, who is right and who is wrong? Am I being a bitch about this?

Do you know what his schedule is like? I scheduled weekday dates fairly late myself because I rarely got out of the office before 6:30 PM. If he says 7:30 is his earliest, it likely means he has other commitments preventing him from being there earlier.

 

I also dated quite a few women who worked retail jobs that didn't finish until 9:00 PM. I never judged them negatively for asking to schedule dates later than that.

[normal person]

Well I agree that men should be accommodating, but I also think it's ridiculous for you to expect him to accommodate you at the expense of whatever else he has to do. He is trying to be accommodating, he said he could do 7:30 at the earliest (as opposed to saying something like "8:30 would be nice for me"). Just because he's actually incapable of meeting when you want doesn't meet he's selfish, it just means you picked the wrong day because neither of you can make that time. That being said, asking to meet someone at 7:30 isn't totally unreasonable for most people. You just have extenuating circumstances because you have to get up early for work (I think?).

 

Why not try another day when he doesn't have a meeting?

 

And yeah, you seem to be getting unusually upset over a stranger. I'd say if it causes you that much stress, maybe try a different guy with a more open schedule?

[mrldii]

OP, he could have just as a compelling - or perhaps even more compelling - reason why 7:30's the earliest he can do.

 

If it's this big of a deal, perhaps it's the heavens' way of letting you know this is NOT the guy for you.

 

 

But as to your stated question, "Shouldn't a guy be accommodating when it comes to what time to meet up?"...no. "A guy" needs to be no more accommodating than "a gal" does; both are equally capable of digging in their little heels and not budging an inch on anything.

 

Best of luck to you...

[Satu]

Neither of you are right or wrong.

 

If he can't make it earlier than 7,30 and thats too late for you, just cancel your date.

 

 

Take care.

[katiegrl]

So, I'm talking to this guy on a dating site, he wants to meet up at 7:30pm tomorrow night, but 7:30p is a bit late for me because I have to get up early for work, plus having to drive 20 minutes. I told him if he could meet me up earlier at like 6:30pm or 7pm, at least, he simply said 7:30 is the "earliest" for him. I'm like wth??? What about me? 7:30 is the latest for me, shouldn't he at least reserve a time to meet earlier for this meeting? I'm getting pissed. What? I have to go out of MY way to meet this random guy go out of my schedule? Sounds dumb, who is right and who is wrong? Am I being a bitch about this?

 

At the risk of sounding rude ... you sound extremely self-entitled and uptight.

 

Relax, chill! The time HE can meet is just as important as the time YOU can meet.

 

If it's too late for you which frankly I find hard to believe, it's only 30 minutes after what YOU proposed, then reschedule for another night.

 

You seem to have a lot of very rigid expectations about how a guy should be. Get rid of those if you want to be successful at dating.

 

This is your first meet for heaven's sake. Give the guy a break!

Edited July 6, 2016 by katiegrl

[bachdude]

Someone better warn this guy to bring the limo and red carpet when picking her up.

Edited July 6, 2016 by bachdude

[TheMets]

Seems like "7:30" is the only time for him for any day of the week including Sunday's! And to add he has the nerve to suggest us cooking together at "his place" on a weekday- seeing that he lives like 45 minutes away from me, it's totally rude, what he expects me to drive seeing that I have to work the next morning, yeah whatever, clearly he's interested in getting some free poon. I mean, he's being inconsiderate to even suggest going out of my way to drive 45 min to his home to cook when I have important engagements like getting up early for work. He doesn't have kids and he works from home, what prior engagements could he possibly have?