Maggie888 Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 The whole "if i haven't from him by tomorrow afternoon thing/make other plans"...sure I can ask a friend to hang out (and will) but what if I honestly don't have other plans... should I still make time for this guy? (assuming he gets back to me at a point later than he said he would) I'm split bc I don't want to seem like a push over/available even if he gets back to me late, but I also don't want to end up sitting home alone while I could be out with him but i just said "i have other plans" to teach him a lesson in getting back in time. This is a tough one. I see what you are saying and its clear you really like him. I think if you are clear that his intentions are likely casual at this point and that he is probably dating others, and you can truly accept that, then sure, accept a date if he contacts you last minute. But if you are truly wanting a comitted relationship then Id think twice about going out with him when he has already shown you he doesnt keep his word. My concern is 1) your feelings grow by spending time with him; and 2) his cockiness and disrespect for you grows by you accepting a last minute date after he failed to do what he said he would do Short answer i guess is just make plans with a friend to do something, anything. Have you heard from him?
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 I really don't like this. He sounds very arrogant and the 83% thing is a turn off. Sounds like he is multi-dating and you are not the first option. Personally, it would turn me off so much that I would lose all interest but I know there are women who are willing to wait and see and if over time the guy warms up.
Author ThisisIt606 Posted July 7, 2016 Author Posted July 7, 2016 No, I didn't hear from him at all yesterday or last night ( when he said he would let me know). I'm annoyed and a bit hurt. Since the 83% (whether he's trying to be funny or not) does come off as arrogant I don't want to give him the satisfaction of my following up to such a stupid percentage rather than a straight answer. I've been pretty blunt/ forth coming with him as far as getting together and liking him. I feel like it's a bigger message if I suddenly go radio silent. He either wonders where I went and reaches out, or if he doesn't even text again.... I can thank goodness I dodged a bullet and figured out his dishonest ways early instead of wasting weeks or months. I do realize he's not bf material but would be good for fun and potential s*x.
Zahara Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 I do realize he's not bf material but would be good for fun and potential s*x. You're already annoyed and hurt because he didn't follow through on a second date. Potential sex is not something you will be able to handle. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 No, I didn't hear from him at all yesterday or last night ( when he said he would let me know). I'm annoyed and a bit hurt. Since the 83% (whether he's trying to be funny or not) does come off as arrogant I don't want to give him the satisfaction of my following up to such a stupid percentage rather than a straight answer. I've been pretty blunt/ forth coming with him as far as getting together and liking him. I feel like it's a bigger message if I suddenly go radio silent. He either wonders where I went and reaches out, or if he doesn't even text again.... I can thank goodness I dodged a bullet and figured out his dishonest ways early instead of wasting weeks or months. I do realize he's not bf material but would be good for fun and potential s*x. The thing is, he didn't care enough to follow through with you. So unfortunately it won't bother him that you go silent. Go silent because he's not worth spending more energy. And no, he wouldn't be material even for good fun or sex. You still need someone who does what he says he will do, even to make a casual arrangement. 2
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