Will my ex-girlfriend come back ?

[Alex786]

Me and my girlfriend have together for the past 1 year and 10 months. But 1 month back she broke up with me saying I always did things opposite to what she asked me to do( she's broken up several times with me before but came back within a few hours, a day or so. The longest was 20 days in which it I had to convince her a lot to get back as she was going through a lot of personal problems and didn't want to be with anyone ). Since then she stopped contacing me. Then just 2 days after the breakup she started calling me and started asking for small small favours, started making lame excuses just to talk to me( she herself agreed that she made excuses just to call and talk to me). This continued for 2 weeks. And In these two weeks she was giving me signs that she's still in love with me and wants to be with me and stuff. But when I asked her about all this she said she didn't want to get back with me in this relationship, to which I got furious and asked her to quit playing games with me and tu never contact me ever again. I even told her that I couldn't be friends with her and that if she wanted to be in my life then it should be as my girlfriend or nothing else. After a few hours she again called me and started speaking normally to me as if nothing ever happen. I asked her the same question again and told her the same thing again about how she had to be my girlfriend if she wanted to be in my life. She then said she wouldn't contact me. After a week or so I called her asking her the real reason of the breakup. She still gave the same reason to me and strarted crying. She also agreed that she loved me cuz of which she kept on calling me in the previous week. Then again after a week I texted her and we started speaking to each other. She keeps texting me the whole day. She even called me multiple times and was flirting with me. Then after two days she called me and told me that we shouldn't talk to each other anymore as we are exes. Since then it's been 10 days and she hasn't called me at all. She hasn't even removed me from any of her social media either. I love my girlfriend a lot. My girlfriend lives right opposite to my apartment . We live on the same floor. And our doors are literally opposite to each other's. Right now both of us are on vacation And we are in our respective home towns. Will my girlfriend ever come back to me ?

Edited July 5, 2016 by Alex786
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[Charlie99909]

You can't make people do anything. The only thing that you have control over is yourself. Do things that you've always wanted to do, but maybe were unable to do because your gf didn't want to or time didn't permit. My ex broke up with me twice. The first time, I did everything I wanted to do. She saw that that I was an interesting person and came back. BUT, do not do this in hopes of bringing her back. Do this because you want to improve yourself and your life. Never stop improving.

Being interesting didn't keep her from breaking up with me a second time.

[Giggles666]

No one can tell you if she will come back. Do you want her back, does she want you back? Do you want this kind of relationship, does she? It sounds like she has no idea what she wants, and if it's been 10 days apart it's best you continue this way until you both know what it is you actually want.

 

Living so close to one another is going to be tough, you're in a tough spot.

[Jammer25]

Oh boy, another on-again, off-again situation...

 

You're both playing a part in this by not sticking to a clean break. Do you like the drama of an on-off relationship? Ask yourself why you love someone who plays games with you like this, and why you let her.

 

Do you see no issues with long-term commitment with her?

[Toodaloo]

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Bored yet? I sure as heck am; and what a waste of time it was typing all that... No contact, stay no contact. Be polite if you see her but do not stop to pass the time of day and do not go knocking on her door. Pretty soon she will just be somebody that you used to know.

Edited July 5, 2016 by Toodaloo
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[Alex786]

will she even be missing me ? I'm afraid that she'll move on too fast :/

[DeeplyMissHer]

Don't get caught up in a on again off again relationship. My ex girlfriend (daughter's mother) and I were together for 9 years. She broke up with me, we tried to reconcile and couldn't. I tried for so long to earn back her love but it didn't work. It made me look and feel week. Let her go.... There will always be someone else out there for you.

[Redhead14]

Me and my girlfriend have together for the past 1 year and 10 months. But 1 month back she broke up with me saying I always did things opposite to what she asked me to do( she's broken up several times with me before but came back within a few hours, a day or so. The longest was 20 days in which it I had to convince her a lot to get back as she was going through a lot of personal problems and didn't want to be with anyone ). Since then she stopped contacing me. Then just 2 days after the breakup she started calling me and started asking for small small favours, started making lame excuses just to talk to me( she herself agreed that she made excuses just to call and talk to me). This continued for 2 weeks. And In these two weeks she was giving me signs that she's still in love with me and wants to be with me and stuff. But when I asked her about all this she said she didn't want to get back with me in this relationship, to which I got furious and asked her to quit playing games with me and tu never contact me ever again. I even told her that I couldn't be friends with her and that if she wanted to be in my life then it should be as my girlfriend or nothing else. After a few hours she again called me and started speaking normally to me as if nothing ever happen. I asked her the same question again and told her the same thing again about how she had to be my girlfriend if she wanted to be in my life. She then said she wouldn't contact me. After a week or so I called her asking her the real reason of the breakup. She still gave the same reason to me and strarted crying. She also agreed that she loved me cuz of which she kept on calling me in the previous week. Then again after a week I texted her and we started speaking to each other. She keeps texting me the whole day. She even called me multiple times and was flirting with me. Then after two days she called me and told me that we shouldn't talk to each other anymore as we are exes. Since then it's been 10 days and she hasn't called me at all. She hasn't even removed me from any of her social media either. I love my girlfriend a lot. My girlfriend lives right opposite to my apartment . We live on the same floor. And our doors are literally opposite to each other's. Right now both of us are on vacation And we are in our respective home towns. Will my girlfriend ever come back to me ?

 

Will my girlfriend ever come back to me ? -- Given the pattern of the relationship up to this point, it's possible but why would you want to continue going through all this any longer??? You're gonna always be walking on eggshells and anxious worrying about when/if she's going to run away again. Get off the merry go round.

 

she broke up with me saying I always did things opposite to what she asked me to do

 

started asking for small small favours

 

She dumps you because you do things opposite of what she asked you to do and then starts asking for favors????? This messed up to a spectacular degree. Find yourself a woman who doesn't treat you like a doormat. Better yet, don't let yourself be a doormat. You deserve better than that.

[Alex786]

@Redhead14 but she still said she loved me that's the reason she made lame excuses to talk to me even after our breakup. But then again she's going through a lot a problems at the the moment. Her parents aren't on good terms which disturbs her a lot. I know for sure that the time we spent with each other wasn't a game. She was in this fir good and also was very serious about our relationship.

[Giggles666]

Stop making excuses for her, this is why she treats you like this. Actions speak louder than words.

[Alex786]

Is there anything I can do to get her back or make her realise?? I love this girl a lot and I don't wanna let this go. And will her staying right opposite have any positive effect on her coming back to me ?

[Heart..PLS STAHP]

Is there anything I can do to get her back or make her realise?? I love this girl a lot and I don't wanna let this go. And will her staying right opposite have any positive effect on her coming back to me ?

 

Mate I am right now it a slightly similar situation (not with the on and off part but wanting that person back so much it hurts). What I begin to realize right now is a simple quote I learned a couple of years back:

 

"If you love something, set it free, for if it does not come back to you, it was never meant to be!"

 

You may interpret the quote wrong that just because she comes back it refers to you but it doesn't. What I mean with that quote is to come back for good yet your situation is different. It does sound she doesn't know what she wants and she feels guilt, loss, grief and anger with you. She obviously has feelings for you but they do not seem that powerful to make her work for this relationship. It sounds like she is just letting her weakness for you to take over but she doesn't really sound like a reliable person to be with.

 

I believe you will be better off without her as you are more committed than her. Remember that sometimes only love as a feeling is not enough. You both may love each other but there are different things in the background that separate you. Some are vivid and you can see them others you have to really look in what your relationship stands for but ultimately it may prove you are not right for each other.

 

I know you want this not to be true and I know you want to bend the laws of emotions and just be together because you love each other but remember there are times that you won't be compatible with your partner. Nobody said life and love are going to be fair. You just have to make the decisions that are fair for your well being. believe me I know your pain right now I am going through that. I still want everything to work out but I know we don't have future together. I still want her back but I believe my childish mind is playing games on me and I am not thinking like an adult who realizes the situation.

 

Lets keep on going mate! We can do this!

[tndawg]

The key to any relationship is Communication. What is the key to yours? Do you think the on again/off again relationship is what you want? Proximity to each other is a constant reminder of each other. I am sure that is hard. Do you have any information available to you about relationships?