I'm at the point where I've now determined there is only so much you can do except

[Teknoe]

1. Be smart. Not just IQ but equally as important, EQ

2. Be considerate

3. Don't be a doormat. You can be #2 without being a complete doormat

4. Stay present

5. Listen

6. Be yourself

 

And then let the chips fall where they may. I'm currently in the early dating stages with someone, and I'm taking her to go see fireworks tomorrow night. This was after she initiated a text Saturday asking if I had any plans. I asked for her plans and she said nothing yet. So I figured it was her subtle way of saying "Hey, we're both free... wanna get together?" So I asked her out and she accepted. Easy. Boy, it's so much easier when you're working with someone who isn't lukewarm on you, isn't it?

 

But to get back to the point of this topic, I've been playing random relationship videos on YT in the background today. There is so much conflicting reports out there that I noticed at some point it became downright comical. Examples:

 

1. It's good to be clear. Have the talk when the time is right

vs.

1a. It's never good to have the talk. Nothing stops the momentum like having the talk. If it works out it will progress naturally and you'll never need to have the talk

 

2. Show her you're interested

vs.

2a. Be very casual and low investment. Act like you're not interested

 

etc. You get the idea.

 

I'm at the point now where I'm saying to heck with all these videos, these relationship gurus that are making thousands of dollars off average joes looking for some secret formula. When you're ready, and when she's ready (for a relationship with one another), it will happen. I guess it's simple to break it down to just that but so often we over complicate things. All I know is she and I are continuing to meet up for these little dates, and we're enjoying ourselves. What will come shall come. No need to worry about when to make a move or any of that. As long as she's interested and I am, then things should progress naturally. Looking back on my previous relationships, that's how it worked out. A series of forward momentum that propelled me to the front of her line when she could have any other guy she wants. It felt magical because I was the chosen one, but there is no set formula. Things just clicked and both of us were at the right place at the right time.

Edited July 4, 2016 by Teknoe

[Dis]

Hey Tek...not sure if you you go it....but I pm'd you back

 

I think you're thinking clearly here

 

Theres no right or wrong way to date

 

Just be yourself hun

 

Its working for you so far with this one!!!

[Teknoe]

Hey Tek...not sure if you you go it....but I pm'd you back

 

I think you're thinking clearly here

 

Theres no right or wrong way to date

 

Just be yourself hun

 

Its working for you so far with this one!!!

 

It is

 

And yes, I got your PM. Just hit you back, haha.

 

Being myself tomorrow night!