Mark1 Posted July 3, 2016 Posted July 3, 2016 I recently started working at a restaurant while I'm in school and one of the waitresses is the owners daughter. We quickly got along and worked well together. She has always said stuff like, "my parents LOVE you, they always talk about you at home. Its almost like they want us to get married." Recently she's been texting me/snapchatting me a lot, just how out day is going and other fun/dumb stuff. She's also been texting me like "JW, I'm never gonna get married, no guys are ever interested in me etc etc." What's her angle or goal here? The other day we went out after work for drinks and I offered to buy her one, and she said "no thanks, I have money," almost like she thought I was offering bc I thought she didn't have money. I'm not sure what to make of this. My gut says she sees me just as a friend, but what do you all think?
ExpatInItaly Posted July 4, 2016 Posted July 4, 2016 She's fishing. She wants you to say something along the lines of "Of course you'll get married, you're gorgeous and talented and any guy would be lucky to have you!"-blah blah blah. If you like her, why not ask her for dinner? 2
Toodaloo Posted July 4, 2016 Posted July 4, 2016 Reassurance. Its not a great way to flirt but she is fishing...
Author Mark1 Posted July 4, 2016 Author Posted July 4, 2016 I just remembered another thing she said: I was talking to some pretty women at the bar while the night was winding down, and after I was done talking to them she came up to me and smiled and said, "so do you think they are attractive?" Weird. Like why would she care if I found them attractive.
angel.eyes Posted July 4, 2016 Posted July 4, 2016 She's the owner's daughter. If you start fooling around with her, you're playing with fire if you need your job.
kendahke Posted July 4, 2016 Posted July 4, 2016 My gut says she sees me just as a friend, but what do you all think? sounds about right. Keep the boyfriend vibe to yourself with her.
wesmel06 Posted July 4, 2016 Posted July 4, 2016 (edited) Man up. If you like this girl ask her out, be clear in what your intentions are, and don't settle for less than what you want. If you don't make a move she'll lose interest eventually anyway and find another guy. Overthinking is a serious problem with most people. I'm not saying that thinking is a bad thing but when all you do is think your not taking action. Take action and try to make something happen. Life is too short not to take chances. If she likes you then great. If not then at least you know lol. Edited July 4, 2016 by wesmel06
TheBathWater Posted July 4, 2016 Posted July 4, 2016 I recently started working at a restaurant while I'm in school and one of the waitresses is the owners daughter. We quickly got along and worked well together. She has always said stuff like, "my parents LOVE you, they always talk about you at home. Its almost like they want us to get married." Recently she's been texting me/snapchatting me a lot, just how out day is going and other fun/dumb stuff. She's also been texting me like "JW, I'm never gonna get married, no guys are ever interested in me etc etc." What's her angle or goal here? The other day we went out after work for drinks and I offered to buy her one, and she said "no thanks, I have money," almost like she thought I was offering bc I thought she didn't have money. I'm not sure what to make of this. My gut says she sees me just as a friend, but what do you all think? You can't read her mind, and now you expect us to? I'm hesitant to give advice. She may like you and be hinting for you to ask her out. She may also just be a friend. She may also be sending you mixed signals because some women like to play games and get off on making guys want them (read: low self-esteem). The only way to get a sure answer is to make a move. I once heard a good rule of thumb: if she's interested, make a move; if she's not interested, make a move on someone else; if she seems ambivalent, make a move and it will force her to choose which side she's on.
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