He's not interested enough right? Mixed signals

[Confusedovo]

Well...I know the guy through a friend (ish). I was friends with her (his ex) in the past, and became very close to their young daughter. However haven't seen her in close to a year, and we don't really communicate anymore besides having each other on Facebook, and even then it' only the odd like on a post. So can't say we are friends anymore. When I was friends with her, I never met her ex atlough she had shown me pics of him, so I knew what he looked like. Around a year ago, he msged me on Facebook asking me to try and help them reunite basically. Telling me he loves her. I said I wasn't getting involved as they were having issues. That was that.

 

Back in feb I bump into him for the first time. We recognised each other through fb pics. It was in a shop and he was with a friend. He smiled and say hi as he was passing. I said hi back. He looked back and gave a big smile. I thought wow he's even better looking in person. But I wasn't even thinking of anything , as didn't want a sticky situation. When I got home he msged on fb saying "I remember you now lol" and resent a friend request i had previously declined. I left it on requested and didn't reply to the msg.

 

Then in the last month, I would see him all the time. It's like whenever I went into the city there he was! It's actually pretty strange, as it's not a really small city, just medium really. The next few times I would see him, we would always say hello and smile, and I got the impression he was attracted to me by the way he looked at me really. Either one or both if us seemed to always be with someone else when we would bump into each other tho. No more msgs sent. Finally last Friday I was alone sat on a bench, he was alone to. I smiled and waved and he came over.

 

We chatted about his daughter, his shoes that I complimented, and just basic things. He sat really close to me, our legs touching. Lots of eye contact, smiling, laughing. He asked if I was with anyone, I told him no I'm single, I asked him if he was back with his ex he said "not yet," (hmm???) His first language isnt English, so there's a chance that was a mistake? Anyway yeah, I definitely felt like he liked me then. He asked my plans for the night, I told him I had none. He said something about maybe meeting up, but tbh I'm not sure the exact words he used. Anyway... he said he was going to get a haircut and was meant to meet a friend but if plans change he'll let me know. I said "we should definitely meet up sometime " and aske him if he wanted my number (mistake?) And he said yes, we swapped numbers. He gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek.

 

Later that evening I text asking about his haircut. We chatted a bit. He was going out with a friend but not until way later. So he did have some time free. We chatted tho, later that night I said I couldn't sleep and he said he needs a cuddle. I asked him who he wants to cuddle )he said "I'm still looking who wants to cuddle me, anyone who can't sleep can cuddle me" I said I was in bed cuddling my pillow but he might be better to cuddle. He said "lol send me a pic" I didn't want to so I laughed it off and said "you forgotten what I look like? " He said "yes lol"

 

The next evening I bumped into him again. I was with my family. But they were going into a shop, so I stopped outside and said hello . One of us asked what the other was doing, can't remember which, and he said he wasn't sure. I said "we should meet here later" as their was a parade on in the city. He said "I'll text you later" and we said out goodbyes. Nothing from him all night and I sent "you suck" to which he just started small talk "how are you" blah blah. I was pretty annoyed and tired, so it was a short convo. No communication Sunday or Monday. This evening I just text him asking how he is. He replied enthusiastically and sent me pics of the meal he had made. However the convo died soon. His last msg was "lol" so I feel like I'm forcing it if I reply?

 

I think I've been too forward right? Hes not interested? Not sure if I should totally forget about him or how to play it?

[Satu]

You've definitely made your interest plain.

 

He's in no doubt about it.

 

All you've had from him so far, is superficial niceties.

 

Don't build your expectations too high.

 

Its really up to him now.

 

 

Take care.

[smackie9]

I think he's kinda unsure what to do about it atm. Give him a little more time and see what happens....but I agree with Satu do not invest anymore unless he puts forward his interest proper like asking you out on a date.

 

Be careful tho, my gut says he might only be looking for something casual. Asking for pics of you in bed and his lack of asking you out is giving me the impression he's just hope you will just offer sex.

[Confusedovo]

Thanks for the replies.

 

I'm thinking I'll not initiate text convo again. See if he comes to me. And when I bump into him (which I will!) just be friendly but cool? Definitely no mentioning meeting up again.

 

Does that sound about right?