iReapZz Posted July 4, 2016 Posted July 4, 2016 (edited) Hey everyone. So, one week ago I met a girl and I really liked her from the first time I saw her. At first I thought that I don't even have a chance with her, but I was surprised to see that she was trying to approach me. She was asking me a lot of questions, she kept staring at my eyes and me generally and when I looked at her she would look away. That night she asked me if I want to go to the beach with her and hang out with her too. She also asked for my facebook. Then I was like almost sure that she was interested in me. So, we started talking through facebook almost everyday, we started hanging out together and we had great time. She is giving me a lot of sign that she likes me, laughing at everything I'm saying, trying to touch me, looking at me a lot etc. 2 days ago, I was out with my friends and she called me (I didn't gave her my number, a friend made her call me) and she asked where am I so she can come. She came over with her friends, and she asked for my number (!) Then she told me to go for a walk with them. We found a nice place, we talked a bit (we were 4) and suddenly she told her best friend that she wanted to tell him something. Then after a couple of seconds, he took the other girl that was with us and he told us that they are leaving, so we were left alone. We started walking im the park, trying to find something to discuss about, but we couldn't, we were just laughing and feeling a little akward or something So, she told me to sit somewhere and then she asked me If I have a girlfriend. I told her that I don't and she told me that she doesn't too, but she also doesn't want a relationship right now. Now I'm confused af, she is still doing the things that I mentioned before, but I'm not doing anything because of what she told me. Everyone tells me that she likes me and that I should do something, but I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do now... PS: We are both 17 and I really like her, it's the first time that I feel something like that for a girl and I'm thinking about her all day :/ Sorry if I made any mistakes, English if not my main language Edited July 4, 2016 by iReapZz
angel.eyes Posted July 4, 2016 Posted July 4, 2016 Ask her on a date. Go for ice cream or something. 1
smudge21 Posted July 4, 2016 Posted July 4, 2016 Nice to see a sweet story on here for a change. Yeah, just ask her out and take it slow. She's clearly keen but nervous, so don't push things.. but in the same sense, don't let things go too slow. By that I mean, make it clear you are interested too (don't end up being friendzoned). Good luck and enjoy the journey, rather than focusing on the destination. 1
Author iReapZz Posted July 4, 2016 Author Posted July 4, 2016 Thanks for the tips! I'm gonna ask her out and go see a movie together.
smudge21 Posted July 4, 2016 Posted July 4, 2016 Nice, but remember that a movie means two hours of sitting in silence. For a first date, I'd make it somewhere where silence isn't an option and you can both talk. Just a thought.
Vado Posted July 4, 2016 Posted July 4, 2016 Thanks for the tips! I'm gonna ask her out and go see a movie together. can't make a bigger mistake than going to the movies for a 1st date
BaileyB Posted July 4, 2016 Posted July 4, 2016 And I like a movie for a first date, particularly if you are young and new to dating. Pick her up (if she agrees) because it gives you some time to talk before and after the movie. The movie gives you something to do and takes some of the pressure off conversation. And then, if you are feeling good about things, take her for ice cream or coffee after the movie. Have fun!
Lorenza Posted July 4, 2016 Posted July 4, 2016 A movie is a good choice! They're teenagers and don't have the same social skills on dates as adults. He even said it was difficult for them to find a topic to discuss Op, take her to movies, bowling etc, just to start being comfortable with each other and loosen up Then you can start being more private
Author iReapZz Posted July 4, 2016 Author Posted July 4, 2016 Hey everyone, thanks for the answers. She called me today and asked if I'm out. Yeah, so she came and we had a good time. Not many things, we were walking around the city talking about different things and we found out that we have a lot in common. I guess that's good I can say that we both enjoyed it.
kendahke Posted July 5, 2016 Posted July 5, 2016 (edited) suddenly she told her best friend that she wanted to tell him something. Then after a couple of seconds, he took the other girl that was with us and he told us that they are leaving, so we were left alone. We started walking im the park, trying to find something to discuss about, but we couldn't, we were just laughing and feeling a little awkward or something. So, she told me to sit somewhere and then she asked me If I have a girlfriend. I told her that I don't and she told me that she doesn't too, but she also doesn't want a relationship right now. You are on notice that either 1. she's not interested in being your girlfriend. or 2. she is a master game player and manipulator and if you choose to ignore the red flashing neon sign telling you to "run fast, run away", she's going to drag you to the ends of the earth and back. Anyone who does what she did that you wrote above is an attention seeking trouble maker. Leave her alone and block her number. She's talking trash and you don't have time. Let her screw up some other guy's head. Edited July 5, 2016 by kendahke
katiegrl Posted July 5, 2016 Posted July 5, 2016 (edited) You are on notice that either 1. she's not interested in being your girlfriend. or 2. she is a master game player and manipulator and if you choose to ignore the red flashing neon sign telling you to "run fast, run away", she's going to drag you to the ends of the earth and back. Anyone who does what she did that you wrote above is an attention seeking trouble maker. Leave her alone and block her number. She's talking trash and you don't have time. Let her screw up some other guy's head. kendahke, I usually agree with you but gotta disagree this time. A game player, master manipulator? Talking trash? Attention seeking trouble maker? She is 17! Everything she is doing (her actions) point to she digs him. So she told him she is not looking for a relationship, again she is 17, they are in high school, too young to be entering into a "relationship" anyway... later perhaps but not now. Let them continue hanging out, going to movies, walks, getting ice cream, the beach...having fun like high school kids do... It all sounds good to me, from everything he has posted, what am I missing? You are one of my fav posters and I really respect your opinion..... is this a gut feeling you have? Cause I am not seeing it. If I am missing something, please do tell! Edited July 5, 2016 by katiegrl
BaileyB Posted July 5, 2016 Posted July 5, 2016 I agree with Katie. I think she is young and it's totally ok for her to want to hang out but not think she wants to be in a "relationship." Maybe that will change with time as you spend time together and have fun... I would would keep going to movies, bowling, walks, ice cream, etc... Have fun with her but don't worry about being too serious too fast... You are so young! 1
katiegrl Posted July 5, 2016 Posted July 5, 2016 (edited) OP, reading your post again, just want to say (and I know you are a guy so maybe won't appreciate it).... but this flirtation you've got going with this girl (so far) is just so damn adorable! Ah.... to be 17 again. And I think your English is great! You say you have never felt it before..... what it is you are feeling is chemistry, and my guess is she feels it too, that is why you were both awkward in the park. You were both nervous, tongue-tied, tense, all due to chemistry, that spark everyone talks about. It's special ... Try not to over-think, just go with it, do not over-analyze it... continue spending time doing fun things and enjoy!!!! Edited July 5, 2016 by katiegrl
Author iReapZz Posted July 5, 2016 Author Posted July 5, 2016 (edited) Hey guys... So, [] I feel like the most stupid person out there. It's just that girl... I'm almost sure she wants me, and I want her too. We are going out almost everyday... We were left alone 2 times.. and I did nothing.. Today she called me and asked If i'm gonna join her and her friends.. I went, her friends left after 2-3 minutes and we were left alone.. She said we should sit somewhere without many people.. we did.. suddenly she laid on me and I was holding her. I was SURE she was waiting for it. She was. And I did nothing because I was too scared to do it. I'm such a coward. I feel TERRIBLE about it.. I feel like I disappointed her.. She said that we will go out tomorrow again. I just need the motivation and the will power to do it. I'm new to relationships, I guess that's why it is so hard to me.. some tips? Edited July 5, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator language ~6
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