Kel_star Posted July 3, 2016 Posted July 3, 2016 I just got dumped after committing a year to someone and throughout the relationship I would cry at the possibility of this relationship ending like my last one, because I loved this person so much and I always felt it was too good to last. The possibility of being heart broken again scared me because I didn't think I would be able to stand it. I never let my significant other know I cried about such things, but nature ran its course and I got dumped for nothing I apparently did. I am sad and logically feel like I should be in pieces, but I'm not? It's been a week and I'm already able to listen to all of the songs we would listen to together and I won't have an urge to cry, I can think about all our memories and not feel so deeply saddened. During my first heart break I was a crying wreck for a few months. Is it possible I'll stay this optimistic? Has this happen to anyone? I'm afraid that in some unconscious way I'm numb, but honestly I'm trying to make myself feel the heartbreak and I just don't? I'd still wish this person would want me back so bad, but Im feeling pretty optimistic about giving love another shot. I'm just scared that an emotional storm is brewing inside of me and I don't even know it.
Buddhist Posted July 3, 2016 Posted July 3, 2016 I always felt really disconnected from my breakups early on. It would sometimes take 6 months before the grief hit me. Since this has been weeks I'd err on the side of saying it's the slight pause of denial before acceptance seeps in. Often we don't know this is what we are doing, but buried deep in there is the subconscious idea that this person isn't really leaving us. They'll be back. It's usually later when it becomes evident that they are not returning that yeah, the grief hits. Just roll with it. You can't make yourself feel the sadness if you are not, nor accept that it's gone if you don't. It's a natural process that does its own thing really. We are just along for the ride.
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