Author Hurt2Much Posted July 4, 2016 Author Posted July 4, 2016 Thank you everyone, but in particular "MovingOnIsHard". I know everyone is right about moving on and looking out for myself. But "MovingOnIsHard" is the first person to state that what I am doing / feeling is a natural reaction. It is nice to know that I am not acting out of the ordinary. I need to think of me now I know I do. But financially my plans have to change a lot now. I was already to buy a house, with or without him and buy a new car. Now I have to decide which is more important. I had found a house I wanted but most likely can't afford that now. 2
stillafool Posted July 4, 2016 Posted July 4, 2016 You cannot force him to give you an explanatiion as to why he can't take it anymore and moved. He probably feels that he has given you the explanation 3 times by confessing he isn't in love with you and that's why he blocked you. He doesn't want to continue saying the same thing over and over when you won't believe him. It is a waste of his breath. You must reach your own closure, he can't give that to you. Talk to the landlord and see if you can have everything changed over in your name given your circumstances, change the locks. move on and heal. 1
Giggles666 Posted July 4, 2016 Posted July 4, 2016 He's taking advantage of you. If you sound like this around him he knows he can play these games. Get his stuff out, live with the fact that closure is a myth and realize you do not want this type of relationship. He sounds like a jerk to be honest, and this not being in his character excuse is you clinging to some version of him that does not exist. It's hard but listen to all these folks and stop making excuses exceptions for him. Best of luck and sorry you are hurting. Save yourself, tell him to get lost. I would be willing to bet if you did that he might lose this control he has over you and realize you're to be respected and also a fellow human being with desires and her own problems. You have feelings, act on them. 3
Satu Posted July 4, 2016 Posted July 4, 2016 You'll be much better off living on your own, than in this see-saw relationship. You'll need to go through some feelings, but you'll be better off in the long term. 4
angel.eyes Posted July 4, 2016 Posted July 4, 2016 My advice would be to move out and find another place to rent. You need a brand new start. The last thing you need as you're trying to recover are constant reminders every time you approach the front door you both used that your six-year relationship is over. Lots of things about your current place are going to remind you of him, even if you rearrange the furniture and repaint. Give yourself a clean slate. Also don't buy now, even if it turns out you can afford to do so. You're in no emotional state to be making major life decisions at the moment. 1
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