Rimbaud59 Posted July 3, 2016 Posted July 3, 2016 (edited) Broke up with my girlfriend on the train (she dumped me) after five months together. I moved seats afterwards. Twice she came over to find me and offered me money and food. I declined and asked her to leave me alone. She also asked me to send her pictures of us together. I declined. When the train pulled up at the station. We got off at different carriages. I saw her looking for me. I ignored her. She waited at the barriers for me, but I maneouvered last them without her sporting me. This morning she sent me a text: You left your towel and a can of deodorant at my place. I waited for you at the barriers to speak to you but I didn't see you. I hope you got back ok? I've ignored it and plan to do so unless she makes a huge effort to rekindle and not just breadcrumbs. Though I'm thinking maybe if someone dumps you once you should never get back with them. I was wondering if it is just guillt or something more significant. This break up blindsided me as two weeks before she told me the relationship was going really well and hinted that she loves me by asking 'do you love me?' 'Do you love me?' A month ago she told me she loved me while drunk. I asked her but she said it was the alcohol talking, and not her true feelings. She does remember that I said it back though. I also said the alcohol was talking, but it was my true feeling. Of course she doesn't love me because she's dumped me. .But What should I make of all this? Is such a mood swing between 'this is great' and being dumped a 'red flag?' anyway? Thanks. Edited July 3, 2016 by Rimbaud59
Poutrew Posted July 3, 2016 Posted July 3, 2016 You're doing everything right. Continue to ignore her. Let the her keep the deodorant for the next guy she bangs. Carry on, sir. 1
Tayla Posted July 3, 2016 Posted July 3, 2016 I would at minimum text her that you are safely at your destination. Followed by a "please refrain from further contact."Ask her to honor it as you are honoring her decision to breakup. Follow the rules for Nc. Sorry that this happened... I'm sure you are going thru the beginning phase of questioning things.
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