juniorrocha Posted July 2, 2016 Posted July 2, 2016 (edited) Alright, so my ex and I broke up about a month and a half ago. We had a flashback a month after the break up, only to realize we're better off without each other. Actually, she had the courage to end things, as I was still hoping it would work out even though deep inside I knew it wouldn't. And now I can see it was for the best. The break up was easy going, we cried, but we said we'd be there for each other, there was no argument, no hate, no begging, just accepting and moving on. My life keeps going normal: I'm eating very well (in fact better than ever), sleeping well, seeing other girls when I feel like it, going out, working out and keeping up with my responsabilities. We aren't doing NC, but we're not contacting each other either. In fact, she likes every picture I post on Instagram. It doesn't bother me at all; to be honest, I like that we still have that little connection even though we aren't together anymore. It does not make me think she still wants me or anything like that, but it does make me think she wants to stay in touch, what is also my desire. I wanted to send her a file she'd been looking for since forever and I found it in my pc; she mentioned it during our flashback, not sure she found it already. No talks about the relationship or whatever. I'd like to talk to her every once in a while, too. Good or a bad idea? Edited July 2, 2016 by juniorrocha
Havana Posted July 2, 2016 Posted July 2, 2016 I personally don't see any problem to keep contact with your ex... You both seem to be OK with the breakup and you understand you can't be with each other... My boyfriend dumped me two days ago and all I want is him to be back... In my case of course it would be not healthy to keep contact because I am full of hope for getting back together... A question to ask; are you OK with the fact that she could have someone else in her life? What about you having someone in your life, would it be OK for both? For me, that point is exactly where you can really state that you are over with your ex; when actually you are fine, not jaleous or bitter if she meet someone else.
Author juniorrocha Posted July 2, 2016 Author Posted July 2, 2016 A question to ask; are you OK with the fact that she could have someone else in her life? What about you having someone in your life, would it be OK for both? For me, that point is exactly where you can really state that you are over with your ex; when actually you are fine, not jaleous or bitter if she meet someone else. Considering the last time we spoke, which was like 10 days ago, she had mentioned a guy she kissed in a party and another 2 who she was talking to, I suppose she's out there again. It didn't bother me when she told me, and it doesn't now either, honestly. She's single, she's free. So am I. I don't really want to see her with someone else now though, nor talk about it. But I would love to stay in touch. Just unsure whether it will make me feel better or worse.
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