LonelyHero Posted July 4, 2016 Posted July 4, 2016 Me 25 , my girl 29 are toghether for 2 months. We have made it through every step of a relationship and it seems that we like each other. Some time before we have sex for the first time she told me that she thinks that we do not comunicate that well. She thinks that she talks and i don't understand her. I am this kind of lovely guy who values the relationship little things, like remembering dates , giving presents etc... But she is not that kind of girl. She believes in energy and the law of attraction. She believes that if she makes positive thoughts everything positive will be in her life. (She thinks she attracted me because of this law) . TBH her ass/legs are a 10. So i like talking with my girl and analyzing my problems. For example i got a new job and i m talking with her about the odds of keeping me after the probe time, or i am talking about an injury i had or that i have to take a pill every morning because of my hypotheroid thing. And she thinks that i bring negative energy to her life. She gave me some books to read that talk about this stuff and i find it interesting but c'mon , it's just a new religion like any other. Long story short she told me again that we don't comunicate well and that she is sure because she knows herself that our relationship will not last. So she asked me indirectly to break up. I like the idea of being with her. Any thought tips?
ExpatInItaly Posted July 4, 2016 Posted July 4, 2016 She's trying to hint that she doesn't want to be with you anymore. She just doesn't have the guts to end it herself.
Author LonelyHero Posted July 4, 2016 Author Posted July 4, 2016 She's trying to hint that she doesn't want to be with you anymore. She just doesn't have the guts to end it herself. Yeah i know , i wrote this just in the last line (?)
CarrieT Posted July 4, 2016 Posted July 4, 2016 So she asked me indirectly to break up. I like the idea of being with her. Any thought tips? She doesn't see a future with you and is too chicken to do the breaking up herself so she is starting to put up roadblocks and challenges for you, waiting for you to either fail, or get tired of the games and move on of your own accord. Frankly, your "TBH her ass/legs are a 10" comment makes me believe you only see her as a physical commodity. The relationship will not last regardless.... 9
ExpatInItaly Posted July 4, 2016 Posted July 4, 2016 Yeah i know , i wrote this just in the last line (?) So, what's your question exactly? I wouldn't want to be with someone who's not into me. Do you? 1
Author LonelyHero Posted July 4, 2016 Author Posted July 4, 2016 She doesn't see a future with you and is too chicken to do the breaking up herself so she is starting to put up roadblocks and challenges for you, waiting for you to either fail, or get tired of the games and move on of your own accord. Frankly, your "TBH her ass/legs are a 10" comment makes me believe you only see her as a physical commodity. The relationship will not last regardless.... Yeah we are just 2 months toghether. If you ask me if i am impressed about her brain or her going bat**** crazy with energies and positive chakra , the answer is no.
Author LonelyHero Posted July 4, 2016 Author Posted July 4, 2016 So, what's your question exactly? I wouldn't want to be with someone who's not into me. Do you? I wanted to see if anyone had a similar experience and what did he/she do.
LookAtThisPOst Posted July 4, 2016 Posted July 4, 2016 She believes in energy and the law of attraction. Those "Law of Attraction" fanatics send me running, those people drank the Kool-Aid. Everyone of those personality types that have claimed to have followed this, were a bit strange. One even kept a "Law of Attraction" plaquard on her wall.
CarrieT Posted July 4, 2016 Posted July 4, 2016 I wanted to see if anyone had a similar experience and what did he/she do. Yeah - I ended the relationship. Why put up with silly drama to delay the inevitable? 1
LookAtThisPOst Posted July 4, 2016 Posted July 4, 2016 People who use "The Law of Attraction" to break up with, pretty much treat it as gospel and as any excuse to get out of something.
Author LonelyHero Posted July 4, 2016 Author Posted July 4, 2016 Those "Law of Attraction" fanatics send me running, those people drank the Kool-Aid. Everyone of those personality types that have claimed to have followed this, were a bit strange. One even kept a "Law of Attraction" plaquard on her wall. Dude I gave her a present for her birthday... I didn't know her that well so i bought something neutral ( at lease so i thought). I bought her a pillow which had a meme . Something like when you are in bad mood bite this edge , when you are feeling sad , scream at this edge and so on. And because there was this word "bad" on the Fkin pillow she put it away face down so it doesn't disturb the SIGNALS (??????)
Author LonelyHero Posted July 4, 2016 Author Posted July 4, 2016 People who use "The Law of Attraction" to break up with, pretty much treat it as gospel and as any excuse to get out of something. No dude, this is her life. She has like 20 books which she reads the hole day , she mediates and stuff. She wants to break up with me because I don't pray the whole day to energy and because i don't follow the rules of the secret.
BlueIris Posted July 4, 2016 Posted July 4, 2016 Me 25 , my girl 29 are toghether for 2 months. We have made it through every step of a relationship and it seems that we like each other. Some time before we have sex for the first time she told me that she thinks that we do not comunicate that well. She thinks that she talks and i don't understand her. I am this kind of lovely guy who values the relationship little things, like remembering dates , giving presents etc... But she is not that kind of girl. She believes in energy and the law of attraction. She believes that if she makes positive thoughts everything positive will be in her life. (She thinks she attracted me because of this law) . TBH her ass/legs are a 10. So i like talking with my girl and analyzing my problems. For example i got a new job and i m talking with her about the odds of keeping me after the probe time, or i am talking about an injury i had or that i have to take a pill every morning because of my hypotheroid thing. And she thinks that i bring negative energy to her life. She gave me some books to read that talk about this stuff and i find it interesting but c'mon , it's just a new religion like any other. Long story short she told me again that we don't comunicate well and that she is sure because she knows herself that our relationship will not last. So she asked me indirectly to break up. I like the idea of being with her. Any thought tips? You’re not compatible. You think she’s ridiculous and she thinks you’re negative. Break up. 3
dobielover Posted July 5, 2016 Posted July 5, 2016 You’re not compatible. You think she’s ridiculous and she thinks you’re negative. Break up. And, sounds like she's right though, yeah?
Tayla Posted July 5, 2016 Posted July 5, 2016 tell her that she really should not be throwing stones when she has a stick in her eye. I do carry a sensatory for negative energy....You know those "awkward" moments where you walk into a room...things go deathly silently...and you just KNOW intuitively that its not a good environment.... Some ppl really can cast some unwarranted nasty airs to them.... Your lady may though be hyper sensitive to that though......and projecting. Sorry folks, as with most living things, energy is involved.. Organisms can be either producers or consumers in terms of energy flow through an ecosystem
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 5, 2016 Posted July 5, 2016 She doesn't see a future with you and is too chicken to do the breaking up herself so she is starting to put up roadblocks and challenges for you, waiting for you to either fail, or get tired of the games and move on of your own accord. Frankly, your "TBH her ass/legs are a 10" comment makes me believe you only see her as a physical commodity. The relationship will not last regardless.... Yup. This. She is completely right in saying that you don't understand her or even care about who she is as a person. I would end it too.
katiegrl Posted July 5, 2016 Posted July 5, 2016 (edited) Yup. This. She is completely right in saying that you don't understand her or even care about who she is as a person. I would end it too. I second this, or third this... Your legs/ass comment was a dead give away ... most women have a sort of sixth sense about this stuff, energy or not... She sensed (by your actions and words) you and she were not on the same level emotionally so she ended it. Good for her. Edited July 5, 2016 by katiegrl 2
Poutrew Posted July 5, 2016 Posted July 5, 2016 Dude, you are not going to last one more week with this gal if you don't get the vibe. Come home one day with some crystals - amethyst, smoky quartz, galena, and a crystal ball. Put some New Age music on such as the 'The Age of Aquarius' and tell her you consulted the shaman of healing over at the mall and he told you how to get in touch with the crystal entities, to ask if she should stay in the relationship with you. You might also want to install a Jacob's ladder in the background, but that much energy might scare her. Maybe use a Tesla coil so she can feel the energy crawling over her body like a thousand ants - some girls find the sensation uncontrollably sensual. Anyway, if you show her you are indeed the Master of Energy and it will do your bidding, she will be yours forever. Only question to ask yourself is, do you really want a brain dead numbnuts with a #10 ass as your eternal companion? If not, show her the door - the one with the crystal energy doorknob and tell her to turn it to reveal her future on the other side of the portal of life... 3
Imajerk17 Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 (edited) Yeah we are just 2 months toghether. If you ask me if i am impressed about her brain or her going bat**** crazy with energies and positive chakra , the answer is no. And you're wondering why she thinks the two of you don't communicate well? ETA: I just realized only about everyone else on this thread said something similar... Edited July 7, 2016 by Imajerk17 1
bubbaganoosh Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 No dude, this is her life. She has like 20 books which she reads the hole day , she mediates and stuff. She wants to break up with me because I don't pray the whole day to energy and because i don't follow the rules of the secret. Seems to me that she has no room to compromise. Her way is the only way so you have a girlfriend with a great ass and legs and a attitude that you either follow her lead or hit the bricks. If it's me nice ass or no nice ass, I let her know that if she can't accept you for who you are then she can go find a nice guy in some cult somewhere and they can meditate until the cows come home. 1
Buddhist Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 (edited) The bottom line is the two of you have very different beliefs in life. Perhaps she is right that the relationship will not last because there is a real incompatibility here. She doesn't enjoy sitting around analysing situations, she enjoys basically thinking happy thoughts instead. Eventually this analysing you do will get on her nerves. As I am certain her enforced positivity will get on yours. Maybe just enjoy the situation for as long as it lasts? Oh, just read it's over. Well then, there's your answer. Hope you enjoyed the ride. Edited July 7, 2016 by Buddhist
Gaeta Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 2 months in is a drop in the ocean, move on. I remember going on a few dates with a man obsessed with positive attraction. We used to debate about it and I'd tell him his theory was flawed I am sure a 5 years old with cancer didn't attracted it. Anyway he started telling me that he would prove to me that it works, that he really wanted us to be together and his positive attraction would make it happen. I said really? watch me now. I left. Never answered any of his communication after that. 1
Redhead14 Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 Me 25 , my girl 29 are toghether for 2 months. We have made it through every step of a relationship and it seems that we like each other. Some time before we have sex for the first time she told me that she thinks that we do not comunicate that well. She thinks that she talks and i don't understand her. I am this kind of lovely guy who values the relationship little things, like remembering dates , giving presents etc... But she is not that kind of girl. She believes in energy and the law of attraction. She believes that if she makes positive thoughts everything positive will be in her life. (She thinks she attracted me because of this law) . TBH her ass/legs are a 10. So i like talking with my girl and analyzing my problems. For example i got a new job and i m talking with her about the odds of keeping me after the probe time, or i am talking about an injury i had or that i have to take a pill every morning because of my hypotheroid thing. And she thinks that i bring negative energy to her life. She gave me some books to read that talk about this stuff and i find it interesting but c'mon , it's just a new religion like any other. Long story short she told me again that we don't comunicate well and that she is sure because she knows herself that our relationship will not last. So she asked me indirectly to break up. I like the idea of being with her. Any thought tips? I like the idea of being with her -- You like the idea of being with a woman but what you want is one that feels like the two of you communicate well, who doesn't feel like you bring negative energy to her life and doesn't try to force her beliefs on you or change you . . .
Toodaloo Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 Being positive is hard work. keep yourself energetic and enthusiastic when life gives you a hit is hard work. Seems to me as though you are bringing negativity into her life. As a fellow positive person I can tell you it is utterly EXHAUSTING to have someone negative around you. It saps every bit of enthusiasm and energy from you. You end up doing and achieving far less than you would before... You end up being miserable. So if you are being negative she will feel really dragged down. Positive people tend to go through life bouncing. Others think that we are just endless balls of energy and that we can achieve anything... Truth is we work damned hard to be that way. We make our choices and our sacrifices just as anyone else. The difference is our attitude in how we go about it and how we deal with it. Continual moaning and griping will just really get on her nerves and make her feel as though she is walking through sludge when she is with you. Then when you are not there she will be up and bouncing again... I think she is right. You two are just incompatible and will only annoy each other.
Gaeta Posted July 7, 2016 Posted July 7, 2016 Being positive is hard work. keep yourself energetic and enthusiastic when life gives you a hit is hard work. Seems to me as though you are bringing negativity into her life. As a fellow positive person I can tell you it is utterly EXHAUSTING to have someone negative around you. It saps every bit of enthusiasm and energy from you. You end up doing and achieving far less than you would before... You end up being miserable. So if you are being negative she will feel really dragged down. Positive people tend to go through life bouncing. Others think that we are just endless balls of energy and that we can achieve anything... Truth is we work damned hard to be that way. We make our choices and our sacrifices just as anyone else. The difference is our attitude in how we go about it and how we deal with it. Continual moaning and griping will just really get on her nerves and make her feel as though she is walking through sludge when she is with you. Then when you are not there she will be up and bouncing again... I think she is right. You two are just incompatible and will only annoy each other. BUT there are the positive people using positive attraction in a realist way. And you have the nut cases who rely only on positive thinking and shuts everything down and by the fact shut people out of their life. This to me is indoctrination ---> For example i got a new job and i m talking with her about the odds of keeping me after the probe time, or i am talking about an injury i had or that i have to take a pill every morning because of my hypotheroid thing. And she thinks that i bring negative energy to her life. She gave me some books to read that talk about this stuff and i find it interesting but c'mon , it's just a new religion like any other. She uses this positive attraction as a religion and is demanding that her boyfriend embarks in her religion. He has a bad day --> she won't hear about it He hurt himself --> she won't hear about it He is worried about his new job --> she won't hear about it. Relationships are about sharing and supporting each other. I would not want to be in a relationship where I am not allowed to share simple facts of life and that is not being negative. 1
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