Boyfriend is possibly leaving me because of sudden stress with work, doesn't try meet

[blissfuloddity]

Recently, the past two weeks have been awfully silent between me and my boyfriend, B, of four months. We have known each other for only six months. In those four months, we moved pretty fast, hung out a lot, did many things sexually. We're both only 18, and I know you might think it's too soon to know that we love each other because of our age, but we do. We told each other around the second month. We experienced everything senior-oriented together: prom, graduation, grad night, etc.

 

The main problem I'd like to share with you guys is that he is distancing himself tremendously from me. Over a week ago he stopped texting me his regular cutesy messages and telling me when he's off work so we can hang out. B works a lot, and in the fall he's going to be going to a college right next to mine to be a nurse. He told me one time that he was overwhelmed about all the hours he's picked up and I tried to tell him he's just got to learn how to balance everything. Then after that, the distancing started. We'd hang out about 4 times a week and now this past week, nothing. He doesn't text. I have to text him. Around Wednesday last week he said he'd let me know when he wants to meet up to talk. It's already Tuesday of this week. I've been making the mistake of texting him stupidly, begging almost. I know, I know. I shouldn't do that. But I'm at a complete loss. I'm blindsided. He said he can probably meet tomorrow because he has a night shift. He also told me I can't help him with his problems. (He apparently has another problem he's not telling me about.) I feel like I've been pushed into the darkness and my mind keeps racing with theories as to why he's being like this.

I miss him. I miss him so much and I honest to god, cannot stop crying over him. I keep replaying all our good times in my head over and over and thinking that he never really loved me or cared for our relationship. I want to be there for him if he's really so stressed out. I want to be his friend at least.

I am so depressed about this all and just need answers and then I can gain closure and/or possibly help him.

 

TLDR; My boyfriend, B, is distancing himself because of work and school and is not communicating with me about his problems. He is also putting off a meet up to talk.

[PegNosePete]

I know you might think it's too soon to know that we love each other because of our age

I will not say it is too soon or because of your age. But I will say that if he loved you, he would not be treating you like this. Therefore I'm afraid the clear evidence says that he does not love you.

 

(He apparently has another problem he's not telling me about.)

I wonder what her name is...?

 

I'm sorry to say, it seems that he is simply not interested in a relationship with you any more. Whether it's because there's someone else, or it's really stress, or whatever, makes no difference. His actions speak a million words here, and they say he's not interested in fixing the problems in your relationship and he is not interested in continuing it.

 

If I were you I'd start being more pro-active, rather than letting him mess you around like this.

[Redhead14]

Recently, the past two weeks have been awfully silent between me and my boyfriend, B, of four months. We have known each other for only six months. In those four months, we moved pretty fast, hung out a lot, did many things sexually. We're both only 18, and I know you might think it's too soon to know that we love each other because of our age, but we do. We told each other around the second month. We experienced everything senior-oriented together: prom, graduation, grad night, etc.

 

The main problem I'd like to share with you guys is that he is distancing himself tremendously from me. Over a week ago he stopped texting me his regular cutesy messages and telling me when he's off work so we can hang out. B works a lot, and in the fall he's going to be going to a college right next to mine to be a nurse. He told me one time that he was overwhelmed about all the hours he's picked up and I tried to tell him he's just got to learn how to balance everything. Then after that, the distancing started. We'd hang out about 4 times a week and now this past week, nothing. He doesn't text. I have to text him. Around Wednesday last week he said he'd let me know when he wants to meet up to talk. It's already Tuesday of this week. I've been making the mistake of texting him stupidly, begging almost. I know, I know. I shouldn't do that. But I'm at a complete loss. I'm blindsided. He said he can probably meet tomorrow because he has a night shift. He also told me I can't help him with his problems. (He apparently has another problem he's not telling me about.) I feel like I've been pushed into the darkness and my mind keeps racing with theories as to why he's being like this.

I miss him. I miss him so much and I honest to god, cannot stop crying over him. I keep replaying all our good times in my head over and over and thinking that he never really loved me or cared for our relationship. I want to be there for him if he's really so stressed out. I want to be his friend at least.

I am so depressed about this all and just need answers and then I can gain closure and/or possibly help him.

 

TLDR; My boyfriend, B, is distancing himself because of work and school and is not communicating with me about his problems. He is also putting off a meet up to talk.

 

He's basically telling you he needs space. When someone lets me know or shows me that they want space, I become NASA. They can contact Houston when they figure out what their problem is and then they may have another problem if they want to come back . . . I won't want them anymore.

 

Stop reaching out. You've done that a number of times apparently. It's one thing to reach out here and there in a supportive way, it's another to do it to try to draw them to you. It doesn't work. The opposite occurs. Focus on you and your needs and continue living your own full life. If he wants back in, he'll have to earn it.