Author joseb Posted July 6, 2016 Author Posted July 6, 2016 Or how about the book Sex at Dawn? Funny you mention that, a girl I met recently recommended that book, I've just started reading it 1
TheBathWater Posted July 6, 2016 Posted July 6, 2016 (edited) I think this is a practice in attempting to convince yourself that you are "not looking" when deep down, you are. I think some people are putting an effort to appear that they are "not looking", so it seems forced. I know of some women that can honestly say they ARE looking and are completely honest about it. These women are confused by the types one of the posters mentions as, "not looking, but open to the possibility, but dont' have expectations" They scratch their heads at them and give puzzled looks and judge him/her as a "player" pretty much. Just saying, prepare to be judged as a player or commitment phobe if you're trying to not appear as if you're not looking or wavering between something casual and something serious, Tuna in the Brine. Usually if they aren't on the same page as you, they probably point at you, Tuna and yell "Playa!!" I don't mean anything buy it, but I think I recalled I had a time in my life where I wasn't really "looking"...and when a woman asked me "What was looking for" and I said, "Well, I'm just playing it by ear, not looking for anything serious at the moment, but if something happens, then great." I even got that strange look from women and labeled as a player. lol You say all of this as if it's a bad thing... if women talk about you (especially to other women) that's a very good thing. Rarely have I met a woman who is not intrigued by the captain of the football team, the CEO, or the man who is known for flirting with all the girls. "If he likes all of them, why doesn't he like me?" Guys with a reputation don't lose appeal if they make women feel beautiful or give them a memorable experience in some way. Let em' talk. Let your reputation grow. And remember, the difference between guys like me and players is that players are dishonest. Players will lead women on and hide their intentions just to get some poon. I'm still not convinced you understand my perspective, so I'm dropping it now. Edited July 6, 2016 by TunaInTheBrine
AMJ Posted July 6, 2016 Posted July 6, 2016 TIB, I hope you don't really think that all women need is to feel beautiful to be happy. Not to mention that a man can only make us feel beautiful temporarily. Sure, it feels great to be desired and admired, but women's needs are much more complex than that, at least in the long run. And using a woman's insecurity to get her in the sack is generally a creepy and pathetic way to get sex...but I hope that's not what you're suggesting by saying that "women just need to feel beautiful to be satisfied".
Jabron1 Posted July 6, 2016 Posted July 6, 2016 And remember, the difference between guys like me and players is that players are dishonest. Players will lead women on and hide their intentions just to get some poon. Is that what a "player" is? I think the term "player" is a load of old b*llocks. It just gets thrown around when a man won't do what a woman wants. A liar is a liar - simple as that. And any man that has to cheat is a guy that is operating within a woman's frame. In other words, he isn't much of a player. Or, he is losing the 'game'. 1
LookAtThisPOst Posted July 6, 2016 Posted July 6, 2016 (edited) Rarely have I met a woman who is not intrigued by the captain of the football team, the CEO, or the man who is known for flirting with all the girls. Then you must be living under a rock. There's are women, believe or not, that are not intrigued. I've met plenty that are un-intrigued actually. And using a woman's insecurity to get her in the sack is generally a creepy and pathetic way to get sex...but I hope that's not what you're suggesting by saying that "women just need to feel beautiful to be satisfied". I know what you mean, it's a rather shallow viewpoint and temporary. then years later acts more interested in the football game on tv. You're quite presumptive on these generalities. That's the way the cookie crumbles sometimes. *shrug* Sure there can be lulls in a relationships, it's a reality and you're providing something that's fleeting. Edited July 6, 2016 by LookAtThisPOst
mizunomead Posted July 6, 2016 Posted July 6, 2016 What I told women when the question came up. I am looking for more then a ons. Less then marriage. The majority of women I met or have chatted with were either looking for a fwb or some some version of dating exclusively with the possibility of it becoming more somewhere down the road but not worrying about that being the primary goal. Or I got alot of not just a hookup, but nothing too serious. Either way, I interpreted it all to mean that the women were open to having a real serious relationship if that's what developed. But in the short term was looking for someone to go out with, have fun dates with, and be able to have exclusive enjoyable sexual relations with. Most of the women were in there 30s. Most were a mother, most were divorced.
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