NebraskaGuy Posted July 5, 2016 Posted July 5, 2016 I went out with a new girl for the first time 2 months ago. We had a great time and seemed to get along really good. Nothing physical happened on the date. In the meantime each of us got busy for various reasons - I had to go work in another city for a month, she had some family things, was sick for a week, etc. and have not had any time where we were both available at the same time to go on a second date. We've been texting each other a lot the whole time, more than I ever have texted with anyone after just one date. Has this happened to anybody else? We've texted so much that the second date will be like the 6th or 7th date in my thinking because I would normally never know so much about somebody going into date 2. Not sure what I'm really asking other than just to see if this is normal and if anybody has advice as far as what to expect on the next date. Is this normal girl behavior or does she feel like it's more than date 2 as well? I'm 32 and she's 27 if that matters.
Jammer25 Posted July 5, 2016 Posted July 5, 2016 Don't over-think it, and don't put your eggs in one basket just yet. Consider it an advantage that you know so much going into the second date, and plan a good one that she'll like. Did you text about expectations of the relationship? It's pretty early so who knows if she still thinks the same way after a few months, given both of your circumstances.
Author NebraskaGuy Posted July 5, 2016 Author Posted July 5, 2016 Don't over-think it, and don't put your eggs in one basket just yet. Consider it an advantage that you know so much going into the second date, and plan a good one that she'll like. Did you text about expectations of the relationship? It's pretty early so who knows if she still thinks the same way after a few months, given both of your circumstances. We haven't really discussed any "expectations" - not exactly sure what you mean by that though. We definitely know we are interested in each other and know that the current long wait won't be a thing that happens again. We've told each other that we haven't gone out with anybody else in the meantime and I trust her on that. To me it seems like just talking back and forth for 2 months is a pretty good sign. Usually I'm still warming up to a girl after the first date but maybe this one is different going into the next date.
Vado Posted July 5, 2016 Posted July 5, 2016 Don't text to much, part of dating is looking in the eyes, touching each other. If you text a lot, you take the risk of sliding in to the friendzone. Use the phone for setting dates, not chitchat.
Jammer25 Posted July 5, 2016 Posted July 5, 2016 We haven't really discussed any "expectations" - not exactly sure what you mean by that though. We definitely know we are interested in each other and know that the current long wait won't be a thing that happens again. We've told each other that we haven't gone out with anybody else in the meantime and I trust her on that. To me it seems like just talking back and forth for 2 months is a pretty good sign. Usually I'm still warming up to a girl after the first date but maybe this one is different going into the next date. Expectations as in being interested/committed at this stage. Vado does have a point though, going that long without physical intimacy or body language makes it easier to be set into the friendzone. Do you flirt or even "sext"? Or is it mostly like getting to know her, "friend" type stuff?
Author NebraskaGuy Posted July 5, 2016 Author Posted July 5, 2016 Don't text to much, part of dating is looking in the eyes, touching each other. If you text a lot, you take the risk of sliding in to the friendzone. Use the phone for setting dates, not chitchat. Yeah normally I try to follow that rule but this case is a little different. its a little too late for that since we've been texting for 2 months. thats why I'm wondering what the next date will be like.
Redhead14 Posted July 5, 2016 Posted July 5, 2016 I went out with a new girl for the first time 2 months ago. We had a great time and seemed to get along really good. Nothing physical happened on the date. In the meantime each of us got busy for various reasons - I had to go work in another city for a month, she had some family things, was sick for a week, etc. and have not had any time where we were both available at the same time to go on a second date. We've been texting each other a lot the whole time, more than I ever have texted with anyone after just one date. Has this happened to anybody else? We've texted so much that the second date will be like the 6th or 7th date in my thinking because I would normally never know so much about somebody going into date 2. Not sure what I'm really asking other than just to see if this is normal and if anybody has advice as far as what to expect on the next date. Is this normal girl behavior or does she feel like it's more than date 2 as well? I'm 32 and she's 27 if that matters. I'm sorry but texting does not replace or equal in person dates. The second date is the second date. And, we have no idea what she feels. I wouldn't presume the there is more emotional connection by virtue of the amount of texting. It's a good sign that there has been consistent communication during the space between your dates, but it doesn't mean anything in terms of "where" you are in the process. On the second date you shouldn't be expecting anything. Be relaxed and in the moment. Enjoy it and see how things develop. If you want to kiss her and she seems receptive, go ahead and kiss her. Find out what it is she's looking for out of her dating journey to make sure you two are on the same page in terms of dating goals and take it from there.
smackie9 Posted July 5, 2016 Posted July 5, 2016 Sorry but texting each other isn't really "dating" ...There are those who disagree with me but it's true. Dating is actually spending time together irl because that's when you have a true interaction, you feel their vibe, see their body language....so very important. Texting lets your imagination alter your perception of the person. That's why it seems so hot and heavy at first with weeks of texting with each other but when it comes to seeing them the interest drops off like a lead weight. Then you have a bunch of threads asking "Why did they lose interest so fast?? they showed such interest the first two weeks....What happened I'm so confused!" My advice, don't over think, go with the flow, read their body language, and reactions as to when you are close enough to start with the physical affection. Everyone is different that is why it's so important to go by their interaction with you. It's pretty simple. 1
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