Isittolatenow Posted July 3, 2016 Posted July 3, 2016 My ex text me numerous times last week, I managed to refrain from replying, but today I did. He is a professional sports player. My nephew is massively into the team my ex plays for. Last week he text me Telling me he's in town with his team, can we catch up etc. I completely ignored those messages. He's text this morning saying that he's got 2 tickets for me & my nephew to go to the sold out game. He's done it hundreds of times before. my brother is pretty shy of money at the moment, and I know my nephew would love to go. Everyone else is at work, so it would be me taking him. Long story short, he asked me to meet him later to pick up the tickets. I said I wouldn't be staying, but if he left them on the hotel front desk I would drop by to pick them up. I thought that was fair enough, now I'm hanging about on the off chance that he texts and I know what time to go, don't want to text him (I have my pride!!) but I know my nephew would be so excited to get these tickets. I now feel like an idiot because once again I'm waiting on him. I hate that I replied to him, but most of all I hate I'm on the end if his line AGAIN. I spent the last 6 months of our relationship like this. He'd text then not reply for 6/8 hours. Someone virtually slap me please!!
Trinity7 Posted July 3, 2016 Posted July 3, 2016 It's ok, we all have setbacks and false starts.. Just restart no contact and stick to it this time if you can. If your nephew already knows about the tickets, I guess go ahead and take him, but I wouldn't accept any more handouts from your ex in the future.. It'll just keep you tied to him. You deserve better!! 1
Author Isittolatenow Posted July 3, 2016 Author Posted July 3, 2016 Thank youTrinity7. I only replied to him because my brother has been desperately trying to get tickets for my nephew. I just hate I'm waiting for my phone to go off incase it's him. I just feel stupid that even after months of the BU, I'm still hanging about for him! I'd done almost 3 weeks of NC too
Hoosfoos Posted July 3, 2016 Posted July 3, 2016 If this bothers you so much then he should be blocked on your phone.
Author Isittolatenow Posted July 3, 2016 Author Posted July 3, 2016 If this bothers you so much then he should be blocked on your phone. We had an apartment together, I can't block him until we've cleared it all
Trinity7 Posted July 3, 2016 Posted July 3, 2016 Thank youTrinity7. I only replied to him because my brother has been desperately trying to get tickets for my nephew. I just hate I'm waiting for my phone to go off incase it's him. I just feel stupid that even after months of the BU, I'm still hanging about for him! I'd done almost 3 weeks of NC too Ugh, I know, it's an awful feeling I'm sure it brings back tough memories and emotions being in this position again. I hope it all goes smoothly and you can go back to NC once it's over. You were strong enough to do almost 3 weeks before, you'll get there again!!
Author Isittolatenow Posted July 4, 2016 Author Posted July 4, 2016 He's text me and asked to meet up later, we still have bits to sort with the apartment etc. But now, YET AGAIN, I'm hanging about waiting for him to "fit me in", I haven't heard from him since lunchtime (I'm in the UK & it's 16.40) I hate that I'm back here, I was doing ok. Not great, but I'd learnt to pretend to be me again. Just feel like I'm reopening every wound I'd started to close ....
Zahara Posted July 4, 2016 Posted July 4, 2016 He's text me and asked to meet up later, we still have bits to sort with the apartment etc. But now, YET AGAIN, I'm hanging about waiting for him to "fit me in", I haven't heard from him since lunchtime (I'm in the UK & it's 16.40) I hate that I'm back here, I was doing ok. Not great, but I'd learnt to pretend to be me again. Just feel like I'm reopening every wound I'd started to close .... Personally, I think you're looking for every excuse to stay in touch with him. You ended in May -- how long does it take to get an apartment sorted, whatever that means. Tickets are not worth dragging yourself into anxiety and stress over. Not at the expense of your emotional and mental wellbeing. I think you already knew you'd be digging into wounds the moment you chose to open/accept comunication.
VeveCakes Posted July 4, 2016 Posted July 4, 2016 Waiting 6 hrs for a text... big deal. Where's the law that people have to reply right away? Seems a bit much to get so upset over waiting around. Carry about your day and when you get a text you get a text. If you need info now then hey, CALL HIM. It's this amazing function your phone has which connects you to the person you need right away. "Hey when and where will the tickets be?" One and done.
Author Isittolatenow Posted July 4, 2016 Author Posted July 4, 2016 Waiting 6 hrs for a text... big deal. Where's the law that people have to reply right away? Seems a bit much to get so upset over waiting around. Carry about your day and when you get a text you get a text. If you need info now then hey, CALL HIM. It's this amazing function your phone has which connects you to the person you need right away. "Hey when and where will the tickets be?" One and done. He NEVER EVER answers his phone, ever. They've been collected and it's sorted.
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