giganto Posted July 3, 2016 Posted July 3, 2016 My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for 2.5 years. She's 12 years younger than me. Currently I am in her country and looking for a job. It's quite difficult to find a job here because I don't speak the language well. It's a decision time for me to leave for a better career in my homeland or stay here without job. The timezone between my country and hers are 7 hours. I don't want to leave her. She doesn't have any friends here. She just does her Uni work and stay at home most of the time. No friends outside. She didn't like her previous friends because they talk bad words about her and me. She didn't even attend family events because I wasn't allowed to be there. I am Asian and she's a European. I don't want to leave her but my head say I need to find luck somewhere else. The thought of me leaving her makes my head spinning. I don't know if she can find another love. To me she's attractive but maybe in her society, she's not so attractive. I had trouble of finding love too previously in my homeland, so we are really made for each other when we are together. We know how hard to find love and companion. Whatever option I take, there's always negativity. Get paid well but without love or stay but with many uncertainties. I need to go into work force asap due to my age (mid 30s)
elaine567 Posted July 3, 2016 Posted July 3, 2016 YOU cannot afford to ruin your entire career over the love of a woman in her early twenties. Women in their early twenties are notorious for changing their minds and you are not accepted by her family either so she will most likely eventually break up with you. Families are important. YOU will be left dumped in a foreign country without a job and heart broken too. No, I suggest you go wherever you can get a good career. In your thirties you need to set yourself up for life and you cannot do that if you cannot even get a job.
Author giganto Posted July 3, 2016 Author Posted July 3, 2016 If she has friends and more sociable, I think I would not hesitate. I am always encouraged her to meet her friends and families without me because it's important for her to be in good terms with them. But she said she did not want to lie to another family members and prefer not going at all. She cried when she could not bring me along to her family. I am very guilty if I could not stay here.
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